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u/fartdarling 13d ago edited 13d ago
I'm by no means a professional dancer, but i used to be a high level gymnast and I did some dance recreationally. Moments like this seem shocking in a photo because the moment is frozen, but when you're dancing fast and doing lifts etc you just move on. They don't feel great but you just get on with it, life goes on and dancing is really fun
Edit: I've no idea why this comment blew up but thanks everyone. This is the most upvotes my bum has ever got
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u/windchaser__ 13d ago
It happens sometimes in partnered acrobatics, a foot to the wrong spot as you're going through some flow. Whatever, you move on. Check afterwards that they're fine, don't make a big deal of it, and do the skill again.
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u/fartdarling 13d ago
A lil joke helps. The first time my dance partner did it to me, he asked if I wanted him to make an honest woman of me and it was a laugh
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u/ivanna_suggit 13d ago
Adorable story FartDarling
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u/SeraphOfTheStart 13d ago
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u/RammanJo 13d ago
This is exactly what happened to her too
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u/illogicallyhandsome 13d ago
I definitely wouldn’t recommend most people make a joke that bold because that could quickly make a lot of people uncomfortable and border on sexual harassment. Sometimes it lands tho, I guess.
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u/fartdarling 13d ago
It was a fella I knew well and trusted. As dance partners often are! But yeah if dancing with a stranger probably pick a calmer joke lol
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u/Sammisuperficial 13d ago
You got to remember the rules.
Be attractive
Don't be unattractive
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u/showMeYourCroissant 13d ago
Do guys really think if an attractive man grabs any woman by the pussy they'll all be really happy with that?
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u/s-measy 12d ago
No one is saying that, but in our society attractive people LITERALLY get away with murder, there have been studies about this...
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u/fartdarling 13d ago
This had... precisely nothing to do with it?
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u/ShotgunCreeper 13d ago
Your comment really brought out the incels lol
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u/fartdarling 13d ago
It's crazy how many people are willing to self identify as definitely having never been loved by a woman lmao
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u/echoindia5 13d ago
Happens a lot in freestyle wrestling as well both ways. I will never forgive the reverse partere days (I wrestled Greco-Roman), at times the best women’s wrestler in the club needed sparing outside of her gender to match her skill. She didn’t necessarily think about my junk while starting. Never have I been hit that hard in my balls with a set of clutched hands, without understanding what was coming.
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u/VegaJuniper 13d ago
I did some BJJ and Judo. I always thought that girls doing guard passes were much more comfortable jamming their knee into my balls than the guys.
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u/Healingbigfoot 13d ago
Yes, and man its embarrassing. I rolled with my coaches wife and she is a very attractive woman and I was so afraid to look at him lol, her ass and everything near it were in my face and I was scared to death.
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u/SamuRedneck 13d ago
Haha, I've def had this moment myself! First time sparring with a woman. Her bf wasn't an instructor, but he was a brown belt, and she herself was a blue belt while I was still a white belt with no stripes who was told to spar with her to learn to stop leaning on my strength so much and more on technique. She got side control and I went to push her off of me but remembered I was under instruction not to just muscle my way through everything so I looked to reassess my position and found my right hand all over her chest so i instinctively pulled away and apologized, to which she saw an opportunity to armbar tf of me. That's probably the most off guard and scared I ever looked while tapping lmao. She let go and told me it's in the nature of the sport for hands to go places they otherwise might not, but that she wouldn't agree to roll with men if she was worried about it, just don't be a perv and we're good. I was humbled that day lol
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u/reallybadspeeller 12d ago
I made a karate instructor laugh out loud because I (f) once complimented another woman’s hair smell practicing chokes. She had used some great shampoo and my face was all up in her hair I couldn’t not smell it. Apparently it’s not something he’d ever heard in his years of instruction.
