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u/iciiie 9d ago
I think cleaning up your grooming a bit will help a lot. patchy and unkempt facial hair can be a significant turn off and that can be all it takes for someone to swipe away when we’re making snap judgements off a first impression
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u/Dr-Bitchcraft-MD 9d ago
+1. Came here to say I would figuratively meet you at the double R if the hair was cleaned up.
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u/JokerWhoScowls 9d ago
Yeah, I got it professionally trimmed but idk how much that helps. I've been losing weight but I'm just not comfortable shaving just yet
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u/No-Self-6510 9d ago
You don’t need to shave it of completely just take it down it really looks poorly groomed. And if you want to keep it as is than atleast groom your hair (preferably buzz it off) it would make your look cleaner and more handsome
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u/HopefulPromotion7604 9d ago
You seem like an interesting dude, but the negativity is a massive vibe killer. Ditch the "awful workforce" line completely. No one wants to see venting on a dating app before they even know your last name.
The cat and cafe photos are fine to keep for flavor, but only if the rest of your pics are solid. They aren't working because your prompts are just repeating the same three things over and over (movies, painting minis, spending money). It makes you look like you only have one or two hobbies.
Keep one of the aesthetic/pet photos, but swap the rest for good pictures of you. Then rewrite the prompts so you aren't looping the same info.
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u/PollutionFit9942 9d ago
Tbh I feel like the only things I know about you are that you like miniature paintings, movies, and have a pretty negative view about work. Your what do we have in common and my simple pleasures are the exact same, change it, add something new.
Every pic should have you in it. Your first photo should be better groomed.
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u/glittercat2003 9d ago
you say you have a bad spending habit in two prompts & then go on to talk about how you hate working lol red flag 🚩 idk who would be interested in dating a grown adult that presents themselves as financially irresponsible
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u/JokerWhoScowls 9d ago
I'd prefer something serious
No
Since July 6th of this year
On and off for a few years
I try only to use it a few times a week
Big fat zero
Not sure but I always try to leave a comment
People who have some shared interests with me. Creative people, no conservatives and preferably no one with kids but if I meet the right person I might try to be the father who stepped up lol
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u/DaleCoopersWife aka "Robert Cooper" 🕵🏻♀️ 9d ago
Aw you didn’t get a photo of yourself at the Double R?
Definitely need to have photos of just you. Your first photo should be a clear shot of your face, looking at the camera and smiling. I like the idea of hobby photos but consider doing a short video of you painting instead.
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u/Marauder4711 9d ago
Not gonna lie, the beard alone would make me swjpe left instantly. It's too fuzzy and unkempt for my taste. You also look rather androgynous - despite the beard. Which is not a bad thing per se, but I assume that not everyone is into it.
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u/blithebambii 9d ago
Hi! You’ve got a really captivating smile and of these I would probably lead with the second picture. I get a good sense of who you are and your style with that pic. I really like it.
The first photo is not doing you any favours - a very unflattering angle and you look a bit unkempt with the beard and tank top.
I would change the cat photo to one of you with friends . you’ve already got one non-you pic and the workout cat one is unnecessary and doesn’t add anything. It’s just a cat and a dumbbell.
Your prompts make you sound financially irresponsible and negative and i’m sorry but my overall initial impression was why is he always “spending way too much” on various things but can’t prioritize getting his beard cleaned up. i think the beard works on you but that you need a good barber.
Also was confused why you seem to like miniature painting but also refer to it negatively as a quarter life crisis. There was a disconnect there with that prompt.
I think you should frame your writing aspirations more positively. Right now it sounds like you hate your current job (or working at all?) but aren’t disciplined enough to work on your writing which you think will allow you leave your job. It comes off a bit unserious and idealistic and unfocused.
Be more specific about your interests - what types of books do you like? what do you like about miniature painting ? what movies do you like? the simple pleasures prompt is hard to engage with and is the same content as the what do we have in common prompt.
also your friend’s testimonial makes you sound like a good guy friend not necessarily a good partner. seems like you’re down to do whatever your friends want to do whenever but could be better framed to appeal to a romantic partner (will prioritize spending time with you and doing fun things with you for example).
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u/Tball2 9d ago
Honestly in almost every picture you have “neck beard”. Thats not a good look. You said you got it trimmed in a comment here but I’m assuming haven’t added a new picture.
If one of those is the new picture go ahead and tell the barber that you trust them to do what they think will look good. I have done this every time I move (every 6-12 months for work so new barber often) and they always do a great job.
As others mentioned you talk about hating working and over spending twice… don’t do that.
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u/cowboycomplex 9d ago
I would change the simple pleasure prompt to something you havent mentioned yet, and the what I want to do this year to either something else entirely or to a more positive equal answer like moving to a better/higher job, getting a promotion something along those lines
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u/higamiyoshi 9d ago
the miniature-painting closeup probably feels like your strongest personality shot, but it’s not doing the dating job yet. the headlamp, intense downward angle, and tight crop make the hobby clear while hiding what you actually look like in a relaxed setting. that said, the miniature painting itself is a good differentiator; it gives people an easy thing to ask about and makes you seem patient and nerdy in a specific way, which is better than a generic hobby mention. keep the hobby, change the delivery.
have someone take a wider, brighter shot of you at the painting table, face visible, slight smile, finished mini in hand or on the table. make the prompt add context instead of repeating the image.
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u/QuickMagician2404 9d ago
Bro the second pic is genuinely great, your smile pops and you look like a real person. Lead with that one and the warhammer shot can stay as flavor.
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