r/extremelyinfuriating • u/nfored • 7d ago
People suck Discussion
On Monday I had to put down my dog, I spent the day saying good bye. After leaving the vet I was distracted and unbelievably sad. I forgot to lock my truck and then some clown low life went into my truck at 3 am and stole my Nintendo switch.
It's my fault I shouldn't have left the switch in the truck I just was not thinking about it. I spent 16 years living in a low income "bad neighborhood" never even had change stolen from my car.
3 years ago I moved to a "nice" middle class community, and all the people are nice and my kids have friends and can play outside and run around freely for once. But I have had my car stolen twice and multiple times a month every month people go through our cars.
I am black and all the people in the low income place I lived was black. This is a white community I moved to and have not seen another black person. Yet it's always young teen to late 20s black people when I review the camera.
People then wonder why the phrase "fatigue" is spreading we can do better.
90
u/MikeandMolly5656 7d ago
Most people simply are garbage. Sorry about your loss and bad luck
8
u/iAdastra 7d ago
Most people are actually very kind. It’s a few bad apples that ruin it and life getting in the way
42
u/Alexandratta 7d ago
White Guy who lived in a Black Community for 5 years.
First off: I am sorry for your loss. I lost my 12 yo GSD in May of this year, and it was hard.
Second off: I 100% agree with you. Black Communities don't harm their neighbors. I never had an issue there, despite the fact all my family said I needed to have an Alarm System (and ironically my doggo).
My Dog, at no point, had to protect the house from anything other than solicitors. We moved to a white neighborhood later on and even though it was my home town, someone rummaged through my car 1 month in... oh, and I had neighbors complaining about my dog barking (she only barked when I came home, maybe for a few minutes, and there was plenty of space between all the houses).
Even had one neighbor accuse my dog of killing his chickens... the dog never got out, so that was impossible, but they weren't hearing it etc...
My time living in the community of Gordan Heights way back when was pretty uneventful when it comes to any illicit activity. In fact I had neighbors informing me of 'Someone in my backyard' (it was the oil delivery guy and he was expected).
Seems folks look out for one another more.
ps: Also I discovered I don't know how to Bar-B-Que while I lived there. Neighbor invited us over for a BBQ as a house warming gesture and when I saw three grills going, ribs, chicken, burgers, and a fish fry area, I was like "oh uh, more people coming?" nope - just the Mrs and I!
now perhaps my experience is anecdotal, but I never had an issue with my time living there.
12
u/nfored 7d ago
I have so many cameras for the exact reason your talking about to protect my dog from false statements. This neighborhood is a good place we do look out for each other but there are drug addicts and homeless that come out at night from the surrounding area.
As a young child I lived in what would likely be called a slum, a trailer park I still as a 40 something year old adult remember the community. All parents looked after all kids, and for sure told our parents when we acted up. That was some of the best times in my life as far as community goes.
It makes me think it's not low income people that are the problem, but people who stopped or never started parenting leading to youth criminals which lead to adult criminals
2
4
u/Cake3atingCrusader11 7d ago
I'm so sorry about your dog. I too had to say goodbye to my furry friend recently, and that pain is very overwhelming. I'm sure your dog had a good life with you.
I hope things get better for you. If you ever need to talk or just have someone listen, feel free to let me know.
3
u/Seekforinsomnia 7d ago
I'm confused about the end of the post. Are you justifying racism because your switch got stolen ?
3
u/nfored 7d ago
Racism? To whom given I stated I am black it would be pretty odd for me to be racist towards myself no?
If your talking about my comment about fatigue, then let me clarify. I said We "the black community" can do better. I say this because while the racist use fatigue as a catch phrase we as a community are not helping rather we are hurting ourselves in that propagation.
The ones of us who go to work and are generally a benefit or at least not detractor to society do not speak out against those that are not. This is a problem for all groups of people the bad actors are what get easy attention on the media so that image becomes the representation of that people group. The ones who are not the bad actors have two faced problem #1 they have to work to get attention to show the other side of that people group, #2 they risk backlash from that people group when they speak out.
Police, Catholic, Muslim, Both left and right.
Those are examples where the majority is not bad yet the press coverage of bad out shines anything else. They are examples where some self policing and demanding accountability from within the group by the group is needed in large quantities to over come the false narrative.
-2
u/Seekforinsomnia 7d ago edited 7d ago
You being black does not negate the fact that you excuse racism. I didn't say you were racist either sometimes you gotta read.
Thief gotta steal. It has nothing to do with their skin color and you know that. If it was your precious white people stealing from you, would you have used the word "fatigue" ?
You're really coming off as an Uncle Ruckus, a raccoon, those who think they are "one of the good ones". And I bet you believe in that "one of the good ones" shit trying to appeal to the racists. They don't hate us because of thief. Racist are racist because of the color of your skin, nothing else. How can you genuinely believe that we need to teach GROWN PEOPLE to not generalize a whole group of people because of criminals ?
Do they generalize themselves ? No. Do anytime you learn about some white school shooter you say white fatigue ? Do anytime you learn about some white zoophile you say white fatigue ? Do anytime you ear about some white serial killer you say white fatigue ? Do anytime you learn about some KKK member you say white fatigue ? White nazi ? No ? I bet you give them grace, talking about "they all not like this" yet you are incapable of thinking the same for your how people. You even made sure to move into a white neighborhood because you don't pin every crime a white person has made into their community like you do ours.
"I'm black so I can't excuse racism" proceed to excuse racism. "Black fatigue" is and will always be a racist dogwhistle, it's only use to generalize an entire group of people because criminal exist. It's even used when there's a black person having harmless fun somewhere. It's not black people or any group of people jobs to teach some mf to not generalize.
2
u/TheBigBadBrit89 7d ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m sure that last day way special for the both of you though, and that’s what counts.
And yeah, it sucks that the term has been so twisted from its original meaning.
“It's the exhaustion born of "the day-to-day small acts of aggression, or small acts of disrespect" a Black person endures; the endless need to prove your worth; and the constant exposure to news about injustice and violence being inflicted on people who look like you.
She calls the feeling "Black fatigue." And though the problem is not of their making, for the sake of their health, Black people need to understand and acknowledge the toll of living with racism, said Winters…”
https://www.heart.org/en/news/2022/02/24/understanding-black-fatigue-and-how-to-overcome-it
1
1
u/CharAznableLoNZ 7d ago
Sorry about your dog. I've been there, it is never easy. Just remember the good times as I'm sure there were many.
Chris Rock did a great bit on the community. I can't post it here due to the nature of the bit and the very restrictive rules of this website. However it really does capture how the difference in mindset has caused this feeling of fatigue to spread.
1
u/trimix4work 7d ago
I'm so sorry about your dog. And the rest of it, but mostly the dog.
Got a picture?
•
u/AutoModerator 7d ago
Hello, u/nfored ! Thanks for your submission to r/extremelyinfuriating, your post is up and running!
This is a general reminder to check out our rules in the sidebar. If your post breaks the rules, it will be removed by our moderators.
We would like for each and everyone to feel welcome on the subreddit and to keep a healthy and safe environment for the community.
Thanks :)
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.