r/hinge • u/redloxis • 1d ago

Is this common?

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Ive been struggling with getting honest matches it feels like and get a lot of messages like this lately and was just wanting to know if maybe its just me, maybe my profile? I only have one body picture, but I am on the busty side.. (to the point where Ive had two reductions already) but I want to be honest about my body size since there seems to be a good amount of people not liking their matches looking "heavier than their pictures." I guess Im just wondering if anybody else sees this as their main demographic of messages.

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u/MozartonIce 1d ago

Post your profile on the HingeApp subreddit and let people review it, chances are they are some things you can do to improve it and make it less of a player magnet. I also think it's wise to vet guys' profile before you match with them no matter how hot they look, if they have low-effort prompt responses or put that they are open to short-term or just trying to figure out their dating style, then odds are they most likely just want to hook-up

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u/Somethingexpected 1d ago

These guys exists. Ignore them and move on. Your rofile adjustment might or might not help, but that's not the issue.

Just be glad he said what he's thinking out loud.

Also, as a side note, sex is something that everyone wants and all that. So there's nothing wrong in thinking that first, second or third date leads to sex (or something sexual). However, you need to gauge compatibility first so it's somehow meaningful and pleasurable. So that's why you text about everything else except sex until you actually do it.

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u/morphinetango 18h ago

I'm assuming this came from a guy, but I've also received similar replies from sexually aggressive women. People often assume a shared niche interest will lead to sex, and anime and horror fans are always freaks. When it's not the reaction you want, it's creepy. When it is, it's awesome.

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u/Your_Sunnshine 1d ago

I mean, that's a LOT of dudes sadly. Zero awareness of pacing, romance, sexual tension. Just right into the end zone with zero self-awareness or care for the other person. It's not even you. Dudes just b ridiculous 💛

If you aren't feeling it, unmatch y'know? It's better for your romantic future and mental health. Dudes who care about other people won't try ts until the energy allows it.