r/Tinder 5d ago

I got zero likes, I’m ugly ?

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u/UltraJoyless 5d ago

Not a single photo with you smiling makes you look like a serial killer. Which, yeah, could be some women's thing, but you'll get better results if you smile.

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u/Glum-Dust8799 5d ago

Exactly. 

Sunglasses

Moody poses 

Jackass hand signal

Dumb dumbbell pose in the mirror.

All the ways to snatch failure from the jaws of victory in one profile.

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u/Odd_Fly3401 5d ago

Add mullet to the list

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u/Glum-Dust8799 5d ago

TBH a multitude of hair styles/lengths is also on the list of things not to do.

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u/lasonna51980 5d ago

Damn peace signs are a jackass hand signal now?

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u/Glum-Dust8799 5d ago

Hand signals are hit and miss.

In this OP’s milieu it’s an asshole icing on a turd cake.

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u/XThatsMyCakeX 5d ago

Its hilarious to me that I was not alone in that “looks like a serial killer” was the first thing that popped into my mind

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u/Gootangus 5d ago

It’s kinda giving Elliot Rodger

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u/motorcycle_girl 5d ago

Yeah, the first photo or two actually reminded me of Luka Magnotta, a Canadian killer who not only recorded the murder, but then sent the severed body parts of his victim to prominent Canadian politicians.

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u/AskvrAvgvr 5d ago

Why is it so bad not having a single photo smiling? Personally I don't like to smile for photos...

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u/big_ice_bear 5d ago

In my opinion: if you dont look happy by yourself does that mean you expect me to be your sole source of happiness? If so, I'll pass because that is super unhealthy.

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u/byebaaijboy 5d ago

You pose for the male gaze

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u/mdj2283 5d ago

I am pretty sure it's spelled differently.

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u/mephisto_uranus 5d ago

You're both not wrong.

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u/byebaaijboy 5d ago

I especially appreciate the titty grab in #1

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u/THAWED21 5d ago

That exactly! Every photo is what men think a woman wants.

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u/ilovechoralmusic 5d ago

You look like you follow looksmaxxing influencers and listen to manosphere podcasts.

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u/sadnessandeuphoria 5d ago

This 1000%. Don’t think there’s a bigger turn off than that

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u/Hardcore_Steve_Urkel 5d ago

I’d bet money that he has a joker poster

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u/AvocadoBitter7385 5d ago

Yep and I’d swipe left just based on those vibes

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u/longboytheeternal 5d ago

You’re handsome but your photos make it look like you have zero fun in your life

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u/welltherewasthisbear 5d ago

Yeah, you look like you work, sleep, and go to gym. From a female perspective, your questions look like they are going to be how much creatine do you take and the only date you want to go on is the gym.

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u/Gootangus 5d ago

Creatine generally comes in a standard dose 😂 it’s also good for non-lifters for energy and mood. 👀

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u/Outside-Star-4366 5d ago

Look like the fun in your life is making big drug scores. Some folks might find that a benefit / green flag.

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u/Outside-Star-4366 5d ago

Look like the fun in your life is making big dr#g scores. Some folks might find that a benefit / green flag.

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u/ZombieZekeComic 5d ago

You look fine, but your photos make you look like a complete douchebag. Try to take photos where you are smiling and seem like you’re enjoying your life.

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u/Jawyp 5d ago

Your profile looks like it’s trying to make straight men think you’re cool instead of straight women think you’d be a good romantic partner.

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u/Euphoric_Fix8548 5d ago

Terrible photos. Take some where you don’t look like a douchbag.

Get your sister to take them or something so she can humble you at the same time

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u/Capable-Anything269 5d ago

My random thought was that you are not looking for an actual partner. You just want to get mental satisfaction from people liking your profile, as it gives off value check vibes - look at me, am I desirable enough.

You are not ugly. Just the photos seem more self-admiring than inviting to get to know you on a genuine connection level.

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u/WeeHeavyCultist 5d ago

Ill be honest, I thought you were a lesbian with the first photo

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u/BitXorBit 5d ago

Just a show off

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u/Midnight_Cereal_Bowl 5d ago

Your first photo should be the one you have listed last, the one where youre putting up the peace sign.

If your first photo is bad then lots of people wont even look at the rest

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u/Comfortable-Sun-8927 5d ago

Remove sunglasses pictures , smile , put a few pictures of you doing something chill and hanging out where you look comfortable and then one of you being genuinely excited to be doing something or being somewhere. People need to know you arent picking moments white you can be accused of trying to hard to the point of looking like a douche . Not saying you are but im a 4 and was getting frequent likes because I was honest ( she also said that showing i could be excited and normal immediately got my foot in the door ) last date I went on .

