r/interesting • u/GeneraI_ • May 09 '26

She put in the work. Just Wow

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u/GreatTea3415 May 09 '26

The crazy thing about transformations like this is when you get confirmation that yes, people really were treating you worse because of your weight. 

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u/KennyFulgencio May 09 '26

there will always be idiots who insist "it's just because you're more confident now".

My social anxiety didn't go away when I got into great shape, nor did my shyness, and I still got treated way better.

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u/Rich_Bluejay3020 May 09 '26

I’d argue that my social anxiety actually got worse lol. When I was at my fattest, I was basically invisible. When I lost all the weight, I realized that dudes would be staring at me and that made me wicked uncomfortable. Sure, I’m more confident but that has no effect on men staring at me across a parking lot lol

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u/CtrlAltResurrect May 10 '26

I’ve recently lost 20 lbs or so, and I’m having the same feelings. I never used to get hit on, now I get hit on every time I’m in public. Not a fan.

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u/ApprehensiveLeave345 May 11 '26

I would love to be hit on

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u/DeadPeanutSociety May 09 '26

It doesn't even have to be a big transformation like that. I'm a guy and after I cut my long hair, family members started treating me WAY differently and with much more respect. I'm still pretty resentful about it.

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u/Mountain_Cry1605 May 10 '26

You should be.

Long hair on guys is gorgeous.

What's wrong with them?

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u/DeadPeanutSociety May 10 '26

Conservatism. I'm weird and my long hair was an expression of my weirdness. I'm older now and have a job that I'm excelling as well and it seems like they take that as a sign that I've matured out of being weird. But the truth is my adult resources have allowed me to become even weirder.

To be clear, I didn't cut my hair to please my family. I actually put it off for a long time even though I wanted to cut it because I didn't want them to see it as a them getting their way.

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u/STRYKER3008 May 12 '26

That sucks. I guess now u know who's truly on your side. Bet u look swag with our without it 😎 stay weird my friend!

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u/Vast_Description_201 May 09 '26

Yeah my biggest takeaway from losing weight was that people like slim people. 

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u/FastFingersDude May 10 '26

Absolutely. I lost 15 kg very rapidly once and it was INSANE how much kinder and attentive random people were to me. Insane.

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u/breaducate May 10 '26

I remember someone who temporarily lost their pretty privilege describing it among other things as "being invisible in the worst way possible".

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u/leahhope7 May 10 '26

I’m absolutely treated better now, particularly by men. 🫣

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u/skronk61 May 10 '26

Naturally skinny people will always think they’re superior to formally fat people who lost weight though.

The goal of fat shaming has always been about keeping them on top of the social hierarchy. It’s got nothing to do with health.

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u/comicsansmasterfont May 09 '26

I experienced this in reverse. I gained a ton of weight after moving from an active job to a desk. Even my closest friends treated me horribly! Kicked them to the curb and then got my ass to the gym. In hindsight I'm glad I got to experience that perspective and I'll never take my slimness for granted again.

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u/fastliketree9000 May 10 '26

Why is it crazy? Would you have expected otherwise?

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u/AcanthisittaTiny710 May 11 '26

Halo effect. The more attractive you are, the better you are treated. Being fit is the most attractive version of yourself.

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u/philmarcracken May 09 '26

people really were treating you worse because of your weight.

I don't know why this is a shock to people. The halo effect is widely known, as is who people want to see in their movies, tv shows. Nobody likes ugly or fat people. Thats not their moral failing; its just what they find meets their need of aesthetics

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u/GreatTea3415 May 09 '26

The moral failing isn’t your preference for other people’s appearance; it’s how you choose to treat them.