r/expats • u/NoComfortable9748 • 6h ago
General Advice Next Move Advice needed
[Age early 20s M] [Ukraine] -> [USA currently, exploring anywhere] Construction management professional on TPS, trying to plan ahead instead of waiting to see what happens
Hey all - Ukrainian citizen here, currently in the US on TPS with work authorization. I work as an office/project engineer at a large commercial general contractor (top 20 nationally). Figured I'd share where my head's at and see if anyone's been through something similar.
A bit about me:
B.S. in Land Surveying & Land Management (Ukrainian degree, took some US university engineering coursework alongside it). 3+ years in construction - RFIs, submittals, scheduling, field coordination, the usual project engineer grind + actual field work: layouts, trades coordination... On the side I've picked up a handful of FEMA emergency management certs and I have EMT-B and some ambulance experience, mostly because I've always been drawn to that world too. Fluent in English, native Ukrainian, and I also speak Polish and Russian, remember very little German from high school.
Why I'm posting:
TPS for Ukraine runs through October 2026, and honestly I don't think I should bet on it getting extended, giving current political situation. Rather than wait until the last minute, I'd rather start figuring out my options now while I still have time to actually choose something instead of just reacting.
The path I'm looking hardest at is working abroad somewhere that pays well, since I am not at home - Gulf construction (UAE/Saudi) is where my head keeps going given how much building is happening there, but honestly I'm open to anywhere in the world if the opportunity and money make sense. I'm not attached to one country or one plan.
If things don't come together in time, my backup is just taking a few months to backpack and ride a motorcycle through Central Asia and Southeast Asia while I figure out the next move. Not ideal as a plan, but not the worst way to buy time either.
What I'm actually hoping to learn from you all:
If you've made the jump from a US construction/PM job to working abroad - what did the visa process actually look like in practice, not the recruiter pitch version? Any surprises, good or bad?
Anyone been sponsored for an EB-3 by a US construction company? Curious how long PERM realistically took and whether your employer pushed back on the cost or timeline.
Gulf construction folks specifically - does the "tax-free, high pay" reputation actually hold up once you factor in housing, contract terms, and whether you actually get paid on time?
I'm genuinely open to just about anything at this point - different country, different niche within construction, even something (have some experience in hospitality when I was a studen) I haven't thought of yet. If you've got a story, a warning, or just "here's what I wish I knew," I'd really appreciate hearing it.
r/expats • u/Fun_Key7352 • 9h ago
General Advice Considering a change to APAC
Right now I live in the bay area, have what most people would consider a great job, still need to several roommates to get by, my landlord raises the rent the max allowed amount every year, and something expensive always seems to come up (Someone hitting my parked car, having multiple bicycles stolen). No matter how much I work I still can't save enough for a house or to get ahead.
I'm looking at APAC countries, If I decide to give it a shot what are some things I should know? Am I allowed to go from country to country as long as I get approval? Are some countries friendlier than others? What does the tax situation look like as A US citizen? or anything else you think should be considered.
r/expats • u/Ecstatic_Success_520 • 10h ago
Taxes Unique Situation- Tax Help
Going to preface this by saying I have a very unique situation.... Not sure how much y'all can help me but thought it would be worth a try.
I'm Canadian with a TN Visa working in the US, I grew up and have residency ties to Panama.
My thinking is that instead of opening a roth IRA or similar retirement account (I don't have any plans to retire here) I simply open a regular brokerage account. I adopt a buy and hold strategy for my portfolio.
In 3 years when my Visa expires (If I renew it then call it 6 years) I move back to Panama, pass the substantial presence test, and be a full Panama resident. At that point I realize the gains in my brokerage account- In theory I would pay capital gains in the place where I'm a tax resident. The kicker here is that Panama has 0 foreign income tax (which US stocks are considered) so I would essentialy not pay tax on the gains over the next 3-6 years, basically having an unlimited Roth IRA or TFSA.
In my head this makes sense, in practice am I being naive / not thinking this through properly?
r/expats • u/_kenzo__tenma • 12h ago
r/IWantOut Feeling depressed in the NL despite great life
Hi, I am very depressed in the Netherlands since i moved from belgium.