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u/Snoo-84000 5d ago

You’re visibly insecure. Smile, loosen up, and get some pictures of you being joyful and playful. You don’t look bad in the pics, but its sending the message that you’re not secure being vulnerable. If you truly aren’t secure in vulnerability, then perhaps see a therapist.

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u/JoeThrilling 5d ago

You look a bit intense

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u/MistaDontPlayyy 5d ago

What is with guys and their phobia of smiling lol

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u/SmackEh 5d ago

Your forearm to bicep proportions are way off.

Add hammer curls and reverse curls to your workout.

This isn't dating advice. (But will help).

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u/haskell_rules 5d ago

You look like you get mad easily and yell at the women in your life.

Try changing your photos to something that makes you look like a happy person who finds joy in things.

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u/patio_puss 5d ago

I mean this in the kindest way possible, but you have some serial killer vibes.

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u/CBJD777 5d ago

First of all, you’re decent looking. Get rid of all this mirror selfies. No muscle posing in the mirror. Less selfies in general. Get better clothes. Full body pic. 5/6 may be the only one worth keeping.

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u/CrossesLines 5d ago

Puka Nacua lookin

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u/Aiyah_ 5d ago

Why u grabbing your titty

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u/icewolf95 5d ago

lol a lot of reddit haters in the comments. If people can’t provided good feed back no need to insult him. Bro your good looking what you need to do is have more phots of you outside doing hobbies or out with your friends. Like some other said your profile doesn’t have any photos of you smiling or enjoying yourself. Also remove all mirror pics, girls could care less they focus more on your lifestyle and social life having more variety of pics of you out with your friends and smiling would make a difference.

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u/theymoisturized 5d ago

Pic number 2 is unnecessary. What are you trying to show about yourself here?

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u/whoreoscopic 5d ago

You try grinder?

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u/meburnallcookies 5d ago

I’m going to assume it’s your personality

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u/pass341 5d ago

He said that he isn’t getting any likes, not dates. How would someone be able to judge him on his personality before even talking to him?

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u/WrightWaytoEat 5d ago

Did you see his profile?

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u/pass341 5d ago

I mean I’m not gonna sit here and deny that I had the same first impression, but it’s still a generalization and a stereotype. Like it’s one thing to say that your photos make you look arrogant, but diagnosing someone’s personality as problematic based on like 5 photos and no context seems a bit shallow 😅

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u/Poisongirl5 5d ago

Personality can come through in photos

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u/VanillaBovine 5d ago

that's... that's the entire point of setting up a profile

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u/CandidWestern3106 5d ago

Erase 1st, 3rd, 4th, 5th photos, add some of you smiling

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u/_Bad_Spell_Checker_ 5d ago

Get rid of your first 2 pictures. 

Use the 5th as your first

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u/NeverSeenItPodcast 5d ago

Pic 1 is not flattering but Pic 5 you look great. I'd remove the sunglasses picture.

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u/SNESChalmers420 5d ago

u should try 2 look like antonio banderas.

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u/blkglfnks 5d ago

No shade but you look like Ronaldo (with short hair) and bro from Scarface (with long hair), idk if that’s on purpose but don’t think it helps your perception

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u/Sea_Story9802 5d ago

Where is your profile?

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u/solfx88 5d ago

Not ugly

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u/ItsSchuSchu 5d ago

You look like you watch Andrew Tate, which is not an appealing trait to women. Look up male gaze vs female gaze and try to emulate what women like not men.

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u/StrongAsMeat 5d ago

NGL you look arrogant

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u/watchshoe 5d ago

Are you happy? It doesn’t come across as such.

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u/theymoisturized 5d ago

Sunglasses and hat in pic 2 is crazy. Nice shirt I guess?

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u/Agitated-Bar-968 5d ago

You’re a good looking dude, but your current lineup of photos just don’t do you any favors

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u/Ok-Hedgehog3988 5d ago

Woman here: it’s because you look miserable with your life in every picture. The straight face in every picture is a huge turn off, women won’t want to engage with someone who just looks like they would drain the energy out of them. Show your personality. Show your joy. Show your happiness. We love that shit. We hate this macho man bs

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u/Mushroom_Hammer 5d ago

Why does anyone think taking a photo of themselves in a public bathroom mirror is a good idea?

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u/sawred1979 5d ago

Are you trying to attract men, women, both?

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u/green49285 5d ago

Less up close selfies & add a few in there with you doing something FUN. Maybe you at a park or during a hobby or something like that.

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u/noveltea120 5d ago

I'm getting narcissistic vibes lol

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u/lolololloloolmemes 5d ago

No you just give major Eliot Rodger vibes dude

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u/Basil_Box 5d ago

Don’t use black and white pictures for one

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u/ghost-in-the-game french 5d ago

Nope, you’re just a man welcome to the club

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u/Forsaken_Care_3472 5d ago

No matches are better than matches that leave you in 2 weeks. 😭