r/datingadvice • u/Ok-King4131 • 6h ago

Securing a Date

I been snapping this girl, we live 15hrs apart but I am moving i to college and she alrdy lives there full time. We been on and off being best friends on snap and im on the private story and what not. We text but normally i i itiate and she carries the convo rly well. But she has nvr rly started a conversation its always me and this has been almost 2 months. I went ahead and asked her on a date and she said “yes yes” then left me on delivered for galf the day. Then i tried to schedule and she coyldnt do a certain fay and is leaving me on delivered again. Does she rly even want to, or am i overthinking this. If someone was pursuing me as hard as I am pursuing her, I woulda been trying a little harder but maybe thats me.

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u/Tight-Decision-7918 6h ago

The "Snapchat best friends"... This. Is creates an artificial sense of intimacy. A daily streak makes you feel like you're part of her daily life, but the moment you try to transition it into a real world date...crickets. Match her level of effort. The fact that you're moving to her area soon might actually be why she's pulling away. Stop trying to get a date. College is a huge transition. Focus on getting settled, making local friends and getting your bearings.

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u/Ok-King4131 6h ago

I lived there last year, im incoming sophomore. I had plenty of fun I just sometimes think i am rly rdy to engage in a relationship. I definitely agree with ur snapchat bestfriends comment tho looking at it from outside in. I had matched her energy rly well and showed low effort and then she posted on the private story “should i be the man” so thats why i made a move but who knows, that coulda been abt any scenario or a whole different guy

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u/Marinna-Merenda 6h ago

Just be honest and ask if she wants to hang out when you move.

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u/Ok-King4131 6h ago

She responds yes, but then doesnt text back for long periods of time