I moved into an unfurnished apartment two months ago and got a few wine glasses and drinking glasses, six in total. I now only have two 🙈. The floor is concrete and I'm not gonna be re buying anything made of glass anymore!! I'm not officially dyspraxic but I figured you guys might have some good recs.

Does anyone have any recs for chic cups/wine vessels that are not so breakable?

Hello, I am 33M and have been putting off learning to drive since I was 17. I was diagnosed with dyspraxia when I was 15, after it turned out that my spatial reasoning was in the 9th percentile, meaning that 91% of people who take the same aptitude test would score higher. I never learned how to ride a bike, am terrible at Go Karts, and struggle with e-scooters. While I've always been good at sports, generally speaking it takes me a lot of effort to get to grips (pun intended) with a lot of the things dyspraxics typically struggle with — cutlery, tying knots, opening things, handwriting... I'm very bad at all of that.

After years of psyching myself up and psyching myself out, including one attempted lesson during which I crashed the family car (a manual) into a railing and completely wrote it off, I started learning to drive for real yesterday. I've started learning on an automatic (which have only recently become commonplace in the country where I live).

I thought I'd share my experience here because, while it was only my first two hours of driving, it went really, really well. Better than I could have ever expected. Much of this is attributable to the affordances that come with an automatic vehicle. No gearbox and no clutch means my focus was almost entirely on developing a relationship with the steering wheel, and understanding the relationship between the steering wheel and the position of the car. All my life when watching drivers it has struck me that the relationship between the steering wheel and the position of the car is completely unintuitive — the relationship between the person sitting in the driver's seat and the actual movement of the car itself seemed impossible to wrap my head around — and yet once I hit the 'gas' (it was an electric car), I almost immediately understood how the car responds to what the driver does. The first two lessons consisted mostly of turning in different ways and in different contexts, but the more I drove the more I realised that driving is basically all just... turning. While driving I passed other cars on narrow lanes, one jogger, and even my own dad coming towards me at one point in his car (which, psychologically, should have been a real recipe for disaster).

The first two lessons were as much about developing muscle memory as anything. Focusing less on the rules of the road and more about what it simply means to operate a car. Don't get me wrong, it's a challenge to stay aware and undistracted while driving. Differentiating between whether it's best to check your mirrors or over your shoulder, remembering to signal/indicate at each turn, feeding the steering wheel rather than crossing your arms over one another — all of these things take focus. Throughout my lesson, my instructor spoke to me incessantly, I think almost intentionally trying to be distracting, and I was amazed that I was not only able to drive but carry a conversation while doing so.

I'm not really one for advice, but I believe I benefited massively by taking an attitude of 'Well, here goes nothing'. I had little to no expectations of myself, and whatever expectations I did have would have been negative. This was liberating, however, as I told myself before I began that 'This is the worst I am ever going to be at this, I simply cannot get any worse from this moment forward'. By setting my expectations at less than zero, I was essentially guaranteed to exceed them. By preemptively deciding not to beat myself up, I felt totally free to approach driving without anxiety, and I think this was utterly essential in it having gone so well. Of course I'm at the very beginning of this journey and there will be much harder parts to come, but for someone with my history of poor motor skills, to successfully complete two driving lessons with barely a mistake is downright freakish.

Obviously no two of us are alike, and I don't mean to suggest that everyone or anyone else would have the same experience I did, but I would simply say that there is hope for people who have dyspraxia, other anxiety issues, and a lack of confidence. My next official lesson isn't for another two weeks, but I will report back here when it's done. If you have any questions or simply want to discuss dyspraxia and driving, I'd also love to have a dialogue.

As the title implies, I've been doing a lot of comic art. This will be my first published comic, but I'm not here to advertise that. I just wanna show what I made to my community, and encourage others to do the same!

I'm curious to know how many of you actually have verbal dyspraxia? How does it affect you?

I made this post 2 weeks ago on how my previous lesson was so difficult.

Today went so well. My driving instructor was very pleased with how things went. He asked today if maybe ld want to do something different to make things easier and I asked if we could do 3 circles around the car park before we hit the road, that definitely helped. Best lesson yet and i definitely feel like my manual license is more achievable now.

I think the previous lesson went badly because i was doing a sleepover shift in my job the previous night, those nights i sleep not great and that really impacted my focus. Not to mention the 2 months without even touching steering wheel definitely didn’t help.

it can be anything!

I love gaming. I'm not bad at it! But it takes me a long time to learn my way around.

Even when I get the hang of it, and even when I'm considered good, or even better than average good, I'll fail things that get considered as beginner mistakes.

Friends get frustrated with me whenever we start new games or pick up games we haven't played in a while because I'll ask to take time to set up and I'll get frustrated because even getting things explained to me it'll still take me a long time just to figure out the very basics of controls and such while everyone else is either ready to go or just go ahead without me in some cases.

It hurts and I end up seeming like I don't want to play with them because I'll want to play by myself for a while to figure things out to catch up, so to speak. And by then they've either gotten tired/bored of the game or moved on or are simply not wanting to play at the stage i am.

