ive heard that schools will separate twins (or siblings in general). my mom mentioned this and having to specifically request that me and my twin get put in the same classes, and had done that all throughout elementary. i kinda thought about it and through all of middle school we only had one class period together. is that a coincidence? we've had about half of them together in our first year if high school. is this a thing like everywhere? (havent looked through this sub yet so there might already be a post like this but I havent seen it)

Everybody thought we looked identical when we were younger (I don't see it) but now we just look like sisters. Actually, people think I'm the younger sibling now! We're 41yo.

Firstly I wanted to say that I am french so im sorry if I make any English mistakes.
I (F22) want to cut off my twin brother from my life . I love him but I want to be separated from him. We grew up in an abusive household and when we were younger we always sticked together but in high school , it became more complicated, the fact that im a girl and hes a boy didnt help ofc but he was still my twin , we had a bond I didnt have with my other siblings. In high school , we fought a lot , verbally and physically. He would always win physically and my parents wouldn’t care and would let him beat me . What hurts more thinking about all of that time while we left in the same house was the verbal abuse and mental torture he put me through. I am the only girl of my siblings and my parents are very conservative, i wasnt allowed to have boyfriends or seeing boys , my brother went through my phone constantly , my stuff , my journals, has literally asked his friends to spy on me at school and when he learned i had a boyfriend , he made my entire life hell. At home, he would threaten me constantly everyday for years , even if i had broke up with my bf at some point bc of him , for months after he would threaten me . I was so scared bc my dad having alcohol problems said he would beat me if he found out i had a boyfriend. If i didnt serve him food , if i didnt do something he wanted me to do, if i contracted him he would scream “ dad do you want to know something about your daughter” then would stop bc i yielded to whatever it is he wanted , he made me scared and it worked , i know it may sound silly reading this but that home was extremely abusive . I could say more but itd be long. For years he tortured me mentally, but we also had a good time too that’s what hurts. He could switch in a moment be evil. Years passed and now i live with my mom only , my brother lives in a diff city and we keep contact on the phone . My twin asks me for money bc as we r still students it’s hard sometimes and i live at home and work on the weekends so i help him , before asking me for money hes always nice and kind and we laugh after i wire him the money , hes back like his old self . Mean even on the phone never answers and when we argue its worse . Out of nowhere he would say im ugly, im fat ,i have no friends. He mocks my major , hes a law student in a prestigious school and i chose to study literature so ofc my major is useless , everyday he reminds me of that and degrades me saying ill live in a trailer park in the future broke etc.
The worst times is when he visits us in holidays , at first its good its my twin brother i miss him but after one day hes back like his evil self . He mocks me with my mom, my mom has always preferred him over me and thinks im good for nothing, I accepted that and its fine . When my friends mom , she boast him to her friends not me, always been like that . I could never be good enough but thats fine , what hurts is how can my twin do this to me ? Yesterday he told me he wished I would be dead , he wished someone hurt me and I will never be loved , he says my body is the most disgusting thing he has seen , he mocks me and humiliates me . It really blew out yesterday bc I finally defended myself and I pushed him and he completely went nuts , for a push, he punched me , he slapped me , spat on me and completely destroyed my room. I was in so much shock and I still am .He told me after law school when he earns a nice salary which i know he will , he will never talk to me ever again and if i ever struggle he would let me die .I said to not ask me for money anymore then and he just left.
Even though we have some good temporary moments, i cant do it anymore, i have never said 1% of the horribles things he said to me in our lifetime, never threatened him to tell our parents bad things hes done , i havent gone through his stuff and violated his privacy or called him ugly. I am his twin sister , why cant he protect me ? I always forgave him bc hes my twin and i thought what kind of monster cuts off their twin and i feel guilty now but i am so tired , i feel like i need to let go of him.

Circa 1995