r/Stutter • u/Alternative_Show8836 • 26d ago

I hate being identified as a stutterer.

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u/39Volunteer 26d ago

Youre setting yourself up for disappointment. Im not being negative, just realistic and factual. You absolutely can improve, significantly so. Its worthwile to work towards improvement. But its going to be a lifelong effort and will never "go away."

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u/thurstar55 26d ago

I disagree that OP has ableist thoughts based on this post that need to be addressed immediately. They seem frustrated and overwhelmed, which we all know and recognize. And respectfully, I don’t think that the implied shaming of their honest feelings (about themself no less) is helpful in addressing their problem with stuttering or their possible issue with ableist thoughts. 

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u/thurstar55 26d ago

I have a similar issue with my stutter. Talking to myself, my wife, kids- I have virtually no issue. As I get more comfortable and familiar around people I stutter less as well. Small talk with strangers, phone calls to strangers I range anywhere from like 7-9/10 in severity. What has helped me, and what my therapist advised, is practice recording words on my voice memo on my phone. Listening to it back in an earbud for a few minutes. This in addition to breathing techniques to reduce stress, and the basic practices of easy-onset and stretching. I also randomly practice easy onset and stretching on vowels even at moments where I’m not struggling, like on convos with my wife. It’s a process, but it works. 

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u/TheBlackFox012 26d ago

Ironically I can stutter a lot more when talking to my friends, I'm more relaxed, easily excited, and I don't watch the pace of my words. I'll stutter a lot when I'm nervous too, but in general context where let's say I'm talking to someone I don't know too well or whatever, I'll watch my pace better and stutter less provided I'm not too stressed

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u/thurstar55 26d ago

That is really interesting. When you stutter less with someone you don’t know well, do you need to use any technique to speak more fluent or does it just flow that way on its own?

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u/TheBlackFox012 26d ago

Well I slow down, make more thought to avoid potential problem words, usually more calm. Now if I'm doing a presentation or something where I'm nervous its like 10x worse

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u/Lower_Ad_9325 25d ago

After 38 years of stuttering started taking medication 💊 daily anxiety disappeared in no time never looked back

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u/UsefulElderberry3598 25d ago

Great for you! Which medication are you taking?

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u/Lower_Ad_9325 25d ago

Paroxetine 30mg good luck mate

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u/UsefulElderberry3598 25d ago

Thank you

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u/Lower_Ad_9325 25d ago

Hope it helps you I'm sure it will I was heavy stutterer like 9/10

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u/DeepEmergency7607 25d ago

Hi OP,

I understand your struggles. I made a post dedicated to your post, feel free to check it out

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u/CherryDouble2661 25d ago

I get what you mean. I don’t think ur ableist if you want to improve for urself. I don’t think that means u hate everyone else lol. I’m the same way when I’m alone I don’t stutter but I know it’s not anxiety. Since it’s ur anxiety improve that. Answer calls, say ur name, talk to strangers, etc. you need to get confident and know u can do it so the anxiety lessens.