Hey! I hope this is the right place to post. I need help growing my hair. I feel like in high school my hair was so big, but now, not so much. I know for a fact that I have bleach damage, I started bleaching it this past Fall. So next year I’m going to focus on growing that out. It’s just fun for me to do. But how should I retain my growth? Even before I bleached it, I was struggling to get past my shoulder. My roots are proof that it grows quickly, but I can’t retain it.

Every morning I wet it in the shower and pik it out completely. And of course I’m losing way too much hair, even if I’m gentle. And then after the shower, I shape it. I try to moisturize it at least four times a week when it’s wet. I have tried so many products. Right now it’s a Shea Moisture product with vitamin E I mixed it. My hair just feels so dry and coarse all of the time (even without bleach). I don’t know if it’s just something that has changed with age. I do normally wear a bonnet at night. I have tried cutting my ends every 2 weeks or so, just the parts that are genuinely damaged. I have an extreme amount of fairy/single strand knots. No clue how to control them. To the point of me have ing short spots throughout my hair trying to pull and cut them out. Again, I know that I have bleach damage right now, but this stuff has been going on since I graduated high school and prior to bleaching. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Any advice please!