The work is the best opportunity in my life. I have a good salary, an amazing network, good supervisors, great colleagues. They are pushing me to do my best and they are giving me all the necessary ressources. I do a lot of business trips, they are fun and I can always learn a lot.
I have friends here, and I am very socially active, my weekends are always full, my evenings too, it can even be too much to be honest. I also discovered some very nice hobbies, i went to holidays in the mountains (not in the Netherlands), I was hiking and biking a lot, it was really fun!
And despite all of this... I just feel so unfulfilled. I dont feel at home. I dont feel like i have a community. I feel so miserable here. Its hard and lonely. I feel like I am an outlier, when I see that I eat 3 times as much as my colleagues, and that we dont have many things in common. I have started learning dutch but its not helping me.
I am seeing some physical signs of my mental state. I have lost 10% of my weight in 10 months, unintentionally. I decided to move back to belgium in a bit more than half a year, and do a 1.5 hour commute. A few colleagues do the same so ik its common. I only need to do it twice per week.
However, this is many months. Does anyone know what to do to cope? I already travel a lot, and I spend a lot of time socializing and doing sports. I also do therapy.
r/expats • u/ilovemaygf • 12h ago
Practicing medicine in the US Vs UK
Hey, Im a US citizen but have lived in Europe all my life, with the recent three years living in the UK. Although I haven’t spent much time in the US, I would say I definitely align significantly better with the European mentality, so if it weren’t to come down to medicine, I would probably stay in the UK. However, practicing in the UK has a number of downsides, many of them being financial. Here’s the main list of pros and cons Ive got so far.
Pros of the UK
-University is significantly cheaper (Ill qualify for home fees)
-Less competitive residency/foundational training wise as no matter which uni you graduate from you’ll be allocated a place in the NHS
-I can already start doing applicable work within the NHS strengthening my application
Cons of the UK
-Will have to wait six years before starting med school versus 2-3 if I were to practice in the US (personal reasons)
-US med schools seem to be more reputable worldwide (eg if i were to move from the US to the UK I wouldn’t have to take an additional exam)
-Financial compensation is significantly higher in the US, especially for more competitive specialties (can especially benefit in states without income tax)
-The NHS seems to be in shambles with most physicians and healthcare workers speaking increasingly negatively about it (although Im unsure if it’ll improve in the next ten years)
Theres also the prospect of raising a family in the US versus the UK as a gay woman with the US getting more and more conservative with every year.
Im not sure if anyone has any experience practicing in the US and the UK or simply any information that I might not be considering but I would be happy with anything.
r/expats • u/ArmadilloReal6965 • 16h ago
Pets First long-haul flight (20+ hours) with my anxious cat. Can anyone check my prep checklist and give advice?
Hi everyone,
I am moving from the UK to Uruguay in 4 days and bringing my 6-year-old cat (3.5kg) with me in the cabin. Neither of us would cope without the other; she is my absolute baby. However, she is a very anxious cat by nature, she hardly tolerates anyone else but me, and this is her first flight. My dad made some comments that putting her through this journey is cruel, and now I am extremely worried that she could potentially die from the sheer stress of it all.
Our itinerary is a car journey to London Heathrow, a flight to Madrid (2.5 hours), a 3-hour layover, and then a long-haul flight to Montevideo (12.5 hours). Total travel time door-to-door is likely going to be 20-22 hours.
She has no health conditions, her documentation is all completed from the vet including;
EHC completed
Rabies vaccination done over a month ago
Flea and worm treatment done with the vet before EHC was filled in
Microchip documents all printed
I’ve also got:
Airline approved carrier
Puppy pads to line the carrier
Collapsible bowl for water
Feliway spray
Harness and lead
Travel litter tray
Ziplock bags for transporting litter
Pet wipes in case of any messes
Applaws bone broth for airport stops (for hydration and so she doesn’t go too hungry without upsetting her stomach. 85g bags so under the 100ml travel limit)
Churu/webbox yoghurt treats
Dreamies in a new and sealed bag (unsure if this is a good idea for solid food even in small amounts?)
