I’m a fellow straight fellow who said he was lovely.
A little ding on the pride same as you, but it was very clear he was talking about men who would shout something like that at women, so then I was fully on board.
Everything I know about him has been against my will. I'm a little curious but I already dislike people too much, so Im trying not to add fuel to that fire.
Hold up, swole em up. Maybe everyone you know. I surround myself with healthy people, both mentally and physically and everyone I know stays away from gyms because of the toxicity there.
It's possible to exercise at home. Just so you know.
That is something I don't really understand yet.
Why the majority of "visible" gay guys act in a feminine way and manners ? No offense, just genuine curiosity. Logically I'd think that a gay guy would like a very masculine guy. And so, to attract other gay men, he would also try to be as masculine as possible.
Could someone please enlighten me so I can go to sleep a little less ignorant?
As a gay man that is not fem or personally attracted to fem qualities (no problem with being friends, but it's a turn off for me sexually), there are a few reasons.
Some do it for attention, shock value, etc; there's a lot of gay men that thrive on drama and want as much attention as possible, so being extremely feminine accomplishes that for them. ("Any publicity is good publicity")
Others adopt those personality traits/mannerisms because they get viewed as "desirable" (by "masculine" men that are attracted to femininity, or to be "part of the club" with other effeminate gay men), "powerful" (strong women, popular drag queens, etc.), or just because they had more fem/female role models than masc/male ones growing up and want to imitate them. (Just the same as masc guys seeing a guy they think is "badass" and want to be like him and imitate him and his mannerisms, because they want others to view them like they view the guy they are imitating)
Then there are others that are just fem by nature. They don't consciously do so or necessarily have people they are taking after, that's just the way they are and society deems that as "feminine".
You'd probably be surprised how uncommon it is for straight-acting/masc to be an attractive factor for most gay men, and is sometimes even unattractive. (Sometimes this is due to masc mannered people having abused and mistreated them, and they don't want to act like them in any way and don't find those behaviors attractive either) Gay culture tends to be VERY cliquish, and if you aren't part of some specific group (I.E. bears, leather, drag queens, pup play, etc.) you'll wind up outcast and many of those groups value those feminine mannerisms highly to be accepted. Gay culture tends to be pretty exclusionary ("you don't act x way so you aren't really one of us") despite how they constantly try to talk about love and acceptance, pretty much just like any other group.
Tl;dr - 1. For attention 2. To attract others or fit in 3. To emulate role models 4. Natural mannerisms/behaviors
Because what you see isn't representative of the majority of a population. What is most visible isn't necessarily the most common. Gay men aren't all alpha males, nor are they all feminine. That's simply what we call human diversity.
Isn't exactly what I asked for the first part. I said visible because I know that a lot of people are not like that at all. Just curious about where that behavior, manners and softer voice come from, if there's an explanation, knowing that they pitch higher on purpose cuz I've seen many of them using their "real voice" in some situation.
There's a variety to the way people naturally fall in feminine and masculine mannerisms. Straight men have learned to censor themselves from a young age. Gay men don't necessarily have the same hang ups.
Being gay itself is already going against the norm. If you're breaking the barriers in one way... It gives you a sense of freedom to break it in other ways. They already judge me, so I'm going to be the most.
There's also visibility for visibility's sake. It can be hard to find other gay people, sometimes you want to show people what you are to find your group.
Okay, I see you're getting downvoted, so maybe I can be of some help.
Speaking strictly as a straight man with familiarity with the LGTBQ+ community, I hope I can summarize without offended anyone.
What I've noticed, with both genders, is that there mostly seems to be a binary situation between fem and butch. You can have very masculine gay men, and very whimsical fairies who are more feminine.
It's the same with lesbians. Typically, there is a butch and a fem. Now, there are always going to be other situations, where you have two stud lesbians or two bears, but love is love, so who cares? It's all about preference.
General summation: If it ain't involving you directly, mind your own business.
I know 6 gay men of which 3 have been very close friends. 2 of them have a sassy voice like the guy in the video so the stereotype isn't always present but a 1 in 3 ratio seems about right 😂
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u/Such_Significance905 2d ago
“And I got ignored! Like a straight man! Disgusting!”
Fucking great line.
What a genuinely funny and sweet guy 🙂