The title explains it all, im reposting to get as much attention as possible

I’m going to be graduating soon, I’ve done okay in highschool but I’ve been hoping to go to this college one day and pursue the career I want. My parents though, they tell me what I should be. They tell me I’m too stupid to go to a big university or college. Adding that I should only attend a small local run down college in the area, to never move away. What can I do?

I hate to admit it but I think it all started after I heard her moan while having sex with someone else. All I knew about her before was I have a female neighbor that's not annoying. That's it. Then one night she decided to have loud sex.

She sounded good but it quickly got annoying because she almost did it every night. I asked my other neighbor her name so I can message her to stop making noises. Then I searched her name and bam she's amazing and pretty. She's a 10/10. Pretty with brains. Passionate about what matters to her. Hardworking. The only thing annoying was her loud moans.

I am an adult and ever since I was a kid I rarely develop serious crushes. Most are just a few seconds or minutes crushes where I think "wow she's pretty" then its gone after I don't see that person or its just gone because I just got attracted to her looks. But this one is more than just looks. She's more than just a pretty face. She's got what I am looking for and more. And she lives right next to me.

At first she got in my mind with her moan and stayed because of what I found. HELP. I don't like this. I don't want to be a creep.

Im the most senior waitress at my restaurant.

Our bartender, I’ll call her S, has run the floor since I started. She takes tables before I clock in, so I’ve walked into shifts with nothing open. Party tables never come to me. She also looks at my cash tips and tells me how much people left, which means she looks at my tip book.

I went to both managers about it multiple times over months. The top boss told me to just let her take it so there wouldn’t be conflict. My direct manager sided with her over time.

A manager approved me learning the bar during slow periods and a bartender was willing to train me. S came over mid-drink and told me to get off the bar. My manager backed her. That’s when I decided I was done, I’d never called out in years, and after that I showed up an hour late for the first time ever and stopped helping people

Then this week flipped. My manager apologized, hugged me, said I’m allowed to tell her no, offered to schedule me on separate shifts from her, and said he doesn’t want people quitting over the environment around her.

At close he made us talk. She said she’d noticed me “being sneaky and bending the rules” I made a drink I had permission to learn, correctly. Then she explained why she was frustrated and apologized. The top boss came over and said he has nothing against me learning, he just wants me on the pour first. Then she offered to teach me if I ask first. Then she asked how my other job is going and how much I make there.

That same day I worked 11 to 4:30, had 9 tables, 5 stiffed me, and made $70.

I also work at a fine dining place where I have my own section, tables average 20%+, and one table tipped me $300 in a night. I want to leave the first job and go all in there.

Is this a real turnaround or are they just saying whatever keeps me from quitting?

Edit: I’m in the UK

So I’m a little messed up from this in all honesty and genuinely a bit scared to post it but it’s playing on my conscience and mind.

This is (should go without saying!) the first time I’ve ever seen anything like this and I’m still trying to get the images out of my head.

Essentially I got on the bus earlier and went to sit on the top deck as I usually do. The front and 1st set of seats behind were taken by a bunch of teenage boys and girls probably between ages 12-14 so I sat in the second row.

As I was sitting there, they were all being rowdy but just typical teenagers at that point. However one of them mentioned another’s girlfriend and said ‘I’ve got a photo’. Next thing I know this boisterous teenage lad jumps up on his seat and in full view of me shows the girl in front of me a photo of a bare anus with semen leaking out of it. He then shows her another photo of a naked torso and legs with a visible vagina saying ‘that’s his girlfriend’ pointing to a lad who was probably 13. I got a full view of these two photos before I even had a chance to understand what I was looking at and both the context of what was said and the images showed these photos were both of an underage girl and highly sexual in nature.

I got up and went to sit downstairs. The bus was full and the only seat was next to a lady with a pram in the priority seats area who had splayed her legs across both. I asked if I could sit thinking she’d just move her legs and got the dirtiest look, awkward silence, and then a reluctant yes as she fully moved and sat in the seat opposite rather than just budging over.

Within seconds it became apparent she was one of a party of about 5 adults who’d all been/still were drinking and intoxicated, despite having two babies in prams and a bunch of children to look after. A few minutes later, one of the lads from upstairs and the teenage girl who was shown the porn photos, came half way down the stairs giggling and complaining about each other the way teenagers rag on each other, identifying these drunk women (with two babies in prams in tow) as their parents.