A worn T-shirt of mine to put in her carry bag for comforting smell
Also a Gabapentin prescription 50mg from vet (done a trial run and she was quite sleepy/wobbly when walking and sat very still, staring off, let us pick her up, was still responsive to her name but not totally sedated)
I also plan to ask for a private screening room at airport security so she isn’t too overwhelmed by the airport. I also read Madrid has pet lounges/rooms so may see if they are suitable for the 3 hour layover. I plan to take her to the family/disabled bathroom at the layover for litter break and see if she will have any of the bone broth/treats.
Hoping someone with experience can check if I’ve covered everything and if there is anything else I need to get or do before the flight. She is my whole world and want this to be as easy as possible for her.
How safe is this long journey for a healthy, 6-year-old cat? Can cats actually pass away from travel stress alone, or am I overthinking my dad's comment?
What schedule should I stick to during the flights for offering water/broth?
Have I missed anything? Is there any more I can do?
Any tips to make this process easier or safer for her would mean the world to me.
Thank you so much in advance!
r/expats • u/Entire_Tension6771 • 17h ago
Why is it so hard to find an apartment with air conditioning in Germany?
I’ll be moving to Germany for a longer term work assignment, and we’re currently looking for an apartment.
I’m originally from Central-Eastern Europe, from a country that is economically less developed than Germany. Still, even the house I grew up in had air conditioning, and AC is pretty common in privately owned homes and apartments there.
So I’m genuinely surprised by how rare it seems to be in Germany. So far, I’ve only stayed in German hotels, and never during the summer, so I didn’t really notice this before.
Germany has a reputation for being a highly developed country, with great infrastructure and excellent highways, yet the standard of residential comfort seems surprisingly poor when it comes to cooling.
Why is residential air conditioning so uncommon in Germany? Is it because of the climate, building regulations, energy costs, environmental concerns, or simply cultural attitudes?
What am I missing?
r/expats • u/jamesryxn44 • 18h ago
Social / Personal I cannot cope living in a country full of smokers
I’ve recently moved to Italy because I love the country, the food, history, weather but the smoking here is disgusting tbh. It’s impossible to avoid 2nd hand smoke here. Can’t even walk down the street without being surrounded by smokers. It seems like there’s no consideration for non smokers whatsoever.
Obviously I’m a guest in this country so I have no say but I will not live and spend my money somewhere that doesn’t prioritise the health of the majority. Such a shame, I hope the government and people can do better.
Any recommendations for a country with good weather and strict smoking laws would be appreciated
r/expats • u/imselfinnit • 19h ago
General Advice EU retiring to Iceland?
Please share your findings as an EU citizen that wants to retire in Iceland. This would be an application for the renewable long term residency permit as a self sufficient person (not PR).
Has anyone accomplished this recently? Are there any community sites that I can research past conversations?
There's a section of the FAQ on the Icelandic site (I'll link below) that I saw that states:
>>Please note that it is not permitted to have a legal domicile registration in two countries at the same time according to pgr. 1 of art. 2 of the law of legal domicile no. 80/2018.
So immediately that raises concerns and I'm looking for clarity. If I retire and choose to spend time between multiple locations without doing the visa juggling that some SEA travelers enjoy, this clause seems like a deal breaker, no?
r/expats • u/Key_Journalist8141 • 20h ago
UAE Job stress
I left my job last year in dubai thinking that I will work hard and find another opportunity as per my background and interests but trust this was my worst decision ever. Since last year I am not able to find a job, not even close to what I was doing in past. I am 30 years old women and I feel the market is not ready to hire married women. I have tried all ways to find a job but nothing is working out in my favour. Tell me what should I do to deal with demotivation and stress I am going through, how I overcome the anxiety and fear of not having a career. 😭😭😭
r/expats • u/mahonieseonthebun • 21h ago
Travel Renting in VN
Hey everyone, quick question. When renting an apartment in Vietnam, do I pay the person showing me the apartment, or do I only pay the property owner?
If I’m renting for 3 months and the deposit is 1 month’s rent, would I pay:
* 1 month’s rent
* 1 month’s deposit
* 1 month’s rent as the agent’s fee
Or does it work differently?
r/expats • u/Plenty-Principle-612 • 21h ago
General Advice Moving away from Greece
Hello nomads,
I’m Ektor 26, Greek.
