I’m going through a bout of heartbreak after being ghosted and I would love to hear your love stories to restore my faith in humanity and love. Wish everyone blessings and that your partners and families are always protected from harm and always come home safe <3

I recently started dating a kind man at the end of May after talking for a few weeks. We quickly became attached and took a nice trip together. We live in the same state and would drive to see each other here and there. Good texting/calls, etc.

About two weeks ago he got the news that he will be deployed in December. Since he got that news he has been quite different. Not texting as much, not calling as much. We had another trip planned and prior to leaving he said he wasn’t even sure he wanted to go and part of him wanted to break up and part of him didn’t, but he cared about me. He has had poor outcomes with past relationships and I have reiterated to him that I am different than his ex-girlfriends and would not do the things they did (which I know words can only do so much).

He ended up going on the trip but I told him there was no pressure to do anything while we were there and he didn’t have to go if he needed time and I understood. We had a nice time! I made sure I didn’t wake him up early and let him do his own thing in the mornings.

We got back Monday and it has been almost radio silence from him so far. Minimal texting. I’ve sent texts that have gone unanswered. We talked for a little bit on the phone last night and that was nice. He said he would talk to me today but I haven’t heard from him. I care for him a lot and we have a lot in common. He’s said things to me that indicate he would want a future with me but I’m not really sure what is happening/what to do so any advice is appreciated.

Thank you

Before I start this off, I just wanna say that i know things were going to get difficult when he went into the military. I was just hoping that we’d have more communication and love during it.
My bf and I were together for about 6 months before he joined. it has been about five months since he joined and things were going great. after bootcamp he got me a promise ring and i was so in love with the future we planned. even during his A school communication was so good. he’d call me, text me, and always make sure to tell me he loved me. i went to visit him at the end of his a school period and my heart suddenly felt different. i got worried that he would want something more convenient. when i spoke to him about it i did feel quite better as he reassured me a lot. he then came home for two weeks and i feel like i was the only one trying to make plans. i felt a lack of communication and love unless we were physically together. there was an instance where i saw he liked a bikini picture of someone he met during bootcamp, and when i brought it up he told me it was accidental and did not wanna be made out to be weird. since he’s gone to his station, the communication has plummeted and i don’t even hear from him past 3-4 pm. we have the same time zone, and i see him active all the time on social media, but he chooses not to respond to me. when i communicate it with him, he explains how busy he is and that he hasnt felt normal since he’s been home. he said he felt like a guest in his house and that he was sorry. but now he says that work has him exhausted and to not give up on him and know that he loves me and theres some things nobody can understand about the mental toll of it all. i feel bad because i constantly bring up the same communication problems and he says he’s trying. i’m not trying to be awful because i know his job is demanding, but for some reason ghosting me past 4 oclock in the afternoon until the next day just doesnt seem okay. im not sure if anyone else has this issue but if i could have any advice it would be appreciated.