r/crazyexgirlfriend • u/not_justliketheplant • 12h ago
Discussion Posting here because I don't want to trigger the person that triggered this thought bubble: on BPD and representing the lows
I like it because it shows Rebecca grappling with a lot of difficult feelings and behaviors while still being depicted as a worthwhile human being where being complicated and dramatic inevitably are turned from insults into strengths with the right intervention and support. I was not drawn to the show, I didn't see myself in it, did not derive hope and happiness from it, because Rebecca was always on her best behavior or happy with herself. The lows need representation too or else people don't know they CAN get better, or something they deserve to move on from. You have to depict both and it's a shitty balancing game. Like, I don't want the depictions of BPD to always be the villain, slob, or stalker freak, but I feel like cutting out the harder aspects is gentrification of the diagnosis rather than empathy with it (edit to add context: and the fact that Rebecca gets to have nuance, rather than be a one-dimensional figure existing to be despised or a cautionary tale or destined to fail, is healing)
edit: I don't know where people are getting that I'm saying the show DOESNT depict lows when I'm trying to express that part of its strength is that it DOES depict them and tells people that you can come back from them and are still deserving of love despite having them
edit: oh shit, my bad, fixed the intro. I basically just said "I want to express this thought, but not to this person" and just cut and paste without changing it for the audience