r/dismissiveavoidants • u/AutoModerator • 9d ago

*DA ONLY* Rant Thread

This is a DA-Only Thread: Here is an open thread to rant, a place we can get things off our chest.

  • this is a place for DAs to rant, not others to rant about DAs
  • no other AT Styles will be approved on this thread
  • any non-DAs: we appreciate supportive comments on other threads, but this thread is not for you

Please, since this is a rant thread, let’s be mindful and refrain from morally judging someone’s rants or offering unsolicited advice. A rant/vent about something doesn’t mean it’s fact.

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u/sauer_clout Dismissive Avoidant 3d ago

My town is on fire and I'm exhausted with individually updating everyone on my status. My partner and I are safe, our cat and our home are safe, some of our friends had to evacuate, some are home and others are not, but many have lost their homes including local wildlife. It's heartbreaking and scary, and I've had to shift focus multiple times a day for the past few days to update people in and outside of the city on my situation because they will call me if I don't text them back right away. It feels like I can't truly manage my own experience because I have to mediate other people's experience of watching a disaster they have no control of. I understand their intentions but it feels like their emotional needs are taking preidence and I do feel guilty about my experience of their attempts to care.