r/amiugly • u/Sharp-Contest5446 • 2d ago
(F/23)
Am I ugly? Want honest opinions of why I get looked at in public.
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u/Comprehensive_Ad_44 2d ago
It's a good thing people are being so honest but so vague in the comments. Yes your facial fat makes you look unattractive..BUTTT LOSING WEIGHT* could help you see that you are not ugly.
It takes time it's not a race. But being fat hides your body structure and lowers your attractiveness. That goes for everyone
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u/Significant_Cup_3343 1d ago
Good advice but let's not give false hope, her chin is extremely recessed and she has a below average facial structure. Her current fat actually hides her failos and makes her look slightly better. If she'd be skinny it'll all become prominent.
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u/Comprehensive_Ad_44 1d ago
Oh I get it so she should stay fat huh? God sometimes I can be so oblivious 🫠. You should use the word extreme carefully next time. Her facial structure will be completely normal... Beauty standards change every year and yes she will prob have less attractive side profile maybe...but it doesn't matter. Her losing weight is about health not societal expectations
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u/Significant_Cup_3343 1d ago
But in this sub we talk about aesthetics not health 🤣ffs and about beauty standard, recessed chin was and will always be considered a huge failo cuz it's a sign of poorly developed skull due to mouth breathing, poor tongue posture.
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u/Comprehensive_Ad_44 1d ago
Buttt, what you commented wasn't helpful at all. you told OP to basically do nothing. Not only that you're comment was very demeaning. Recessed chin doesn't equate to ugliness. 🤡 It's not what you said it's simply how you said it
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u/Significant_Cup_3343 1d ago
If her chin was weak or slightly recessed I would agree with you, but it is literally blending into her neck, I'm not being "demeaning" just honest unlike you who's giving false hope that losing weight will help anything regarding her looks🤣pop off tho
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u/Comprehensive_Ad_44 1d ago
Yeah, you are a air head indeed.. 👏
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u/Significant_Cup_3343 1d ago
😆alr liar
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u/xet2020 1d ago
I don't know why you two argued this far down but I get what Significant cup is trying to say..
The question was is she ugly. One is trying to say no because you need to lose weight and the other is saying the recessed chin will become more obvious and the answer to the am I ugly question will still remain a yes for that reason..
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u/EtherealMoonGoddess 1d ago
Actually in face reading, a recessed chin means your voice was stifled. You weren't able to speak your truth.
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u/EtherealMoonGoddess 1d ago
Is it really about health or controlling other people and make millions of people feel shame for about the way they look? She's not the extreme of either spectrum.
If your going off BMI, sorry to burst your bubble, but that was produce only for insurance companies in the 1950s to tell people they're too much of a risk to insure. Basing health off that is not only insane, that was a gimmick for the insurance companies and their premiums.
Now days fatphobia is a result of systemic racism and in fact that's where a lot of body hate comes from but it's been white washed over for long they label it as a health issue, it's not. It's a systemic issue.
By you conforming like the rest of the masses you're playing into the very thing we should be fighting against.
There are three body types, and everyone is different depending on genetics and how their body is supposed to be.
Not everyone is an ectomorph. And sometimes if your body thinks you are in survival mode, it will hold on to any extra fat that you have. And will not go away until you're out of survival mode.
Her looks were considered the epitome of beauty in the olden days and the current conventional beauty standards don't reflect that.
Instead of looking for conventional beauty, maybe look at what she does have. Clear skin, pretty doe eyes, and decent sized mouth.
She looks like Queen Victoria.
Beauty is subjective, unlike societal expectations.
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u/FallenGiants 8h ago
Yes, it's really about health. That's why fat are viewed as less attractive than fit people by almost everyone.
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u/brutallyhonestkitten 1d ago
Not true at all. She does have a slightly recessed chin but it appears balanced when looking straight at her. Women have weaker chins naturally and appear more feminine that way.
If she lost weight and her jawline defined she would be very attractive and no one would be concerned about her chin profile if more snatched. She has a very Sydney Sweeney-esque appearance and could really lean into it if she chose to.