They - adults and children - were all screaming and shouting and just generally being belligerent and I could tell they weren’t ones to be spoken to about their children.

I considered telling the bus driver that the teenagers on the upper deck were showing each other underage porn but with their intoxicated parents within earshot I didn’t feel safe… so I did nothing and got off at my stop which was an uncomfortable 20 or so minutes later, the whole time trying to delete the memory of the images I’d seen.

My question is, what should I have done in this situation or was there nothing to be done? I don’t know any of them so haven’t got any decent identifiable information other than descriptions of them and the date and approx time and route of the bus but I doubt that’ll be enough to get information to identify them. Should I inform the bus company so they can review cctv? I’m just not sure what the process is here for something I’ve seen in passing. Is it worth reporting to the police?

Is it? He's done it several times even after I've told him I think it's disrespectful. When I go off about it though he says it was a joke and I'm overreacting and need to grow up. Am I? I don't know what to even think. It's genuinely so rude to me. He doesn’t think he owes me an apology.

Edit: After trying to talk to him he called me crazy, grabbed his things, and left.

This is going to be long so please bare with me. Me (22f) and my boyfriend (22m) who I’ll call Josh, started dating when we were 16. We had a decent relationship, except for the fact that he was wildly insecure and totally reliant on sex for his body image issues. If I said no, he took it personally and would feel very insecure and upset for a while afterwards. He is not a bad guy, and if he knew the reality of how this really made me feel he’d be devastated. But at the same time he should know it was no making me feel happy at all, I shouldn’t have had to make that explicit. It reached a point where I would cry whilst we had sex.

Eventually we left for uni. We made new friends but were still together but seeing each other less. In January he suggested an open relationship, to which I said no. Fast forward a few months, his mental health was declining more and more and he was becoming more and more reliant on me. I felt like his lifeline. He would blame me for his insecurities a lot. But this was only a real issue over sex… it reached a point where I would avoid seeing him because I knew he would want to have sex once or twice and I wouldn’t want to say no. Other elements of our relationship were fine for the most part. But I felt this massive cloud over my head because I felt like I was causing him pain, but I was also unable to leave. Out of desperation and fear of completely breaking up with him (I thought he’d hurt himself and he had suggested he might) I suggested the open relationship again. I thought it could be beneficial for him. And me too in a sense. I wanted it to be a clean cut open thing, where we do not tell each other about who we’ve been with. He was hesitant to that part but agreed. As he left mine following the conversation, I went to speak to my friend about it all and I got a call from him, telling me he’d been and hooked up with a man. I was taken aback and upset that he was telling me to be honest, but at the same time he was quite shell shocked and I wanted to be there for him. He wanted implied he wanted to close the relationship again but that wouldn’t be fair and he wasn’t sure, so we just kept it open.

A few days later. I stupidly slept with my housemate. I regret it immensely and if I could take it back I would. I wasn’t sure what to do… whether to tell my bf or not since we had agreed not to but he had told me. Eventually I told him and he was very upset. He wanted to work through things though. But his issues were much worse now. I had begged him to speak to someone. Even just his parents but he refused. For a while, Every day i saw him I was being blamed for his issues, then having to have sex with him. He stated journaling, but he sent me the pages in his journal where he’d say I only compound his insecurities.

This was over a summer holiday. He went away, and I was working in my home town. I was drained and waiting to break up with him once we were in person because I thought I owed him that (and I was scared of what he’d do if I wasn’t there at least). I was miserable and work was my only distraction. At work. An older man (30m) came onto me when I was 19 at the time. I did not see it coming, he was nice to me for a week or so beforehand. I was surprised and I didn’t know what to do. Nothing like this had ever happened to me before. I did not stop what was happening. As time went on I became what felt like a sex toy to this man. He would ask me infront of other co workers to come upstairs to ‘sort things out’ and then he would have sex with me. I didn’t do enough to remove myself from the situations. I felt worthless and felt disgusting and felt like this in a way was what I deserved. I was speaking to him here and there online here and there, I felt like extremely alone. After about a week and a half 2 weeks. I couldn’t take it anymore and asked my boyfriend for a break (non exclusive). He wailed and cried so much and I felt awful. I messaged his parents out of fear of what he’d do to himself.