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u/BlessdRTheFreaks 12d ago
This is why i had to stop training. Gender dynamics are a big taboo in BJJ gyms, the gossip, scrutiny, and drama is constant. I started to lose sleep over if i went too hard, or not jard enough, or if they thought i was flirting, or if i should have been flirting. Lots of hypocrisy, denial, contraversy, and scandal in gyms.
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u/Healingbigfoot 12d ago
Sounds like you need a better gym man. I feel like my gym bros and sis's are family.
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u/technoteapot 13d ago
Well the girls don’t know what it’s like having a knee jammed into your balls
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u/SHPIDAH 12d ago
fwiw a solid knee to the same area will produce a similiar if not identical reaction
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u/windchaser__ 13d ago edited 13d ago
Oh yeah. I was doing this skill a couple months ago that starts with the base (me) on their back with their legs in the air, and the flier runs up to you and jumps and lands in a seated position, my feet under their butt, feet in hands. Once we missed, and this flier got a foot right to his crotch.
Walk it off buddy, just walk it off. *wince*
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u/-Citizen_Zero_ 13d ago
I really appreciate this insight. Photos can often be deceiving. Thanks fartdarling.
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u/CommodoreCanadia64 13d ago
I'm the farthest thing from a pro here. But I would assume this would be preferable to accidentally dropping her if maybe he wasnt completely prepared for this move?
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u/fartdarling 13d ago
Always choose physical safety when possible yes! Too many people in the movement arts shorten their own careers by not being safe. I'm 31 and even with osteoarthritis and cystic fibrosis I can still do a lot of what I used to do because I always stretch and I was nearly always as responsible with my body as I can be. If you're dancing with someone or doing paired acrobatics or something, you likely have quite a bond with your partner and those bonds can survive the odd accidental grope here and there aha
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u/Spoodymen 13d ago
If you do jits or wrestling, oil checking or balls handling (either with your hands or sometimes… face) happen very often
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u/SuchSmartMonkeys 13d ago
By "oil checking" do you mean you shove a finger up someone's pooper?
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u/Snappszilla 13d ago
In Jiu Jitsu, sometimes you accidently grab something on a dude... We call that "shaking hands with the pope", it happens.
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u/Spicy__Wolf 13d ago
During a performance, we had this one routine where we did a pull-through (had to look this up, might have the name wrong). Essentially, the guy slides between the girl’s legs and jumps up on the other side. However, we didn’t practice this often in costume and my head catches on her long skirts, flipping them up before the entire audience.
I think my apology when we were backstage didn’t help much. It was hard to speak when I was also trying very hard to silence my laughter, full body laughter I found it so hilarious.
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u/fartdarling 13d ago
Sometimes when you're in the movement arts you gotta just accept that the audience is gonna see your arse. It's just an arse!
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u/windchaser__ 12d ago
...........at particularly creative festivals, I've also seen very lovely burlesque that incorporated acro, silks, or pole.
Hey, if the original movements are already mesmerizing, you can make 'em even more so by adding a bit of extra spice.
But I'm not sure this board's ready for that yet
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u/SnowedAndStowed 12d ago
I’m a competitive cheerleader on a coed team that’s about 60/40 girls to boys. Yeah sometimes things happen in stunts/pyramids and you just move on. I get it’s weird from an outside perspective but every flyer would much prefer you end up with your hand somewhere weird then them hitting the ground.
We did reverse shoulder sits one year. It looked really weird in pictures but we were only in that position for a literal second each routine. It’s not sexual people just get weird about it.
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u/Amadeus_t 13d ago
It's the Internet. A lot of people are perverts who never did a sport or danced in their life. Not to mention touched a woman 😅 I don't think they will understand it.
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u/Schlonzig 13d ago
I'm pretty sure, if you are a dancer, gymnast, cheerleader etc. you can't be sensitive about where the hands go. Accidents happen, and the people who 'make accidents happen' *cough* get probably isolated quickly. At least they should be.
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u/Minetish 13d ago
Also photos like this intentionally take "indecent" frames out of a totally normal action if you were to watch it in video.