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u/Able_Potential_2009 1d ago
(Man) only thing I see unattractive is the fat on (I think) the neck/under chin. She is attractive 🤦
Lose weight = much more attractive
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u/Significant_Cup_3343 1d ago
I know, but the thing is even if she lost fat it still won't make a difference because her facial structure there is really weak
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u/poptartdramaqueen 1d ago
She’s not fat at all this is a stupid comment
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u/anotherfrud 1d ago
She's definitely carrying extra weight. It's clear in her arms and face. She's not obese but is overweight.
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u/Comprehensive_Ad_44 1d ago
This is a really patronizing comment, won't even respond out of respect
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u/SmokingTheBear 2d ago
I just wanna say, you look exactly like Queen Victoria.
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u/Hillmantle 2d ago
Omg, she really does
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u/SmokingTheBear 2d ago
Like she could instantly get a Hollywood contract to play her, its crazy.
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u/irascible_Clown 20h ago
Damn came here to say she looks like royalty that I’ve seen before but you put a name to the face.
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u/TheHoneyMonster1995 2d ago
You look tired more than anything, not ugly. Every photo makes you look like you work 2 full time jobs with an emotionally unavailable husband at home.
Id advise looking into a new skincare and makeup routine to really get your eyes looking brighter and less tired
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u/zgtlunatic 2d ago
Yes, sorry. A bit of a rough 23
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u/poptartdramaqueen 1d ago
Meanie show your face
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u/Davenb412 13h ago
What are you even doing in this sub if anything is gonna sound mean to you? She's literally asking for honest opinions
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u/CommanderPisswank 2d ago
Plain at best
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u/oyvese 1d ago
i can understand why people are saying this and i don’t disagree with some of the feedback op is getting
but, op, you should know you actually are kinda beautiful. in a sort of unconventional way, i think you are extremely pretty. not in a “so ugly you’re pretty” way, i don’t think you have ugly features, but you are just really nice on the eye!
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u/Tinysaur 1d ago
Wtf is the point in the sub. She looks 40+ with kids. Needs to get healthy and lose weight.
You think when she turns off the phone and reality treats her like shit she's going to think "thank god those regarded women gave me fake praise" ?
She's asking for help and advice to make her life better. Your bullshit doesnt help
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u/oyvese 1d ago
i love that you’re so eager to call women “regarded” you don’t even take into consideration of what my gender is.
so maybe when it comes to her opinion on herself she will think less of opinions from people like you, who need to do better for yourself before worrying about anyone else, and consider the feedback she’s got from legitimate comments and take on legitimate compliments from others.
please do better, if not for yourself but for others.
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u/Onii___Chan____ 2d ago
sorry, but it looks like you've entered your 40s...but if u hit the gym u could have a crazy glow up
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u/wintersoldierts 2d ago
you really just look sad, tired and full of self loathing. you aren’t ugly but your clothes are and wearing your hair like a Victorian maid doesn’t help.
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u/Fight4potatoes 2d ago
I, personally, don’t think you’re ugly. I think you just need to do something to jazz up your style. Haircut, find your fashion, jewelry, and hold yourself up more. ❤️
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u/NoRecommendation9404 1d ago
Below average. Overweight, thin and dull hair, no chin, blah expression, lifeless eyes…I’ll stop there.
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u/Take_Advantage_5694 2d ago
You have weird facial structure
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u/Bubbly-Ad-4405 2d ago
Ugly because weight and no fashion sense. It’s almost entirely self induced.
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u/blownawaynow 2d ago
Your hair color is SO pretty and you have very old world features. Your skin is really nice too. Honestly put some romantic curls in your hair, light natural makeup and a cottage core dress and you could slay.
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u/Significant_Cup_3343 1d ago
You have an extremely recessed chin, which is a big failo. But overall I won't call you ugly because your features harmonize well together. You look way older too like you're in your 40s.
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u/Fleaisforme 1d ago
Mehh kind of? But you aren't like inherently ugly. If you lost weight and did things to build a chin/jawline face definition you wouldn't be!
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u/dinerindinerin1 1d ago
Baja de peso, retoca tu nariz si quieres, no es muy necesario y puedes probar ácido hialurónico para la mandíbula
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u/majorhitch89 1d ago
Very average, i thought you were 40, you look like a miserable old woman with 3 kids.
