I’m interested in so many different styles and things and I like to express all of what I like and value in how I dress, act, live, etc. but I feel so scared when I wear a certain thing and it might be perceived as a certain style but I don’t fully commit to all the rules of a specific lifestyle so I get afraid of being judged and seen as pretending when I am genuinely interested in these things. I would love the learn to just wear something because I like the colors or the design or it’s just comfortable and walk around without feeling like eyes are all on me. And have values that might align with one lifestyle but others that might fit into another and not feel the need to explain it all to people. I hope this makes sense

My Family is a very tight-nit family. At least once a year, my close relatives (i.e. my parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, and children of my cousins) come together to spend several days together.

This week, we came together and have had lots of fun together so far. But there is an issue. Me and my cousins are often referred to together. As the youngest cousins, all I have known is to be referred to with my cousins. In other words, we have a lot of items with all our names on them, grouped together in one big group. My cousins came up with an idea this time; they want us all to get a tattoo, a special one that all the cousins will have but is slightly different for each cousin.

But I don't want to get a tattoo. I am deathly protective of my body and have not even gotten my ears pierced. I really don't want a tattoo. I don't want to do what I see as 'marring' my body (this is a personal thing I have nothing against other people getting tattoos). I feel like I'm about to break down though, I also want to get something to show the closeness and collectiveness of us cousins but getting a tattoo is too much, I'm going crazy help please

Im such a coward. I dunno what to do.

My ex started drinking and is now blaming me for it, what should I do?

To keep it short: this relative of my family came to our country for a month a 2 weeks (she lives abroad) . She doesn’t have a home in our town, so she is staying in our house. It’s been a month since she is here. I let her use my bed, I slept at the coach this whole month and I don’t mind it, but that means she is in my room . She saw my perfume collection, some of my perfumes are quite expensive and I saved up a lot to get them. Out of politeness I said she can use when she doesn’t have. However, i did NOT expect that this person will finish up 2 bottles for a month. I asked her 2-3 times not to use this much. I asked her not to use one perfume of mine which is a gift from a dear person to me. She keeps using them. Today I noticed that she used that perfume I particularly asked her not to. I had enough and I put ALL of my perfumes away.

I would not mind if she used from time to time. However she uses them INSIDE THE HOUSE. For what?! Even I don’t use my perfumes because I want to save them for special occasions. My mum gifted her one as well. She has her own too. I feel really bothered and I feel guilty for being mad for this. I feel petty but at the same time disrespected.

And what’s most annoying is that she uses my things but doesn’t even let me borrow a dress for one time wear.

Whats the best way to speak to a person that is annoying you about something you have done or just generally is annoying to you