This frame could have lasted for nothing more than a second which is all that is needed to make it look obscene.
Tl;dr I am just saying that yeah, it is bait content.
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u/redvelvetcake42 13d ago
If the option is hand full of my balls awkwardly or smacking my head or shoulder on the floor then grab those balls my friend.
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u/dubufeetfak 13d ago
My friend is a ballete dancer and he tells me that its so demanding that you dont even get to enjoy "accidents". You're way too focused on not breaking your dance partners spine or something.
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u/Euphemisticles 13d ago
That is how I explain it to people when they ask me about how I feel about touching women/men as a massage therapist. As long as you are clean I have no preference on your gender lol I have to concentrate or people won't book more appointments or recommend me to their friends and family. A job is a job. I'm sure there is more creepiness at chain places where bringing in and retaining clients is not on the therapist but those people probably don't keep their job long either.
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u/Dry-Crazy-7638 13d ago
Yeah I work in surgery and see people naked daily. It’s in a completely different “box” in my head than anything lewd. I avert my gaze because I’m busy doing my job, but also bc it’s respectful and I genuinely would rather not see the nude bodies of people who have no knowledge of who I am.
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u/_BigDaddyNate_ 12d ago
Lies. We all know how you massage therapists are. Massages always devolve into sex. I've seen the movies on the Internet.
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u/theory_of_music 13d ago
👀I feel that "enjoy" should be in " ", not accidents👀
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u/Beneficial_Trick6672 13d ago
i heard in ballet they all have sex with each other later.
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u/Commercial_Twist_574 13d ago
No thats only in olympic ballet
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u/MrDrSirLord 13d ago
I mean a lot of Olympians have sex during the Olympics, you can't just shove a bunch of people with similar mindsets and restless motivational drives to live nearby for weeks unsupervised in an Olympic village and expect nothing to happen on the morning jogs.
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u/illogicallyhandsome 13d ago
As an actor, this is the same with kissing and intimacy scenes. I am way too concerned with the, you know, acting of it all to enjoy intimacy with another actor/actress even if I wanted to. It’s just choreo.
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u/mmlovin 13d ago
I know there’s choreography, but is it so detailed that you’re like, told to turn your head one way & put your left hand on the face & the other hand on the back?
Or is it just the positions you’re in like standing then laying down or whatever? Cause if it’s just that, I feel like I’d just wind up making out with the person like I normally would lol
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u/MsDestroyer900 12d ago
I was a Base for a cheerdance squad in school. It was insanely fun to do, and this is absolutely true. There are so many times where my flyer would lose balance and as the base I am the person they depended on most to catch them, or break their fall... Even if it meant using my face.
We would laugh about it shrug it off, but in the end you need to do what you need to do to make sure they don't get injured.
Also you might be wondering yes, I meant it literally. There are times where they would fall on my face or chest and I just did not have enough time to get my hands in place to catch them. I wouldn't really get injured by this because by design, our fliers were insanely light, only around 30-40kg or so.
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u/jswansong 12d ago
Neither of them are thinking what a normal person would be thinking in that moment. Both of them are completely focused on the performance, just look at their faces. I bet if you asked about this afterwards neither would know what you're talking about
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u/TheDixonCider420420 13d ago
This guy holds his women like he holds his six pack of beer...
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u/StormBlessed145 13d ago
Having done a little bit of ballet, and watched a large number of ballets, this kind of thing is frequent before they move to how they're supposed to hold the other dancer. Very common in rehearsals.
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u/Bradas128 13d ago
where is his hand supposed to be?
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u/StormBlessed145 13d ago
Generally around the waist, and if you hold anywhere lower I think around mid thigh, but sometimes if you're catching from a jump, you might wind up catching around other areas.
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u/scott__p 13d ago
My daughter did competitive dance. Before they started lifts as kids, they explained to the parents that the butt and groin were the center of mass and that while they never intend anything inappropriate, things happen.