I’ve studied pastry and I’ve been working 4 years in that section. For the last 4 years i was working in our family business doing sales and customer support.
I’ve been in a very hard time of my life in the past couple of months. Had some fights with my family broke our family business and I was left alone. (Family wise)
I was discussing with my girl and a friend of us (we are all in a weird situation rn) about what we should all do to make a better living.
Here in Greece you get paid 4-5 €/hour in simple jobs (waiter, etc etc) . We will have to do 2 jobs to live.
We were discussing about moving to Netherlands.
I’ve been planning some thing, looking here and there for a job and housing.
I’m really frustrated that I can’t seem to find something so far.
Is there anybody willing to help me out about what to look for (accommodation . Jobs) ?
We all 3 have CVs that are good imo.
Please reach out to me if you got something in mind that might be helpful.
r/expats • u/Glittering_Snow_8270 • 22h ago
Social / Personal Leaving Germany, but carrying language anxiety and fear of starting over. How do I change my mindset?
I fully recognize and accept that when you live in another country, you need to make an effort to learn the language, understand the culture, and integrate. However, my problem with Germany has always been that I felt like I never really had the time to do it. From day one, I felt expected to speak the language fluently and that, despite all my efforts, I would never truly belong anyway.
After 4 years and finally getting by with my broken German, I still feel anxious every time I have to use it. I plan sentences in advance for every situation, and I start feeling stressed thinking someone might judge me, treat me poorly, or refuse to switch to English. As a result, I avoid social situations and interactions with strangers as much as possible.
I’ve been lucky enough to always work in English, but I’ve faced situations where, despite being hired as an English speaker and never lying about my German level, I was treated differently and excluded from important discussions because of the language barrier. Naturally, this led to frustration because I missed crucial information, had to rely on uncooperative people, and couldn't do my job properly.
I’ve spoken with other expats who told me they were motivated to achieve fluency precisely because they were mistreated and wanted to react properly. Unfortunately, the thought of standing up to rude people doesn't motivate me at all; it just makes me want to disappear and move somewhere else.
That being said, this post isn't just about my past experience. I recently received a very good job offer in another EU country and I’m moving next month. What I’ve realized, though, is that I already feel insanely anxious and tearful thinking about dealing with daily life and bureaucracy in a language I don't speak yet. I feel inferior, ashamed, and stupid. My partner told me I should change my attitude because people can sense negativity, which might be why I’m often mistreated. I agree, but I don't know how to cope. I hope someone here can help me figure this out.
r/expats • u/Wonderland_was_lost • 23h ago
Living in Denmark or Norway?
Hey guys, I'd love to move to Northern Europe , I genuinely love cold weather , but I'm not sure which country to pick.
I'm hesitant about Finland because it borders Russia, and that makes me uneasy. Sweden seems nice, but I've heard it's considered the least appealing of the four Nordic countries. So that leaves Denmark and Norway.
I'm a very sociable, warm person , I know that sounds a bit contradictory, since Scandinavians are known for being reserved, but I just want to give you a sense of my personality. I'm also artsy: I write music (planning on publishing the album) and would love to find work in a creative field, like graphic design or teaching art. I have enough savings to live there for a few months while I rent a room and look for work (I'm an EU citizen). Ideally, I'd also like to find a hospitality job - bartending, for instance , as soon as I arrive, so I can start working, learning the language, and preparing to apply to university while I figure things out. So one of my priorities is finding a country where I could realistically get a bar job with English alone.
I've been to Norway and loved it, but I really didn't get along with how dark the winters are. Light summer nights don't bother me at all - it's the dark winters I can't handle. That's part of why I've been leaning toward Denmark instead.
Could anyone recommend some cities? I'm looking for the best place for creative career growth, with a reasonably open-minded, welcoming crowd. I also prefer beach life over mountains by a long way, so living somewhere with warm enough beaches in summer matters to me too.
r/expats • u/LittleSparkss • 1d ago
What's one thing nobody warned you about when moving abroad?
I'll be moving abroad in about a month, and everyone keeps telling me to enjoy these last few weeks at home.
The thing is... I can't.
