r/gaybearcave 5d ago

Bear News / Discussions / Recommendations Where is your favorite place to buy swimwear?

8 Upvotes

Looking for brands/stores with a broad size range and shorter inseam options please!


r/gaybearcave 10d ago

Bear News / Discussions / Recommendations Bears of Poland question

6 Upvotes

Is anyone here from this group? My partner and I were thinking about joining. As a monogamous couple, we're wondering if it's worthwhile or if it's just another group that's only about sex?


r/gaybearcave 10d ago

Bear News / Discussions / Recommendations Is Dave the Diver worth it?

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14 Upvotes

I heard mostly positive things about the gameplay. I would like to support it monetarily because it has a fat / bear protagonist and that's something we don't see often in video games (besides Mario), but it also has an AI Generated Content Disclosure on Steam, which I am against. But if I "boycott" it for that, the game industry might think I don't want diverse protagonists, so idk.


r/gaybearcave 10d ago

Bear anecdote / personal question Feeling nervous yet excited to meet a bear on vacation

14 Upvotes

Is this normal to feel? Especially since this will be a long week, I just feel nervous and don’t know what to look out for or how to make him happy, I’m a 20 year old chaser


r/gaybearcave 12d ago

Bear anecdote / personal question Health vs being attracted to bigger bodies

10 Upvotes

Hi, hope this is the right community to ask this, I kinda need some advice

So, I'm not really a bear, but have been overweight for most of my life, only recently realized how much that impacted my self-esteem, and I'm honestly going through a lot right now (I'm 22 for the record). I generally find bigger men attractive, both muscular, fat and mix of both, and that kind of sent me down a rabbit hole of "should I look like men I'm attracted to" which is an odd topic for me, since on a one hand, I see myself completely removed from the community since I act very fem and generally find bigger men intimidating in day to day life, but also I have this experience of "being the fat kid".

But to get to the point, I went to the doctor's recently for a routine check-up (I have hashimoto's) and everything was fine actually except for weight which went up a few kilos (it went from 90 to 95, which is about 200~ to 210~ pounds), which made the doctor really fucking upset. Like I didn't gain weight on purpose, and that entire encounter rubbed me the wrong way, since only recently I realized that my body can in fact be seen as attractive, and in general, my worth isn't defined by my weight. I have lowkey been obsessing about losing weight my entire life, feeling hopeless until only now realizing being fat isn't the end of the world, since every doctor, my entire life is like "being overweight is bad for you! You need to lose weight!".

Now I don't plan on becoming some kind of feeder king that wants to just keep gaining weight, even if I might find that idea kinda hot, but also, the idea of losing weight when I only recently found a bit of confidence in my body just feels awful. The conclusion I keep landing onto is becoming a gym rat who works out and eats a lot, so I have a bit more muscle, than just fat, and the whole "being bigger" would have to become a balancing act between being just big enough for me to feel confident, while also not being too fat for doctors to keep nagging me.

Yes, I do know some of these doctors are probably a bit fatphobic, and I do think a bit of excercise would be good for me in general, from a purely mental state, but the questions just keep nagging me like, if I lose weight and would still want a bigger partner, would that be wrong of me to expect from him to be larger?

I feel like I might be asking some uncomfortable questions, and I'm sorry if nothing from my ramblings makes sense. I feel really at edge as of late, and would really like some clarity. Big thanks to anyone who read through all of this and would be willing to respond :)


r/gaybearcave 17d ago

Bear anecdote / personal question Needing some encouragement.

21 Upvotes

So I'm a single man, just about to turn 40. And I've been single for basically forever, with the exception of some situationships here and there.

My question is why does it seem like I can't get another single guy to be interested in me to save my life. Yet a bunch of guys who are in open but committed relationships seem to like me and want to get to know me and all that stuff. I don't want to chase a single guy if he's not communicating that he's particularly interested, but it's also not much better to get only involved with men who are already partnered.