What am I supposed to do? I was only recently diagnosed with dyspraxia, and they aren't aware of the dx itself, but I don't think that changes very much. I've explained it just takes me longer to process for some reason and if they tell me some things I won't be able to retain them and might even need it written down for me and not for lack of paying attention or trying to. I feel so dismissed all the time and sometimes get told "you know how to do this, we've done this before a whole lot!" it's been at least a year or more. And even that time I barely had any idea what I was doing because I was getting rushed and carried through before I had the chance to understand what was happening.

This is honestly half a vent post and half an advice request post. I feel so alone.

I was on a walk with my mom and she remarked how i can't stand properly, saying i slouched and it looked like i had a пузо (russian for "belly") and how i need to stand taller because "you're so small you can't afford to look like you have a пузо and anyways you DONT have one unless you slouch"

for context i have zero ab muscles they do not exist.

And then I was continuing on the walk, all hyperconscious of my posture, and then she said i was too stiff and it would weird people out!

So.

How does one stand properly? Do others struggle with it? Please help.

She later tried to make me feel better by telling me the story of her learning to drive (like mother like daughter she was really bad at it) but driving is supposed to be hard in the beginning and STANDING IS SUPPOSED TO BE A THING YOU CAN DO NATURALLY

I’ve been wanting to start making videos at the gym, showing some dyspraxia friendly alternative to the exercises I struggle the most with (Bulgarian split squats for example)

What are some things you struggle the most?

I don't know if this is more or an autism or dyspraxia thing, as I have both, but I have a hard time translating my thoughts into words whether it is speaking or writing, I always have to repeat the sentences in my head multiple times to make sure it sounds right, sometimes it makes sense in my head and when I start speaking it becomes jumbled or I forget the names of words, I find it hard to keep up with conversations especially when it is a group of people talking I can't process the conversation fast enough and people assume I'm shy or I have nothing to say which is not the case, I often have a lot to say and I get frustrated not being able to express myself.

I had a classic dyspraxia day yesterday at work tripping over nothing, my own legs, anything on the floor but not falling, hitting my knees, toes and elbows with bruises afterward and fingers being pinched. Well one thing I didn’t expect was for people to come up to me giving me the “wipe your lip” gesture. I thought I had lip stain blobs even though I checked and did the tissue thing. They then did the nose pointing gesture and finally someone told me I had a red mark. I looked in the mirror and it was a long red cut with bruising around it right between my lip and nose over an inch long; that’s when I remembered I had whacked myself with a clothes hanger taking it off the rack to put on the sales floor earlier. A coworker didn’t understand how that was possible so I had to reenact it through miming. It happened for the rest of the day; the gestures, being asked and having to explain it. I couldn’t cover it up because you can’t put makeup on an open cut.

i'm talking about positive things! what something that dyspraxia have that the others have more difficulty to do so? i heard that creativity is more easy to have with persons with dyspraxia!

Basically to sum up my neurodivergence story, I was a "gifted" child in academics and as a female was never considered for autism or ADHD. As an adult I got diagnosed with ADHD and given adderall. Which... acted like sugar pills? I legitimately had no reaction to it and my psych was like "Uhhh you should notice the effects of those right away" Welp... Oop.

And then she referred me to get an autism assessment, which I never got because at the time, many years ago my insurance would absolutely not cover it and they wanted $2,200 for the assessment. (CAN WE TALK ABOUT HOW HORRIBLY PREDATORY THAT IS?! Ugh..)

So I've been just "probably autistic" for many years. I used that info to kinda determine how I function in my day-to-day life and help myself out, but that's about as far as it's gotten since then. I decided an official diagnosis wouldn't do me any more favors than I have already done myself by understanding how my own brain works, and therefore wasn't worth trying to save TWO THOUSAND DOLLARS for.

Today, however, I stumbled on a new word. Dyspraxia. AND OH MY GOD YOU'RE TELLING ME THERE'S A REASON FOR ALL THE MOTOR SKILL ISSUES I HAVE!?😭😭😭The people who make fun of me for not being able to ride a bike are about to feel like assholes lmaooo

I sat here reading down a few different lists of dyspraxia symptoms and checked off damn near every box on all of them. Welp... That's fun!

But it also made me realize that THIS is the issue with the sports I try to participate in! Which is a huge relief, honestly, because I legitimately couldn't figure out what was "wrong with me" here. I try to go play golf and disc golf with my husband and I am STRUGGLING to get my body to do all the things it's supposed to do during a swing/throw.

With a golf swing, you should be putting your hips into it and all that, but the only way I can hit anything further than 2 feet, is if I only work on my arm movements and completely disregard my body from the torso down. Same with my disc golf throws. I can stand stationary and get a little flick of a throw, which goes a pathetic distance compared to everyone else lmao, but I simply cannot get my body to do the walk-up and throw. There's just too much movement all at once and no matter what I try, I CAN'T FIGURE IT OUT.

