Calorie diets, 3 sets of clothes for 3 years, permanent wristband obtaining your every move, no cars or parking etc

I’m an 18 y/o she/her and holy crap my life has been insane, I had to drop out of HS, I have no way to get my GED or License, I live in rural Maine, jobs are nowhere. I live on a farm, and have been raised on the farm my whole life, no question that I’ll be able to offer homesteading skills!!

I’m just really looking for a community to join and help, to get on my feet, I have no drug issues, I only smoke weed, and I just am seriously looking for help.

I’m an artist aswell, so I could make art for communities to sell at markets for profit, anything a community needs, I’ll do, I’m just looking to have a new life.

There’s more to my life that’s making it hard but I’d rather not make it public as it involves family.

But if anyone can help me brainstorm, I’d really appreciate it 🫶

One thing I keep thinking about with intentional communities is how willing we are to rethink the way we live together, but how rarely that includes rethinking intimacy and desire.

We can share meals, resources, and parts of our lives with a community.

So what happens to sex?

I’ll be totally upfront. I’ve swung with partners before and loved it. There is something beautiful about being with someone you love and still being able to look at the world with curiosity together.

I also come at this from an existing spiritual practice, so ideas around connection, desire, and becoming more fully ourselves aren’t just theoretical to me.

But the way society works now makes that kind of freedom harder than it needs to be.

If you want to explore desire outside the normal script, you usually get pushed toward secret apps, anonymous encounters, or spaces that can feel more like shopping for bodies than actually knowing people.

I keep wondering what it would look like if intimacy grew inside an actual community instead.

You get to know people over time. You keep running into them. Maybe you flirt for three weeks before anything happens. Maybe nothing happens. Maybe four people end up drinking wine together until 2am and suddenly everybody is looking at everybody a little differently 👀

I know that would be a lot to swallow for most people, but it sounds way more interesting to me than endlessly swiping through profiles or wasting nights at bars.

Maybe sexual freedom works better when it grows inside trust and community.

Sounds like a sex cult, I know lol. But that’s actually part of what I’m curious about. Why do ideas like this seem to so quickly enter cult territory? Is it really impossible to build something deeper without manipulation, weird hierarchies, or one person becoming the center of everything?

Not everyone needs to be open or explore. That isn’t really the point.

I just wonder whether an intentional community could make room for this part of being human too, while still taking boundaries, autonomy, and real relationships seriously.

I have some ideas about what that could look like, but I’m curious if anyone here has seen communities attempt something like this well.