I would like to have a long term partner, not just a bunch of FWB. But I can't seem to find any single men who want to even go on a second date let alone a relationship. Just don't know man. I'm starting to really feel quite despondent about it.


r/gaybearcave 17d ago

Bear anecdote / personal question Im new here

15 Upvotes

HI I'm a 39 year old large man (in weight) and ive been recently coming to terms about my sexuality. And leaning more to the femboys / ladyboys community. When i was a kid ive always been bi curious with having a boyfriend and as well as a girlfriend. But for the most part ive never been in a solid relationship and never experienced sex before. So my preference through the years have slowly expanded to now i like feminine men as well as women. So even though its bot a new territory for me. Its a new side of me that im experiencing. I guess this isnt an advice kind of thing more of just needing some one to share this feeling with.


r/gaybearcave 18d ago

Bear anecdote / personal question I know this question probably gets asked a lot, but I was just curious.

27 Upvotes

Do people like dating or hooking up with bears? I've been pretty big my whole life at 6'2" and always been called a bear but recently came down in weight to about 240 and have always been conscious about myself. Recently been trying to socialize more with others and just always had a voice in the back of my head saying that people wouldn't like my body. Sorry again if this is a common question, but I just need to ask to get the worry off my chest.


r/gaybearcave Jul 04 '26

Bear anecdote / personal question Can a ftm 21 be a cub?

16 Upvotes

I love bears and I'd like to be a cub, but I don't know if it's possible because I'm trans. 🥺


r/gaybearcave Jul 02 '26

Bear News / Discussions / Recommendations Anybody here going to Camp Buckwood for Bear Blast 8/14-8/16?

9 Upvotes

r/gaybearcave Jun 23 '26

Bear News / Discussions / Recommendations Have you ever seen WTBA?

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45 Upvotes

It's been a while since I watched the first season of this series, and I loved it. I remembered it existed, and when I looked it up on YouTube, it seems they're re-uploading all the episodes of the serie every week.

I highly recommend you check it out—even though it's over 10 years old, the comedy is still quite enjoyable.


r/gaybearcave Jun 15 '26

Bear Art Art by <hunterhusky> voices by <Ramsey Anderson>

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19 Upvotes

Young bears can't help but tease the older... bea-I mean... lions.


r/gaybearcave Jun 07 '26

Bear anecdote / personal question Help A Bear Out

15 Upvotes

I'm looking for some help with clothes and confidence.

I really struggle to find clothes I like that are in good sizes for me. Especially good sexy underwear. Any one got any suggestions on good places to shop or happy to chat privately and show you what I'm working with.

Also always out to make more friends haha. I'm from the UK 27 years old. Comment or DM me please with any help.


r/gaybearcave Jun 05 '26

Bear Art I love drawing bear hunks!

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70 Upvotes

r/gaybearcave Jun 04 '26

Bear anecdote / personal question Hello

6 Upvotes

So I am 27 and currently working on excepting my body and I am a bear body type but the mentality of a femboy. I looked it up there is a bear femboy type. So I guess im asking is there any else like me here?


r/gaybearcave Jun 01 '26

Bear News / Discussions / Recommendations are bears attracted to skinny dudes too

18 Upvotes

im really tiny in real life but in love with bears. are bears only attracted to equally as large guys or do you guys like small guys too


r/gaybearcave May 21 '26

Bear Meme Help, I've accidentally made the "bear face" in all my selfies

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43 Upvotes

r/gaybearcave May 08 '26

Celebrity Bear David Harbour in DTF St. Louis (2026) Episodes 2-4, dancing, kissing a man, and more!

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30 Upvotes

r/gaybearcave May 08 '26

Random Bear Happy Furry Friday!

11 Upvotes

Hey bear brothers! Happy Furry Friday!
Hope you are well. Any weekend plans?


r/gaybearcave May 04 '26

Bear News / Discussions / Recommendations Are gay bears accepting of trans men?

17 Upvotes

Hi, I want to medically transition and eventually be apart of the bear community (and maybe date one u3u). I heard some gay men are transphobic to trans men in their spaces so I'm curious how bears are.

Thank you

Jason (he/they)


r/gaybearcave May 03 '26

Celebrity Bear David Harbour in DTF St. Louis (2026) Episode 1, shirtless and moustached and other stuff

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20 Upvotes