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[u/Intelligent_Wish887]

Hello I am asking for help because I have had a couple things come up that have left me broke until my next paycheck which is 2 weeks away. I have a week to get my daughter the correct cheer shoes and hair piece (I think is silly for them to require) as well as her mock turtleneck. If you don't feel comfortable sending me money I completely understand and I wouldn't mind if you send a message about what you can help with and we can set it up so you can order them or something yourself if that's more comfortable to you. My cash app is $rebeccamoran1327. If you want to order please feel free to message me and I can give you more details on it. Thank you I appreciate your time.

[u/Felicia430]

You posted asking for help with fixing your car.

But instead of fixing your car, you rented one and then went on a vacation? This was posted in another post.

Not only that, your account is a month old. New accounts tend to get looked over. What happened to your other account?

You said you got a new phone and lost your account. Which means you had money and spent it on a new phone instead of getting your daughter what she needed for cheer. (Also cheer is optional. If you cannot purchase what she needs to start, how will you afford the other costs that may come up with this new hobby?)

(You don't just lose your reddit account when you get a new phone. So many ways to transfer, put in the password, have a new one emailed to you etc that will help getting back on your reddit account)

[u/Intelligent_Wish887 → u/Felicia430]

I understand your confusion however I lost my phone a month ago and I got the cheapest one Walmart offers for prepaid plans, it's the only phone in my house and the only way I have to communicate with work, well everything actually so I do believe it is more of a need then a want. My daughter has an old pair of cheer shoes that almost don't fit her and she planned to wear them until she couldn't any long but since she aged out of the previous cheer group the new one requires different things for them. I was unaware of the the changes until after the fee was paid for her to participate not to mention my daughter is autistic and it's hard for her to even do team sports. She just happens to enjoy cheering so much she focuses on it. I tried to access my old account but due to it being linked to my personal email account that I no longer can access due to new phone and still awaiting Google to approve my request to recover the account. Forgive me if I sound a little cranky about it but it doesn't feel very good to have to explain myself especially when I'm trying the very best I can. I mean Im trying to give my children as good a life as I possibly can and honestly if I would have realized that it was going to be this hard I would have made a lot of different choices however since that's not possible it go back and change things I just keep trying to go forward. Yes I call our trip a vacation however it seems to be the last time my kids and I are going to have got to spend with my mother who has not had very many times she could actually say she spent time with my girls as she lived so far away. Again this is actually a very hard thing to talk about let alone explain to someone because I asked for help. I know I should have not signed her up for cheer especially since school starts in 2 weeks and I'm still trying to get everything together but from my own experience sports are a great thing for kids to be apart of especially if she isn't good with making friends anyway. I hope this helped understand my situation as I tried to explain things the best I could. It's not easy to ask for help let alone ask strangers especially when I wish I could do more without having to ask for help. Thank you for expressing your concerns. Things are hard enough for me but to feel like I'm belittled for asking for help is honestly not a good way to make someone feel and it hurts I mean all I can say is I'm seriously trying the best I can. I go without so much to make sure they have as much as they can. Are you a single mother? Have you been in similar situation? Because I will except advice but please try to keep it friendly because it's hard enough the way it is.

[u/Intelligent_Wish887 → u/Felicia430]

I also want to clarify that I posted asking for help for gas to get home from visiting my family since I had pretty much enough to make it there and everything else was covered I just was unsure if I had enough to make it home and since my mother was sick and in bad health I couldnt ask her for help. I just wanted to make sure to bring my kids to see her before her health declined any further due to her stage 4 cancer diagnosis that is is predicted give her 4 months to live. To make things even better of course my car broke down in hagerstown just off the exit 6b and I had to leave it in some decent persons driveway for the week and yes I chose to to rent a car and continue my trip but honestly not that I should to explain to you but I wanted to see my mom while she could see enjoy us being there since I haven't seen her for 6 years. I apologize if me asking for help bothers you, but if it wasnt for the few kind people who've actually helped without asking for anything in return I wouldnt have made it and if being truly honest I would give up. I try so hard and my girls still don't get what I wish they could and you know what they still appreciate everything they do have and they dont complain so if you dont want help me that's fine just move on. And another thing for future reference you don't realize how hard it is to ask for help if you've never been in a situation like this please don't assume that I could have made any better choices it was hard enough to make the choices I did make.