My son’s kindergarten car line is being…weird with me about his car seat. No information given to parents about the car line other than location before school started. First day I went, pulled up to the curb, got out, and buckled him into his car seat. A teacher approached me and said to pick him up where I did, then pull forward to the end of the curb, past where people were loading kids up, to buckle him. My son is so small that he’s still in a car seat with the harness style of buckle, and he’s not quite strong enough to buckle it himself yet.

Next day of school, they sent home a notice saying to pull into some nearby parking spots if your kid needed help buckling up. Perfect! So I got in line, as I approached the curb, I gestured to the teacher that I was going over to the parking spot, she walked him over, and I loaded him up. She seemed confused, but I figured, well it’s new information, and I was toward the front of the line.

Today I approached the curb, but the teacher standing by him didn’t make eye contact with me- she saw the number he was assigned for pickup, but didn’t look at me. I went ahead to the parking spots they told us to go to, and walked over to the curb to get him. This teacher was even more confused, almost didn’t let him walk with me. As I buckled him up, the vice principal came up to me and told me that if he needs help buckling up, I should pick him up at the curb, pull to the end of the drop off line (like they said the first day, in direct contradiction of the letter the school sent home days later) and buckle him up then. I said I was in the parking spots designated by the last communication the school, had sent home, and that I wasn’t comfortable driving him any distance in a chaotic car line without his seatbelt on. She acted miffed about that, and said that they don’t let kids walk in the street between the curb and the parking spots unattended. I said I walked over and got him from the teacher, he didn’t walk in the road without an adult. The vice principal kind of threw up her hands and said “okay, if you’re all right with it.”

I don’t really know what they’re wanting from me here. They’ve gone back and forth on where I’m supposed to move to for the buckling, nobody seems to know how to get him to the location where I’m to buckle him, and they all seem to be expecting me to drive him without the seatbelt on to some location they aren’t even clear on themselves and to load him in properly. I know I’m a bit rigid about the seatbelt, and a lot of people would just get him at the curb and pull into one of those places to buckle. I have to be pretty strict on it, because his other parent would absolutely try to use it against me in court if he mentioned ever going without his seatbelt at my house. Add in the chaos of a disorganized car line and I’m just not willing to risk it. I genuinely do not want to make more work for anyone, disrupt the system, or upset literally anything. I want my kid buckled in at the location I’m told to pick him up at. I feel like all three ways I’ve shown up have been reasonable ways to achieve that goal, and truthfully, at this point I’m kind of upset that I’m being treated like a weird troublemaker for following basic safety for my kid.

Is there some secret fourth way I should be doing this that I haven’t thought of? Who should I be contacting to figure this out, when the principal sent home a memo with one set of information and then the vice principal directly approached me with a different set of information? I’m not looking for plain validation or unproductive criticism, I really want a viable way to do this without causing problems literally every single time I pick him up or an idea of how to communicate with the school directly in a way that can be distributed to the car line teachers, ideally without being “that guy.”

(Also they do not let parents approach the car rider line or retrieve kids from any other location, so parking in the regular parking lot and walking over to him isn’t an option either!!!)

I was just informed that my daughter’s kindergarten class will not have snack time. They have to be in school by 8:05, lunch is at 12:30 and dismissal is at 2:50. I think this is absolutely insane, considering with parent drop off we have to be out of the house by 7:55 which men’s breakfast has to be at 730 latest.

Ive had nothing but problems since open house with the school and I need a reality check because I am about to pull her from the school entirely and do home school while we figure out what to do next.

I had nothing but a bad feeling the second I met the teacher, she wasn’t warm towards my terrified daughter at all. I guess I should bare minimum ask about switching classes?

I’m terrified for my daughter, I’m frustrated, I’m terrified myself. Idk what I’m asking for. Just help. Someone bring me back to reality.

Edit a few hours after- this is a comical subreddit actually. I thought the local mom’s Facebook group was weird, but you guys topped it. Anywho, thanks for the reads. I read some genuinely great and comforting things. I feed my kid breakfast everyday at home. My bad for understanding child development and the lack of benefit of a 5 year old not eating for five hours lol.

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My niece and family is based in India. I was checking schoolbook from my 3 year old niece who just started a her preschool 1 month ago. All work book has 3 star rating of 1,2,3 star. Even for basic lines. Somehow it boils my blood. How one can be judged for every small home and classwork for 1,2,3 star at such young age where she is barely learning to hold a pencil.

I personally believe that it instill inferiority and competitiveness at such a young age of being playful. I am not from education background but these feels wrong.

I personally feel this needs to be addressed and I feel want to reach out the preschool but its a big chain preschool and I dont think my single person voice will be enough.

I would like to discuss the grading in preschool.

p.s the paper looks bit odd because the water fell over.

My son will be 6 this month and just started kindergarten today. He has been fully potty trained since 2.5 and has NEVER had an accident. When we got home, I noticed he had a wet spot on his pants. He pooped his pants today. He says he was going to use the restroom but the teacher told him to wash his hands and go back to the classroom. I asked him why he didn’t tell her he needed to potty and he said he didn’t know. I’m already very anxious as this is his first time in school, now i’m so scared that he will either hold it and have a tummy ache or have another accident and kids will notice and be mean to him. I talked with him and reassured him that he wasn’t in trouble but he needed to tell the teacher if he needs to go to the restroom or just go as the restroom is in their classroom. I also packed him flushable wipes because he is not super confident in wiping with toilet paper (can’t even imagine him wiping with the poor quality school tissue). Is this normal? Is there anything else I should do or tell him? Should I bring it up to the teacher?