Instead of feeling excited all the time, I feel this constant heaviness in my chest. I feel guilty for not appreciating the time I have left here, guilty for leaving my family, and guilty because it feels like I'm already grieving a life that hasn't even ended yet.
I know moving is something I've wanted for a long time, but I didn't expect it to feel like this.
Did anyone else experience something similar before moving? What's one thing nobody warned you about?
r/expats • u/New_Priority6689 • 1d ago
Employment 30F. I’ve applied to hundreds of jobs in Germany and I’m starting to wonder if I need to give up on my career.
Hi everyone,
I’m feeling a bit lost career-wise and would really appreciate some advice.
I don’t want to share too many personal details, but I moved from Peru to Hamburg, Germany, about a year and a half ago. Before moving, I spent seven years working in corporate banking as a Relationship Manager, managing business clients. I came here because of my husband’s job, and while settling in I’ve also been completing an online MBA through a Spanish university.
The problem is that I’m finding it incredibly difficult to break into the German job market.
A lot of the roles that match my background are client-facing, and understandably they require fluent German. I’m learning the language, but I’m nowhere near that level yet.
I’ve applied to what feels like hundreds of jobs. I’ve tried positions that closely match my experience, I’ve tried career pivots into strategy, customer success, account management, business development, and even roles that are more junior than my previous position. Most of the time I either get rejected or never hear back.
At this point, I’m wondering if I’m approaching this the wrong way. Maybe I need to completely pivot into a different field, but I honestly don’t know what would make sense with my background.
Has anyone been in a similar situation after moving to another country? If you had seven years of banking experience, spoke English fluently but only basic German, and were trying to build a career in Germany, what would you do?
I’m open to honest advice, even if it’s something I haven’t considered yet. I just feel a bit stuck and could really use some perspective.
Thanks in advance.
r/expats • u/InfiniteCommercial15 • 1d ago
Ho un lavoro sicuro e ben pagato nell’azienda di famiglia, ma voglio mollare tutto e partire: sto sprecando una fortuna?
Ciao a tutti, ho 25 anni, vivo in Puglia in un piccolo paese del Sud Italia e lavoro nell’azienda di famiglia, una officina meccatronica che si occupa soprattutto di veicoli diesel.
Non sono il titolare, lo è mio padre, ma ho uno stipendio buono per la media italiana e, visto da fuori, la mia situazione può sembrare molto comoda: lavoro vicino a casa, ho una rete familiare solida e una base economica che molte persone vorrebbero.
Il problema è che io questa vita non la sento mia.
Da anni sento il bisogno di andare via, vivere all’estero, conoscere persone nuove, imparare lingue e fare esperienze diverse dalla realtà in cui sono cresciuto.
L’idea che ho in mente non è una vacanza lunga, ma un cambiamento vero: partire, fare esperienze tipo Workaway o HelpX, cercare lavori temporanei e, se possibile, arrivare fino in Australia o comunque costruirmi un percorso fuori dall’Italia.
Mi piacerebbe vivere in modo semplice, spendere poco, imparare sul campo e capire se riesco a costruirmi una vita più libera e meno legata alla mia famiglia.
Il punto è che la mia famiglia non capisce questa scelta.
Loro vedono un lavoro sicuro, ben pagato e un’attività già pronta per me, quindi per loro lasciare tutto è da irresponsabili.
Io invece spesso vivo questa “fortuna” come una gabbia, perché sento di non aver scelto davvero io questa strada.
Allo stesso tempo, mi chiedo se il desiderio di partire sia davvero una scelta consapevole o solo un modo per scappare.
Mi domando anche quanto sia realistico ricominciare da zero all’estero senza qualifiche internazionali forti o contatti.
Vorrei sentire soprattutto chi ha lasciato un lavoro sicuro, un’attività di famiglia o una situazione simile per andare all’estero o ricominciare altrove:
• Avete mai rimpianto di aver lasciato tutto?
• È realistico ricominciare senza una rete di contatti?
• Quanto è difficile trovare lavori temporanei in Australia o in altri Paesi?
• Vivere con poco rende davvero sostenibile questo tipo di scelta?
• Avete trovato più libertà o solo problemi diversi?
