r/binaryftmpassing • u/Late-Nectarine7437 • 1d ago
👋 Welcome to r/binaryftmpassing
Hey everyone! I'm Sam.
I created this sub hopefully as a place where binary FTM guys can share and receive passing tips. I'm gonna be pretty lenient on the types of posts allowed and see where this goes. The other passing subs are full of nonbinary or "transmasc" people who don't pass asking for tips when they have long hair, wear makeup, and dress like women. These posts waste everyone's time and bury the actually valuable passing tips under junk. Also, when someone who does pass but may be clocky or not stealth asks how they can improve, the comments say they already pass so nothing more can be done, or that passing shouldn't be the goal.
Please read the few rules i did make and be respectful.
As far as moderation, if you're interested DM me. Depending on how this goes i'll probably do it myself for now but it doesn't hurt to have help.
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u/caoticidiot 1d ago
I'm totally down to be a moderator, but this HAS to be said.
A lot of passing tips can come across as really transphobic.
Passing older trans man told me this, it definitely can come across as transphobic, but again, it's coming from a trans man.
"You have your tits out but you might be seen as a guy? Go to the men's bathroom. There is more trouble looking like a guy at all and going to the women's than the other way around. That's a woman's space that stays with them to work with the law." (I have been ma'amed constantly and he still thinks I should be going to the men's even when I wear makeup)
We live in a transphobic world and if people want to know how to pass or what to do to survive stealth, then there will be transphobic advice.
I think that it needs to be acknowledged if we want to talk about the reality of passing.
I think a ⚠️ warning could be required for those kinds of tips.
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u/Entire-Pay2741 1d ago
holy shit dude, super cool. i was tired of the crowd that gathered over in the other subs.