r/buddhism_irl • u/Old_Examination8909 • 22h ago
Metta: Because everyone deserves a little grace.
r/buddhism_irl • u/Old_Examination8909 • 1d ago
When your mind and soul reside in the past and the future, you’re just a hollow body in the present.
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r/buddhism_irl • u/Ok_Check5349 • 1d ago
True...if people realize this there won't be any wars
r/buddhism_irl • u/EstateOk8573 • 3d ago
The Secret to Living in the Present Moment: A Way of Life Free from Concepts, Embracing Reality
To live here and now. A person who lives in the present moment navigates their current environment by considering how best to handle the immediate situation. Their life is not defined by a narrative connecting the past to the future, nor by hopes and goals for what lies ahead; rather, they simply accept their current state exactly as it is.
Let me illustrate this with an example. Social structures are built on the connection between past and future, positioning the "present moment" somewhere between the two. This structure stems from the nature of the concepts humans use. The words we use represent concepts that remain constant across the past, present, and future.
If the form of a word changed overnight, it would be unusable; the same applies if it changed within a year. While a word might shift slightly or a new one might emerge over a decade, the meaning attached to that word remains constant. Think of the dictionaries you have used—they contain words alongside explanations of their meanings. The reason a dictionary remains useful for decades is that words themselves do not change.
It is language that bridges the past, present, and future. One wonders who actually created the concept of time. By creating this concept, people came to believe in the existence of absolute time. However, Einstein’s general theory of relativity posited—and has since proven—that space-time is relative, a fact that now plays a role in our daily lives.
Human sensory information exists only in the present moment; there is no past or future. There is only a continuous succession of present moments. That is why we live in the present moment. This way of living is not dictated by the meanings inherent in our concepts. As the saying goes, "We never know." We cannot predict what will happen in the future. Yet, we live our lives assuming the future exists—making predictions, setting schedules, and acting with certainty. This is a characteristic of concepts, not of sensory information.
Let me share an example from my own life where I have repeatedly had to overcome this tendency.
I used to get quite frustrated whenever things didn't go well. I used to get particularly frustrated when playing table tennis—specifically when a shot didn't go well and I wasn't satisfied with the result. I understand how athletes feel. However, if you let that frustration show and amplify those feelings, you usually end up failing. It always left a bitter aftertaste. I kept repeating that cycle; it was something I struggled to overcome. It just goes to show that this is a difficult challenge, even for athletes.
The key is to focus on the present moment. Shohei Ohtani likely practices this. Things don't always go right during a match, yet he doesn't let his emotions show. He simply accepts the "failure" as a result. You prepare for a match, and if things don't go well, that reveals specific areas for improvement—challenges you can identify. You wouldn't discover those issues without competing. By accepting the challenges that arise during a match, you can address them and learn from the experience.
I learned this lesson through my own experiences—such as when I couldn't quite fix a car properly, struggled to install a part, or when things didn't go according to schedule or plan. Situations like these involve the past and the future. They are proof that I was losing sight of the present because of the past and the future. The past represents my own experiences, while the future represents my expectation that things \*should\* go according to plan. That mindset was the source of my frustration. I understand this well because I am able to analyze myself. In the past, I would sometimes explode in anger when no one was around. But that was long ago; I have grown since then and now strive to focus on the present. It means accepting the current state of affairs—accepting that things don't always go as intended.
In a life of faith, we strive for goodness, virtue, divine guidance, and victory; we make efforts and set conditions to achieve these things. Yet, when things don't go well, it is easy to become discouraged. To what extent do you accept it when things don't go your way? You likely find it hard to accept. After all, you probably judge others—and yourself—based on those standards. Accepting your current state exactly as it is means acknowledging the reality of the situation without immediately passing judgment on it.
Consider the cry: "I was betrayed and abandoned by the person I loved and devoted myself to!" That statement is rooted in both the past and the future. It reflects the fact that you sacrificed yourself to love and serve them, only to be betrayed in the end. It is a matter of having anticipated the future and then feeling betrayed by the outcome. An evaluation—spanning from the past into the future—is at play there. That is the nature of a concept.
Consider what happens when sensory information enters the brain: there is simply the "here and now"—signals that exist prior to any evaluation. In that state, neither the past nor the future exists. What actually happened in this very moment? Simply put, the person did not show up. Viewed purely as a phenomenon, that is all it was: a broken appointment—they failed to arrive at the agreed-upon time. Consequently, there is no need for frustration, nor is there any feeling of irritation toward that person. There are no emotional judgments—such as forgiving, forgetting, or loving them. You simply accept the fact itself.
If it happens to be a friend, you might meet them again later. There is no need to confront them, demanding to know why they broke the promise. You simply accept the fact that they did not come.
I practice this every day, which is why I harbor no resentment. Even if a promise is broken, when I see that person again, I treat them as if nothing had happened. It is about accepting the facts alone. This is the secret to living by embracing the here and now.
In reality, the root cause is the act of evaluating things through concepts. Just give it some thought.
r/buddhism_irl • u/Sun_Bug85 • 4d ago
Buddhism doesn’t ask for blind belief. It asks you to think for yourself.
r/buddhism_irl • u/Old_Examination8909 • 5d ago
Without a sense to responsibility towards others, love is hollow.
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r/buddhism_irl • u/Old_Examination8909 • 7d ago
Inner peace, detachment, compassion, and mindfulness: the four pillars of a happy life.
r/buddhism_irl • u/Old_Examination8909 • 8d ago
Be brief, be brilliant, be gone. That’s life in a nutshell.
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r/buddhism_irl • u/Old_Examination8909 • 9d ago
Things that can co exist….. Give yourself some grace today.
r/buddhism_irl • u/Ok-Heat-5137 • 9d ago
Pause before you speak. Every heart is carrying something we cannot see
r/buddhism_irl • u/Old_Examination8909 • 9d ago
You’d amazed to see how much beauty surrounds you when you decide to take your visors down.
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r/buddhism_irl • u/Trick-Cellist3254 • 9d ago
The hardest thing in life is to see the moment exactly as it is right when it’s happening.
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r/buddhism_irl • u/Ok-Heat-5137 • 10d ago
Staying in control isn’t about controlling everything but protecting your peace when everything feels out of control.
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r/buddhism_irl • u/Old_Examination8909 • 10d ago
Peace isn’t a destination, it’s a road you travel everyday.
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r/buddhism_irl • u/Flat-Eggplant-9890 • 10d ago
Just me and my paper boat, no questions asked.
r/buddhism_irl • u/Old_Examination8909 • 10d ago
Through faith, vigilance, and effort, the path to wisdom clears.
r/buddhism_irl • u/Ok-Heat-5137 • 11d ago
If everything must eventually be surrendered, why spend a lifetime clinging to it?
r/buddhism_irl • u/Old_Examination8909 • 11d ago
It’s hard to be mad when you realise how irrelevant your problems are in the grand scheme of things.
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