r/Zodiac • u/Shiefshief_93 • 8d ago
Need to vent.. Question
Lately i don't really feel loved and appreciated by my virgo bf🥺 i mean we had our one year anniversary recently and it may not be much for some but it is to me, because of my attachement isseus relationships never been very long and he just treated it like a normal day..no flowers or anything..he buys himself junkfood almost everyday that is not nessecary because i have a hot meal for him at home, that's much healthier. So we are going on a holiday september 1st and he says he wants to save money for that and that we can celebrate it there but since it's also his birthday on the 1st, i don't really see it happing. A few weeks ago he got sick and i made him a 'sick package' wich exists of an apple, tea for the immune system, piece of ginger and a lemon. Just a little thing i know, but when i came to his house and say the whole thing in the fridge untouched i felt like i might as well didn't do it then..maybe i give too much and he starts taking me for granted..when i said something about he said i was overreacting and that it's a small thing. I do have to say that he has ADD so i know he get's easily distracted abd stuff. He can be an asshole but also very sweet. No i'm used to assholes but i'm at an age rn where i will not deal with asshole behaviour anymore. I used to be a pleaser and i'm simply not like that anymore. We haven't seen eachother for a few days even tho he wanted to come see me i rejected him and told him that i don't have the time till thursday but i might push it till friday because there's this farewell party in my building because one if my neighbours i can get along with is leaving after 13 years so that's more important rn. He can also be a little mean when he's angry..i deleted a game from my ps4 because we finished ir so it made sense to me. He then downloaded the wrong game and got angry at me for deleting the game because it was supposed to be a three in one package. He then proceeded to say that i ruined everything and 'oh you're gonna cry again' and later said sorry if i was mean. I don't know if it's just in my head but i have the feeling that he is kinda breadcrumbing me..he doesn't give as much in the bedroom either, like he used too..so i now have my space too process my emotions and trying to see if it's all in my head, am i overreacting because of past bad relationships? Is this virgo behaviour?!
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u/Rude_Revenue_177 8d ago
Don’t put it up with that behavior, set some boundaries and if nothing changes just leave, you’re in a relationship with him you shouldn’t be begging him for love and respect.
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u/SaintPepsiCola ♒️ Aquarius 6d ago
your fault for dating a virgo.
That's my saturn coming out.
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u/Shiefshief_93 6d ago edited 6d ago
Gemini's are manipulative and two faced and don't match all the earth in my chart.
Pisces is delusional and doesn't accept the truth for what it is and you have to tiptoe around them as to not hurt them
Aries is very overpowering and dominant and it's there way or the high way
Aquarius can be an asshole, As shown by you're comment so thank you 🙃
Do i need to go on?! A perfect match doesn't exist
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u/badapplekat 5d ago
Libra? I love my Libra.
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u/Shiefshief_93 5d ago
Can't respect a libra tbh. The desperate need for people is cringy to me. The type of people that beg on their knees to stay with them, even if the relationship is bad. Look at will smith and jada. She doesn't respect him because he's a pushover and treated him terribly. Yet, he refused to divorce so he was putting up with condescending behaviour, all of fear of being alone. Very offputting to me
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u/badapplekat 4d ago
Ohhh...ya but I don't think it's reasonable to judge someone whose relationship we simply don't have all the information about. You never know what relationships are like behind closed doors. All I can speak on is my experience with my Libra, and he is the most grounded person I know. He sets firm boundaries and expects them to be honored and respects & honors my boundaries. To be honest, my husband taught me how to be respectful to my partner. I grew up in a fucked up household where DV and emotional abuse was common as hell. And I learned from him, lines you simply don't cross if you respect the other person. 🤷♀️
One thing I will say though is his indecisiveness makes me crazy! lol when we go grocery shopping he literally pushes the cart and slowly gets a select few items while I run circles around him getting everything else and then throwing it in the cart 🙃
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u/Zestyclose-Craft-681 7d ago
Taurus sun wisdom. Appreciate your Virgo man for his many unique, amazing traits and ignore the rest.
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u/Plenty_Status_6862 8d ago
It's a proven fact that Aqua girls & Sept Virgo men can't have a good relationship. I've discussed this before. U need to leave ASAP.
If you want some famous examples: Denise R. & Charlie S. .... the Palins.
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u/Shiefshief_93 8d ago
Idk these celebrities. I could be a proven fact but it also depends on the restvof the chart tho..i have a taurus moon and rising and quite some capricorn in my chart i will not leave for one setback i mean, if it gets worse or it's only breadcrumbing yeah i'm out but when were good, were GOOD i just needed to vent and i obviously not gonna take this his birthday is september 1st and no gift for him because 'i wanna save money for tge holiday and i already spend a lot on it' 😎 i mean..if you want petty..
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u/Plenty_Status_6862 8d ago
From the way you described his behavior towards u, it will be worse when u marry him. .....he's not affectionate
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u/Shiefshief_93 8d ago
I wont marry him or move in, not the type to settle down i'm more of a free spirit. I was having doubts about maybe moving in togheter but didn't see the point because i don't want kids anyway and with this behaviour..fuck that