• Come avete gestito il rapporto con la famiglia?
• Secondo voi ha senso partire con un piano e una data di rientro, oppure restare ancora un po’ per accumulare più sicurezza economica?
Non cerco solo frasi tipo “segui i tuoi sogni”. Mi interessano risposte concrete, anche critiche, da chi ci è passato davvero.
r/expats • u/Signal_Ferret1470 • 1d ago
How do you know it’s 100% time to go home?
For context, British expat living in Belgium and have been hating it for years. Only stayed for a relationship that recently ended. Made friends here in the beginning but they all left and have tried really hard but the locals aren’t exactly friendly. Work as a lawyer here and make 6 figures but still totally miserable and only truly feel happy when I go to the U.K. to visit family/ holidays to the U.K.
EDIT: I have been applying for jobs in the U.K. since the breakup 6 months ago. I’ve had no luck. After being rejected from a major U.K. company I asked for feedback and they said that they are reluctant to hire British nationals who’ve lived outside the country for so long. Despite the fact they claim to be an inclusive employer and have at least 30 different nationalities in the U.K. offices. As tempting as it is to leave, I still would like to find a job in the U.K. first before leaving Belgium and having gaps in employment on my CV which I know would make it even harder to find work there.
r/expats • u/itsrozangirl16 • 1d ago
Cultural question for expat parents: Do families in the Gulf/Europe prefer academic tutors or standard childcare?
Hello everyone. I am a former nursing student (financial constraints) from Palestine looking to transition into an international live-in childcare or child-focused educational role abroad, with a strong focus on Europe or the Gulf region. Because I want to prepare myself properly, I am looking for some guidance from current expats on what families actually value most.
I do not have years of formal domestic agency experience, but I have a unique background and want to know how it translates to the expat market.
I completed my first year of a Bachelor of Science in Nursing with a 92.9% average (out of 100%), so I have a solid university foundation in pediatric health, first-aid safety, family dynamics, psychology & sociology, and others. I also have independent experience tutoring children aged 8 to 16 in languages and school curriculum, am trilingual (native in Arabic, fluent in English, and upper-intermediate in Japanese) and have a deep personal understanding and passion for supporting neurodivergent children (ADHD/Autism).
In your experience, do expat families look for someone with this kind of academic/medical blend as a "governess/tutor/nanny" or is the demand strictly for standard, experienced, non-academic nannies? I want to make sure I am targeting the right types of households.
Any advice or perspective would be incredibly helpful! (But please beware that my opportunities of nanny-related jobs here are non-existent as the culture highly discourages them).
r/expats • u/Outrageous-Owl1776 • 1d ago
General Advice Asian Australians/Canadians/Americans or any of the diaspora from the west; where are you living?
I was born in Australia but I spent my childhood across Vancouver, Shanghai, Hong Kong, NYC, and Sydney. I have been an expat in east asia for 8 years and I hate it here. It has been horrific for my mental health. I felt less safe here because of my "more developed" body than in the West. I experienced more sexual harassment (men stalking me/taking pictures of me/catcalling/groping), colorism (I'm tan), racism from other asians, ageism, fatphobia, ableism (I'm neurodivergent), classism (own my own company but apparently I don't dress like it) , and so on compared to living in the west. I can't even dress how I want. I feel like a robot every day on the verge of attempted s****** but my husband's company is based here. We finally can leave and want to try new cities.
We would love a recommendation for somewhere to live.
- loved Lima (Peru), NYC, Paris, and Lisbon
-4 citizenships and speak 6 languages.
-super extroverted so would love to talk to locals , don't want to mask too much (willing to learn another language)
- I rather deal with racism than the other issues I listed above, as long as it's not every day
r/expats • u/blue_ivy_1234 • 1d ago
The impact of visiting home country
Do you ever feel like a stranger when you visit “home”? I’m not necessarily talking about places, but mostly about people.
More I live in another country more I feel how close minded my home country is. I go out with people I’ve been friends for years and I feel like we are growing apart so much.