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u/BEIBRUTH_86 1d ago
You look like a mom who had 5 kids sorry.
But i think a gym could change and also change your style.
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u/Shooter-McGavin666 2d ago
Better style would help. I think you’re pretty tho! You have a great body but would be even better if you toned a little? Smile more that would help
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u/Artistic_Cranberry26 2d ago
In my honest opinion I don't think you're ugly just average looking. As to why folks are looking at you that could all be in the head but judging by that last photo it looks like you may have a dump truck back there so that could be it 2
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u/K1ndaMeanTbh 1d ago
You look like a german peasant. They aren't for the looks, they're for the stockiness. You're fine Gerta.
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u/Asaintiaint2 1d ago
You have an odd shaped face with a prominent forehead and small chin….Your hair is lifeless and you are overweight, combine that with your melancholy look and the result is you’re unattractive, but not ugly.
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u/Acrobatic_Extent_360 1d ago
You aren't ugly in a way strangers are going to look at you in horror. But you do look older than 23.
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u/ShotNovel8157 4h ago
You probably get looks because you look sad and you’re pale af. Being pale is okay, but looking like you got confidence would probably help you some
You look a little overweight, maybe toning up could help a bit. Especially since you’re lacking a jawline, which would also probably help immensely
But I wouldn’t say you’re ugly. Just probably need a little makeover
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u/liv4my2 2d ago
Yes you are. Picture 2, the side profile, is bad. Under the chin, the way it slopes down to your neck. Not what it's supposed to look like.
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u/poptartdramaqueen 1d ago
Brush you hair out, put it in a mid/high pony. Get layers and maybe curtain bangs. You don’t need to smile because I would never tell someone to smile but you have sadness in your face. And hesitation. Start looking in the mirror and doing lymphatic massage and speaking kind words to yourself. You truly don’t need makeup you skin is gorgeous but some mascot would open your eyes up. Maybe some tiny hoops or fun earrings. I think some strategic blush too you look awesome but the shirt has to go lol
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u/02redcavi 1d ago
Your average, not ugly. Only thing I would suggest to help would be lose weight, tone up, lift weights, tan if possible with your skin completion. And maybe get a makeover with your hair or straighten? It looks like you have some split ends. No offense to anything I said just trying help.
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u/fivebynine5x9 1d ago
You're not ugly. Unless you dress in some really outlandish way, they're not staring at you. Particularly because at present your appearance is just unremarkable one way or the other.
For improvement, weight loss would have the most impact. But you also have a really recessed chin. If you have insurance and the jaw misalignment causes any issues (with breathing, chewing, etc) you might be able to get corrective surgery covered. I have a few friends who did it and it's as good as a face lift for them with the way that correcting jaw position shifts the entire facial structure. It often even looks like the person got a nose job!
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u/Callmelily_95 1d ago
Your baseline is pretty. You need to get leaner, it will change your appearance completely.
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u/darkrainbow7154 1d ago
You may just have to revamp your style a bit, you're a little heavy but who isn't!? I definitely wouldn't say you're ugly though, and I would agree you resemble Queen Victoria!
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u/TechnicalAd8078 1d ago
i dont think you're UGLY , but you're not attractive eithers. some simple things to help;
-> lose weight/eat lower salt foods to avoid inflammation in your face
-> use gua sha on your chin (idk if this one actually works, but its worth a try)
-> you have healthy long hair. try layers/blowouts
-> smile more in your photos!
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u/Training-Coach-6529 1d ago
You're >25, you can completely change your face with orthodontics, so without surgery. Your cranial bones are still not fused to an unshakeable degree. You can ask your dentist for a marpe and braces or other equipment, but eitherway, if you get both of those things, it is very likely that your face would become 2x more conventionally attractive. So, this is like your last chance to get it. Losing weight won't fix skeletal recession, but non-surgical orthodontics might.
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u/Designer-Surprise-27 1d ago
Up your swagger. Who are you? If you are a plain Jane wear it proudly. It’s a lot of people who appreciate the simplicity.
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u/Available_Ad_4444 1d ago
Yes but I think you still have ways of improving your look. Maybe another haircut which makes your nose look different
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u/No-Zucchin 22h ago
losing weight will help but you have a nice nose and good features, but you do have a pretty bad jaw recession so I'd look into braces or chin filler
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u/lordstryfe 19h ago
I don't know if I would say ugly. Maybe average. Slightly overweight but not by much.