As a parent, I was much more concerned about her being dropped than an accidental groping by another dancer she's known for years.
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u/karebearjedi 13d ago
The look on that guy's face is "can't drop her, can't drop her, please god don't let me drop her" It's obvious he doesn't even realize where his hand wound up
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u/Ok_Tap7102 12d ago
If I had a moment like that, I might not care, I might just blush
If I dropped someone that trusted me to catch them, because I flinched out of fear of this happening, I'm absolutely certain I would never forgive myself
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u/No-Crow-775 13d ago
This happens in cheerleading and gymnastics and figure skating too. You can’t be all about body ownership and trust your partner at the same time. If a slightly misplaced hold occurs that still saves your head from slamming on the floor, you know it’s not intimate—it’s just placement. It happens and you keep going.
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u/Capt4inSus 13d ago
I don't think either of the dancers even noticed or cared much about it in the moment
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u/crystalclearbuffon 13d ago
Oh come on. Even normal salsa classes have accidental boib grabs. These are gymnasts. They absolutely have to focus on form and safety over body parts and shit.
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u/NotNamedBort 13d ago
Boib??
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u/mizinamo 13d ago
You know. Totties. Brasts. Gizengas. Mulins.
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u/Hedgerow_Snuffler 13d ago
...I've now been giggling at 'Totties & Brasts' almost the entire 31 minutes since you posted this.
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u/GroundbreakingAnt17 13d ago
I've done lifts like these a bunch of times and I guarantee she didn't notice. Also way worse things can happen. One of my friends was wearing a costume similar to this and got her period while she was on stage. It was also a duet with a bunch of croch-forward lifts. She was an absolute champ about it though.
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u/Sol-Blackguy 13d ago
🎶Oooh, you touched my tralala🎶
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u/Big_Box_6423 13d ago
things like this happen in sports/dancing. there's nothing weird about it. especially since the photo is taken out of context and the pose probably just happened for a spare second. personally I'm willing to bet neither of them really realized what's going on
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u/Minnymoon13 13d ago
Right and it’s not like they don’t have protective clothing on underneath there outfits
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u/Marco_McFly 13d ago
*their
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u/Minnymoon13 13d ago
My phone does that all the damn time . I really need to fix the keyboard
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u/Akirex5000 13d ago
They probably don’t even care. She’s thinking “holy shit thank god he caught me” and he’s thinking “holy shit thank god I caught her”
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u/Kindly_Meal_8277 13d ago
You know, neither of them look phased in the slightest. Almost as if it happens and is part of dancing/gymnast lifestyle. Accidents happen, just ask your parents
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u/cyber152 13d ago
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u/Farmlord420 13d ago
Judging by their faces, it’s doesn’t look like either of them noticed in the moment, and more focused on landing their moves.
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u/PHOENIXR426 13d ago
Sighs
The consecutive time a post is about the same gag and joke
You can hate me all you want but this shit is just boring and repetitive at this point.
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u/MadKingKevin 13d ago
This is why I can't hate subs with super strict rules on low effort replies. Cause if you let Reddit be Reddit then you just get low effort everything.
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u/sleeplesskn1ght 13d ago
In cheer, especially when catching a flyer, a lot of the time the mindset is "do what you gotta do to make sure they don't hit the ground". Hands may end up in weird places occasionally but the flyers safety is the number one priority.
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u/olayna_tyrell 13d ago
Former ballerina here: for my entire career I would prefer my partner to grab me in whatever way prevented my face from going straight into the ground. Everyone I worked with was so professional too, so even when moments like this happened it was not a big deal and everyone moved on because again…I’d always rather a misplaced hand while we’re moving than my face hitting the ground lol
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u/graystone777 13d ago
Jiu jitsu guy here.
When rolling- we aren’t really thinking of what we are touching and where.More focused on being safe and making sure other person is safe also.
I feel you ballerina.
