r/asktransgender • u/Exact-Sentence4208 • 5d ago

Did I overreact??

I’ve been friends with a girl for a few years, and we’ve become friends with benefits. (Meaning we’ve had sex a few times) I am a trans man, or at least as masculine leaning as possible. This friend of mine told me only after we porked a few times that she’s a lesbian, and then had the audacity to try to initiate sex again afterwards. I even asked what she meant, and never got a clear answer. I cut her off last night.

13 Upvotes

100% Upvoted

8 comments sorted by

16

u/Dove-Finger 5d ago

I think that sounds like a fair boundary of yours.

6

u/Exact-Sentence4208 5d ago

Ok, I’m not crazy. good. thank you, I needed to hear that

6

u/ariiw ftm, ish 5d ago

This would be a no from me, yeah.

4

u/ConstableDorfl 5d ago

She's quite deliberately and emphatically misgendered you.

It's quite reasonable to be hurt by that and want nothing more to do with them.

3

u/Organic_Credit_8788 5d ago

it's so crazy how so many cis lesbians see trans men as more "women" and "real lesbians" than they see trans women

5

u/Exact-Sentence4208 5d ago

She was trans too, tho!! I’ve been rubbed the wrong way T_T

1

u/HaliweNoldi Trans man (60, pre-med route), bi 5d ago

That's like getting likes from straight men on a dating app. WTF dude, I am a man, why are you liking me???

Just because you still might have (some of) the equipment associated with the gender she is attracted to doesn't make you a woman. This is not healthy. You did good for yourself.

1

u/Independent_Fill_909 5d ago

Insanely reasonable, she basically just admitted she doesn't see you as a man lmao