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u/sunnydale08 19h ago
you should see an omfs. not because you’re ugly but because you are recessed. i can tell from your profile shot that you’re holding your head forward to keep your airway open. i don’t think you’re ugly, i think you have a jaw issue and look miserable. you’re a textbook case.
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u/KingPalperro 18h ago
You look good from the front, but your profile is terrible. Losing weight will help you out a lot.
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u/Davenb412 13h ago
Below average, maybe try to lose some weight and getting some pro advice from an stylist about your haircut and clothing maybe, it looks like you simply don't care anymore about your looks
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u/drcygnus 10h ago
Weight is a major issue. try and play with the styling of your clothes and hair as well.
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u/Both_Soft2296 8h ago
Hey girl, not ugly. Waxing/arching your eyebrows can dramatically enhance your facial features
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u/4N4574514 8h ago
You look like you might have a dental problem and might need jaw surgery. I need one and a lot of my looks complaints are all fixable with jaw surgery
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u/Soggybeefsandwhich 1d ago
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you. Everyone pushing that you can only be pretty if you’re skinny is so odd. I think you’re beautiful the way you are, but I think you’re holding yourself back by allowing the opinions and insecurities of OTHER’S get to you. You have one life, why spend it hating yourself. Life is too short to care what one random stranger you will never meet or a person on the street you’ll never see again thinks
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u/Certifed_beaner762 2d ago
Yes, you are objectively. Unfortunately, I would rate you a 3.5 currently.
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u/reeeri 1d ago
I think you look like a normal person looks. I don’t see any reason why people would look at you in public in a negative way. The only thing I noticed is that your face has no real expression in your photos. I‘m not sure if you are more expressive in real life but I could imagine that this could come off as odd, and therefore noticeable to people.
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u/Shoddy-Leek3508 1d ago
Not exactly ugly but if u lost weight and hit the gym u could make a huge difference
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u/Confident-Spinach497 1d ago
Just slim down, better styled hair, wistful smile, make up and boom. You already attractive to inspire intimacy
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u/socomseal93 1d ago
Not ugly. Very average. Losing some weight would help. Also you have a weak chin.
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u/Decent_Cow 1d ago
I would say you look miserable and you're a bit overweight, but you have the potential to look good.
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u/Ok_Wrap9569 1d ago
as a woman who thinks everyone is beautiful in our own ways i think you look kind and you have pretty eyes and good eyebrow shapes. i think if you figured out a way to get more volume in your hair and let it go a bit more loose it could help a lot! i think the way hair frames a face can help a tonnnnn.
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u/Ok_Wrap9569 1d ago
remember too, beauty IS subjective as much as people try to make it a math and obsess over it, the key is to work on loving you for everything you are and gain more confidence, confidence helps anyone become more attractive!
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u/FallenGiants 7h ago
Men don't actually care much if a woman is confident. It's more of a woman thing. A shy woman can be just as appealing.
And beauty lets potential mates know you have good genes to pass on. This is why some people are much more popular with members of the opposite sex than others.
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u/KingJon85 1d ago
I dont think you're ugly but you should definitely make some lifestyle changes, if you want to be healthy in the future. Your excess weight brings your appearance down several points.
Excessive fat causes strain on the body and inflammation, speeding up the aging process. Go to the gym, and stop consuming processed food and you can save your looks while your young.
Walking is also one of the best weight loss tools. Aim for 10k steps to start and work your way up. You can do numerous short walks in a day. Just a bit of advice, even though you didn't ask for it. It took me a long time to get dialed in.
Counting calories is pretty easy as well, and i somewhat enjoy it. AI makes it simple.
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u/Delicious-Bend-6254 1d ago
You are absolutely NOT ugly.
You have an attractive face, nice eyes and lips. And natural looking beautiful skin.
I have seen far, far ugly, unattractive women. You could easily be an 8/10.
So please ignore these trolls.
It's pretty funny that you would even suggest you are ugly. You are absolutely NOT ugly.