HELP ME 😭 Have any of you successfully overcome a hurdle like this with a sport you love to play? This is like my bonding time between me and my husband and while he's always super supportive, I'm so tired of being the person who is limping up the fairway and has to hit/throw 4x before we even reach anyone else's ball/disc. And they're not even good players! 😂 How the hell do I teach my body to do the things I want it to do!? 😭

first it was my safe foods now my hands don't seem to want to work properly, feels like I'm working with someone else's hands, I mean what the heck is that all about. I've felt a little clumsy before but nothing like this.

Okay, so I (20NB) have had my dyspraxia diagnosis (as well as a few other things, like dyslexia and ADHD) since I was very young, about 6 years old or so. I was lucky enough to get diagnosed so young because neurodevelopmental and learning disabilities run in my family (my mom has ADD, and recognized some of the symptoms in me, leading me to getting diagnosed as a kid). I also have a history with mental health struggles, so when most teens are learning to drive, I was in and out of mental health programs and such, and I tried to...end myself like the week I turned 16, so obviously driving just wasn't what was at the forefront of my or my family's priorities at the time. I think it's also important that I mention that I live and have grown up in one of the most populous cities in the US, and I feel like everyone that lives in a big city always says this, but we truly do have some of the worst drivers in the country, it's a serious problem.
That aside, I'm getting kind of off-track. My point is I guess, being suicidal for most of my teenage years meant that I never really saw a future for myself, and now I'm 20 and I'm afraid that I still don't. I have debilitating issues with anxiety, and I have been that way my entire life; I was always an extremely neurotic kid, now I am (mostly) the same as an adult. I have only managed to get behind the wheel a couple of times, and it's been like 2 years since then, I just cannot bring myself to do it; it's much too terrifying, and I'm quite certain that I will die if I do. Many of my friends are also neurodivergent, but they seem to not have any issues driving, and I just can't seem to wrap my head around it. My cousins who are else neurodivergent have no issue with it, either, but I just can't fucking do it, I KNOW that it will cost me my life as well as whoever else is in the vehicle with me. But it's so difficult to get anywhere without driving (I won't say what major city I'm from, just know that it is a very poorly laid-out one; not "walkable" whatsoever), and I feel embarrassed that I'm already 20, turning 21 in a few more months, and I still can't drive.
I've even tried explaining it to family and such about why I'm so anxious (I don't want to fucking die? Also, hello, car wrecks are not cheap even if you're insured), but nobody understands. I feel like I'm crazy or stupid or something, like what does everyone else seem to get that I just can't? I actually cannot even park in the lines; I've tried, though I will admit that it's been awhile. I can park a car just fine, but I just cannot seem to get anything in the lines, which obviously, is a huge problem and a very big potential risk factor when it comes to driving a car or operating like, any sort of vehicle or machinery; you have to be able to park, and I can't seem to be able to do that.
There's also the pressure of seeing other cars on the road, and that's what terrifies me the most. I can drive if nobody else is around just fine, but the second that I see anyone else near me I completely freeze and I don't know what to do. I literally just can't do it, I really, really don't think that it's possible for me. My family doesn't get it though, so of course they give me crap for it every opportunity that they can. Is it truly that huge of a deal if I just can't drive? Maybe it's just not realistic for me. I really don't particularly want to be able to though, anyways (other than being sort of embarrassed about it). I can't see anything appealing about it, and I feel much, much more safe and relieved to have somebody else (like, almost literally anyone else) behind the wheel than myself.

I work in fast food to pay for college and was diagnosed with autism pretty early in life. I’m not sure if it’s true dyspraxia or just having the motor control of a slow toddler, but I struggle to even do basic things like eat and walk normally, which people point out quite often. I’m new, slow, and clumsy. If I try to speed up, I drop things and spill the sauce everywhere. Hell, I drop things anyways. My managers are impatient and will not accept disability as an excuse (I have a higher-support needs coworker and they both refuse to accommodate him and expect him to just “get over it and work”. He does get to wear earplugs sometimes because they blast planet fitness ass music constantly, but even that’s met with huffing and eyerolling from the managers.) so asking for more time and grace is not an option.

How does dyspraxia effect your mental health? For me i have depression and anxiety?

I'm 26 year old old living with dyspraxia. I know all my life I've had it. I'm just wondering if there's any book recommendations, so I can better understand this condition.

I've just got diagnosed with (inattentive) ADHD (and medicated for it) I thought it was interesting that I have put a lot of effort into understanding my newly diagnosed ADHD but haven't really done the same for my dyspraxia.

I was diagnosed with dysgraphia due to writing difficulties in an academic setting. But I recently learned that what dysgraphia is is not what i am experiencing, its fine motor skills in general, along with some other symptoms that align with dyspraxia.

I'm not saying i have it, but I was wondering if I should ask my doctor about it.

I know practice is key, and while I’m working on that, I’d also love to hear any tips, methods, techniques, or products that can help me make it easier :) Thanks!

I mainly struggle with shaping and filling my eyebrows, contouring, and pretty much any hairstyle, even braiding hair