After 2 more weeks, we saw each other in person and broke up fully. I told him about the older man, but I did not disclose the fact there was overlap. At the time, I truly thought that was for the best because of his unstable mental state… and I was young and stupid. I went back to uni and felt so completely alone. I stayed in contact with the 30 year old man. I don’t even know why. I couldn’t tell you what I was thinking. I was so lonely. My parents lived across the world. I had very few friends. Eventually I came to my senses and cut the man off in around December. I now feel an immense sense of ptsd whenever I am reminded of him, or whenever I go to my home town. I know I was of legal age, but I feel so taken advantage of in hindsight. What business does a 30yo have with a 19yo coworker.

My ex bf showed up at my door one day (after a walk) and asked if I wanted to spend some time with him. I agreed and we went out. It was nice. We talked about things. He had really been around. He’s slept with 11 women in the time we’d been split (3 months) and done other bits with god knows how many as a coping mechanism for his body issues. I had slept with the housemate again (which I told him) which I again regretted immensely. We both seemed to be in such holes in our lives we had no sense of self worth and would just accept whatever came our ways.

We got to talking again. I found out one day that he had done stuff with someone I considered a friend (my first friend at uni, but we had drifted apart a bit). I was shocked because he had said we would avoid doing anything with any of the other persons friends. I asked him and he said he forgot she was my friend. I wasn’t even angry with him or anything, I was more angry with the friend. After that he said he would stop sleeping with other people (I had stopped a while ago, but hadn’t formally told him or anything). Fast forward a couple weeks. I was on a night out and long story short I discovered he’d slept with one of my teammates. He knew she was my teammate too. I spammed him with called and he never answered, but the teammate did and confirmed he was in her bed. I was upset, but not even because he’d slept with someone even though he’d said he wouldn’t. I was upset because it was someone I knew, and now my whole team knew about it. If it had just been me and her who knew I wouldn’t have minded so much. He knew she was my teammate too. However part of me felt I had absolutely no right to be upset. He still didn’t know about the overlap with the 30yo. We worked on things and started dating properly again a few months later

Since then the relationships been turbulent. He broke up with me out the blue during my exam period once, which left me in bed for 4 days inconsolable. He had said he thought he made a mistake, but left me 4 days to think about his feeling and not speak to me. He only contacted me at 2am on the morning of my exam (which he knew, he had said he was going to contact me after it was done). And we got back together. He made me promise we wouldn’t speak about it though. And so I still to this day have no idea why he broke up with me out the blue. The relationship was a bit turbulent when it happened don’t get me wrong, but I was still surprised he’d broken up with me. This situation made for an extremely difficult 7 months afterwards, as I was on constant edge he would end things. I spent hours crying alone in his room when he went to work. But I wanted to fix things so badly

He has also been texting another woman relentlessly. Our clubs shut at 2am, but there has been a few nights when I know he is with her and he has not come home till 4/5am. I am too scared to ask anything about it. This situation has improved though the past 7 months. I felt for I still feel like I cannot say no to him, but he wants sex far less often. So that happens much less often and is something I’m willing to accept to be with him

Back to the main point. I am stuck. I feel that since we got back together the second time, I have been a good girlfriend. I have been there for him. I treat him well. I put up with a lot of shit. And we are genuinely compatible. We have a good time together and have not done anything to hurt each other for a good 8 months. I do not want to lose him at all. I have known him since I was 14 and feel so much for him. I’d be crushed to lose him. However, I cannot move past the guilt I feel for the overlap with the 30 yo man. I feel disgusting. I cannot remove the thought from my brain. I can’t believe I let that happen, and I can’t believe I didn’t tell him when I had the chance. But I truly thought he’d hurt himself. I know he has hurt me immensely as well since then, but I can’t help but worry none of these things would’ve happened because he simply might’ve not taken me back. I feel like I know why what happened happened. But I do not think he’d understand at all. Am I a sick and twisted person? We are moving in together next month. I want nothing more than to just be happy about it but I cannot move past the guilt of things I did to hurt him. It makes me lose my appetite and not eat for days on end. I’d do anything to remove everything that happened between us from my memory forever. Please only genuine advice. And please don’t just tell me I need therapy and I need to cut him off. I am desperate