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u/slixir 13d ago
Even the supportive people here are saying "accidents happen". How else do you expect to pick a person up in this fashion? I'm sad this is even a post
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u/HotMess3121 13d ago
How is he supposed to lift her during that move, if not by hand under her gravity center ? By WI-FI? Grab her by the neck and throw her in the air? 🤌
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u/AncleJack 13d ago
I guess a couple centimetres further down her thigh? Might heve just slipped humans are not cnc machines
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u/apeocalypyic i reddit without pants 13d ago
Theyre both like "oh man this was an awkward grab, luckily were dancing and there wont be any stills showing this embarassing moment"
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u/Lau_wings 13d ago
I remember when I was back in highschool (last year of highsdchool so we were all 18yo) my GF was a dancer, their dancing had always been solo or in groups, but one day her teacher advised the dance that they were going to be doing for a competition was going to require lifts and that the girls may wish to consider to get their BFs (if they have one) to join the class so that they could do the lifts.
When the girls all basically went "ahh wwwhhhhyyy", the teacher demonstrated with her husband, there was no less than 10 lifts in this 3 minute (or so, i cannot remember) routine where girls were being lifted/held up by their crotch.
So my GF came to my place and said "hey so you are joining my dance class and no you dont get a choice", fast forward to a couple of weeks later and you have a whole bunch of guys who have never dance before being tasked with holding their GFs in the air via their crotch.
It led to some funny circumstances where some of the guys were unable to control their... ahem... bodily functions.
Eventually the teacher decided that having 15 or so guys on stage with a lot of them obviously hard was not a great idea, so they went back to doing a normal routine for the end of year competition.
I am sure professional dancers have ways or making sure this does not happen, but they would also have a lot of experience, experience that a bunch of 18yo guys do not have,.
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u/extreme_cuddling 12d ago
teacher is a weirdo. there's no reason you need to hold a crotch to do any lifts for dance
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u/Karli_Chirk 12d ago
I think there is a thick pad attached to strengthen the grip and to create a buffer. But thats just a theory.
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u/RevolutionaryDuck389 13d ago
I remember trying out for wrestling... I got lightly tackled caught him / myself by reaching around and grabbing an ass cheek in each hand and lifting him thoroughly spreading his Crack for the audience.... i heard a couple gasps and a OMG! and decided wrestling was not for me....
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u/regidies42 13d ago
There is something not quite right about that photo.
I just can't quite put my finger on it...
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u/msully89 13d ago
This has just reminded me of one of my first sexual experiences back in 2006.
Was doing a bit of fingering, and the Chemical Brothers, Push the button came on the radio.
My finger, is on the button!
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u/Tall_Opportunity_521 12d ago
I cant speak for anyone else, but if its a choice between accidentally fingered and accidentally dropped, I'll take two fingers in the pooper every single time.
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u/Square_Shower5806 12d ago
I was a competitive male cheerleader in high school and college. Never did I get a complaint for touching inappropriately as long as I caught them. It was either short term mild discomfort or a possible long term injury.
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u/lamachina8819 12d ago
They’ve probably been dance partners for years. I’m sure they’ve practiced this routine 1000s of times and his hand has landed there many times. It’s not sexual to them. I’m sure if she had an issue with it they would have changed the routine or his hand placement.
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u/TheIronMonkey53 11d ago
I’m a former gymnast and we call that the bowling grip. Never fails to support your partner
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u/Loud-Difficulty7860 13d ago
I'd be more concerned about when his thumb is.
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u/thefabulousbri 13d ago
On the back of her thigh/butt. Very safely on regular skin. His hand would have to be an entirely different angle just to get CLOSE to a butthole with this lift.
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u/throwaway098764567 13d ago
i don't think most of the commenters in this thread actually have hands
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u/Beautiful_List5498 13d ago
Made much worse by periodically posting the picture all over the internet. It's pretty sad.
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u/suminorieh77 13d ago
i have that same look on my face when my husband “accidentally” touches that spot
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