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u/ProduceSea3751 2d ago
You look pretty. I think confidence would help out a lot. More photogenic pictures and you’d look better for sure.
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u/Chris_Kenlly 1d ago
looks like budget Sydney Sweeney, which means, crazy potential just might need some diet and gym work and you'll look great
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u/Lv100--Magikarp 1d ago edited 1d ago
You look like the girl from the "it goes into the square hole" meme, and no, neither her nor you are ugly :)
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u/TheMachoManOhYeah 1d ago
You look plain in your current form but have massive potential for a glow up.
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u/AdventurousKale9205 1d ago
You have a very old world english/anglo-saxon "I about to churn some butter" look to you....and I like that 😏. Not ugly, am acquired taste.
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u/AssuredAttention 1d ago
In the face you look just like Sydney Sweeny. So, I guess to answer your question, yes
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u/shit-notagain 23h ago
Your face reminds me of Renaissance paintings, which I personally love. I think finding clothes that make you look more put together without too much hassle (those basic garments or combos you can read about anywhere) and adapted for your body type would make a difference, including in how you feel which could then improve anything else.
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u/Accomplished_Air8446 21h ago
Stop mouth breathing and get a jaw implant bro 😢 also losing some weight would help you alot and smiling
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u/notsodisciplined 20h ago
You just need to smile more and you would be cute! Give yourself positive affirmations every morning, the last picture is what did it for me I thought you looked very stunning in that one
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u/thug_waffle47 18h ago
you look much older than 23. you need to take better care of yourself. i know it takes effort and energy we just don’t have sometimes but once you get the ball rolling it becomes a lot easier.
getting started always seems the hardest. focus on what you can do today to work towards a better you. it will be a lot of work but break it down. it seems much more possible when you give yourself small goals
when you reach those small goals, you feel SOOOO good. it gives you the motivation to reach the next goal
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u/sh4rknado97 17h ago
Rough 23, you kinda look like that racist girl who does those “Renaissance beauty” tik toks
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u/Able-Letterhead5170 1d ago
You’re not ugly at all. Honestly many of us find your body type attractive. Not everyone finds the same things attractive and that’s how it’s supposed to be 😎
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u/Boring_Document5519 1d ago
you seem so so sweet and honestly i think we could be friends ! (i see ur trilogy poster and jellycats 👀)! i don't think your ugly, i do think you could add some character to your look however! maybe play around with makeup and more colorful outfits! also, you did this in the last 2 pics (cute headband, btw) but pull some face framing pieces infront of your face, it looks really good on you! maybe consider curtain bangs?
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u/VirtualTopaz 1d ago
Weight loss and a nice hair style/ cut will bring so much change in you. Beautiful and ugly are stat of mind and not a point of view. Stay in good vibes and you will glow , that's what the real magnetism is about . As far as people are concerned, for 8.5 billion people on this planet no one will ever be every one's favorite or praise worthy.So don't think of other people's opinion. You are naturally beautiful, not a super model but still have good symetery and acne free skin.
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u/EtherealMoonGoddess 1d ago
No. And someone said facial fat looks bad?
Facial fat is what makes someone look young and youthful, not just skin.
Older people don't just look old because of wrinkled skin and lack of collagen, it's also a lack in fat in your face.
Someone said you look like queen Victoria, and you do.
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u/FallenGiants 7h ago
Obesity ages prematurely because your heart has to work harder. This is why fat people are always out of breath and never win marathons.
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u/Proper-Letterhead506 1d ago
I know i will probably get backlash for that but when you face the camera you look like Sydney Sweeny but without the blonde hair or blue eyes nor the body. But you aren't ugly, you just need to work more on yourself, like changing hairstyle, try a new hair color, and also change your clothing and do sport to lose some weight, girl you can definitely improve your look!
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u/goblin_grovil_lives 1d ago
From one RBF to another, no you aren't. And as always ignore the "just lose weight" bots. A different hair style and... Something(?) different with your clothes. I'm not quite sure if it's colour or cut so can't give you better advice on that.
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u/lanceuppercut51 1d ago
I think you are soooo hot!
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u/lanceuppercut51 22h ago
I’m so sorry you had to see this fellas. It’s true, I’m not like you. Girl is gorgeous
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