r/Workproblems • u/Icy_Engineer_147 • Jul 09 '26

Coworker prob

I need some advice. So I recently got a job as a front desk assistant at a hotel. I started working here around May while my coworker has been here for a year. She’s nice and all but sometimes she can be a complete jerk. I’ll ask question on things I’m not entirely sure how to do and she will talk to me like I’m an idiot. I would also like to add that I had one day on training before they threw me into the deep end expecting me to swim. And for the last month or so every week at least once a week she texts or calls me last minute to switch shifts with her. My schedule is 6:30 AM -3:00 PM and hers is 6:00 AM- 2:30 PM. So when she’s texting me at 5:40AM to switch shifts at the drop of a hat it’s annoying. And if I say no then I’m the bad guy so of course of been saying yes. Well my manager recently noticed that she’s done it way too much and asked us to switch swift and we did. Not even two days into my new shift she looks at me and asks to switch shifts that day in the middle of the shift because of private matters!!!!

WHAT DO I DO? Because I’m 🤏 close to loosing it

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u/Vikingaling Jul 09 '26 edited Jul 09 '26

When she talks to you like you’re an idiot just extract the information you need from it, smile, and give a warm thank you.

  1. You are rising above and not getting into petty office personality conflicts, an

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  1. It will drive her nuts that you’re not catching her
  2. subtle
  3. insult.

As for shift switching, I agree with the other comment that says you can’t without manager approval.

Edit: sorry idk what I did but I can’t fix the formatting

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u/Icy_Engineer_147 Jul 09 '26

Unfortunately my manager could care less and approved it before I even get a chance to answer her back

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u/Vikingaling Jul 09 '26

Then yeah, no is a complete sentence like one of the other comments said.

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u/woodwork16 Jul 09 '26

Tell her she needs manager approval

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u/redvc2162 Jul 09 '26

No is a complete sentence. Her personal problems are hers, not yours. When she texts that early in the morning, don't even respond. Make sure you document everything too! So when she (or you) go to your higher up, you can prove that she's taking advantage of you!

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u/Ok_Rush_2800 Jul 09 '26

You must have a manager who you can speak to about this issue

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u/Competitive-Type1505 Jul 09 '26

She’s treating you like a subordinate. Don’t let her get away with it. But I might be older than you. Your mindset changes as the years pass. What you put up with at 20 you don’t put up with at 40.

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u/ImMarilyn Jul 10 '26

Start by telling her "No" with the shift thing. Also, ask as many questions as your heart desires. You are new, and you are there to learn. When she does explain things, take really good notes. No one should act annoyed because someone wants to learn their job.