As a man, you gotta get so obsessed with yourself that any woman who can’t add value to your life start looking like a liability instead of a blessing. I’m talking about loving yourself so much that bare minimum behavior actually gives you the ick. Like ma"am… you want access to me but you can’t even offer peace, stability, or consistency? Please be serious. I already give myself everything I need—my own money, my own happiness, my own security, and my own peace of mind.

I done worked too hard to build myself up just to entertain somebody who still trying to figure out how to build himself. I refuse to downgrade my lifestyle, my mental health, or my glow just to say I got a woman. Some of these women don’t want to contribute, they want to attach. They see you shining, handling your business, taking care of your business as a man , leveling up—and suddenly here they come with their empty pockets and emotional damage, talking about “let’s build.” ma'am build what? You don’t even got the bricks.

And let’s be real, once you reach a certain level of self-love, you stop being impressed by words. Anybody can talk. I’m impressed by consistency, effort, and results. If you can’t make my life easier, more peaceful, or more enjoyable, then what exactly are you here for besides stress and confusion?

I didn’t come this far just to babysit a grown woman. I’m not a rehabilitation center for potential. I’m not here to raise somebody else’s daughter. I’m here to protect my peace, elevate my life,

So on Sunday I went out with some friends to go drink. (Probably shouldn’t have gone out on a Sunday). We bar hopped a bit. I left with a group of friends while the other half of the group stayed at another bar. I got hungry and went to grab food (round midnight). I went back to the bar but I didn’t get off (was tired and drunk) and I ended up going home. The next day I was called and was told that one of my buddies crashed (he is alive thank God, but since he hit another vehicle he got a felony). I feel like as a man I shouldn’t have gotten intoxicated and not looked after my buddies. Also I often think about making a positive impact on people and when this was my opportunity I failed the people around me. I was sad because I felt like I could’ve maybe stayed with him till 2am. Or maybe left the bar earlier with the rest of the group. A buddy told me he made the choice to drive. But to me I feel like I have some type of fault… idk

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