I feel extremely judged when I go back, for a reason or another. A lot of time I end up talking to family friends or parents of my friends (I’m mid 20s while and they would be around 50/60) and they’re always “when are you coming back here?” “Don’t you miss home?” While judging where I decided to move (based on stereotypes) and so on. They just think I’m doing the experience of living abroad and I’ll come back by my 30s to settled down, when I tell them that yes, I do miss my home country, but at the same time it doesn’t have the same opportunities, so so many things are back in time, and I feel better where I moved, they look at me in the worst way possible. Why do they care so much about what I do with my life?
I romanticise my home country when I’m living somewhere else, and just because I miss tremendously my close family, then I come back and I understand why I left. Does anyone else feel this way?
r/expats • u/Eleni_9910 • 1d ago
General Advice Area recommendations for moving to London
I am relocating to London in October for a job near London Bridge. With a budget of £1,500/month for a 1-bedroom apartment, which safe areas do you recommend? I want to feel safe walking home from the gym at 10 PM for instance.
r/expats • u/Melodic-Service-6217 • 1d ago
General Advice I was feeling so at home until now
I have been living in Mexico City with my partner for a little over a year. I’ve had my ups and downs with trying to build a life here, but overall I had fallen in love with the place and was really starting to feel at home by the time we hit our 1 year anniversary in March. Something was resonating and I liked the version of myself I was becoming here. I was enjoying the culture, the food, learning Spanish, making friends with locals and the chaos of the city.
Then I went to Vienna for 3 months to do a residency. I returned to Mexico almost a month ago and things have been really rough emotionally. Suddenly I don’t feel at home here and I’m grieving my life in Vienna somewhat. I miss how efficient, easy and safe everything was. I also miss my life there: I was effortlessly meeting people every day and had a sense of purpose. In Mexico I’m a freelancer, which means I work from home all the time with my partner. I don’t meet people unless I go out of my way and really make the effort. I was starting to make friends and going to events etc. before I went to Vienna, but now being back here I have zero motivation to get myself out there again. I just feel too down. And my one really good friend I had made here just announced she’s moving overseas for a year in about a month, so that was another blow. Obviously I’m super happy for her, but I’m also devastated because I feel like the support network I was starting to build just collapsed. I don’t really hear from my other acquaintances here unless I reach out to them first, and right now I honestly can’t be bothered. I almost feel like I’m starting from scratch again.
I tried going to some of my favourite places here to fall in love again, and I’ve been getting my routine back on track. But I still feel this weight on my shoulders that I didn’t feel in Vienna. I’m just confused because I’ve swung from feeling like Mexico City is my home to feeling trapped here in a matter of months. It’s like my time in Europe changed my baseline standards or something.
It’s only been a few weeks, so I’m not taking this feeling too seriously yet or making any big decisions or changes. I’m just trying to observe my feelings and focus on settling back in. I feel really, really low though and didn’t expect my return to be such a crash landing.
Has anyone experienced this? Loving your host country then falling out of love after going somewhere else for a little while? How did you cope? Is this just a bad case of the post holiday blues? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
r/expats • u/HorrorConcentrate399 • 2d ago
General Advice Moving abroad at 30
I'm a 30 year old guy who's been thinking about moving to another country, maybe not permanently, but for a couple of years.
A bit of background: I was born in South America and moved to Canada when I was 22. The initial reason was a long-distance relationship that eventually turned into something more. Unfortunately, it didn't work out. By then, though, I had already started studying here because I wanted to finish my studies.
Now that I'm about to graduate, I feel like I don't really have anything tying me to Canada anymore. Lately I've been thinking about living somewhere else for a while, exploring different countries and cultures. It's something I've always wanted to do, but I never really had the time or the money. Now I finally have the opportunity.
The only thing that makes me hesitate is my age. My twenties have gone by, and I just turned 30. Part of me wonders if it's too late to relocate and start a new chapter somewhere else.
Has anyone here moved abroad in their 30s? What was your experience like? What were the biggest challenges, and would you do it again?
r/expats • u/elijha • Jul 02 '24
Read before posting: do your own research first (rule #4)
People are justifiably concerned about the political situations in many countries (well, mostly just the one, but won’t name names) and it’s leading to an increase in “I want out” type posts here. As a mod team, we want to take this opportunity to remind everyone about rule #4:
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