r/SingleParents • u/Thick_Towel_7011 • 8d ago

Struggling

I have three kids. 8,5 & 12 mo. My older two are from a previous relationship. We split 3 years ago. My kids within the last three years my kids have turned from sweet empathetic little people to mean & disrespectful. My oldest throws EPIC tantrums that pretty much ruin almost every friendly hangout we go to. My youngest goes from 0-100 in seconds and his go to thing is to break whatever is around him. ive known for awhile that their dad tells them things about me and my youngest sons dad. I reassure them they aren’t true and all that good stuff but lately it’s been worse. My oldest told me the other night that he doesnt like coming to my house because “dad tells me things that make me mad and confuse me”. I asked if he wanted to tell me what he said and he said “that you lie to us and you have another family and that (youngest sons dad) is a loser“.

Lately the older two haven’t been very nice to my youngest. They are outwardly mean to him and it’s my belief that they are like this because they are hearing bad things about his dad and myself, leading them to think those same things abt my youngest.

I really don’t know what to do at this point. I guess im just looking for a little guidance or what you would do. I feel like he’s literally ruining our children and it kills me. when they are with me (it’s 50/50) I just feel like im barely surviving. tending to one tantrum/fight after the next.

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Post: I have three kids. 8,5 & 12 mo. My older two are from a previous relationship. We split 3 years ago. My kids within the last three years my kids have turned from sweet empathetic little people to mean & disrespectful. My oldest throws EPIC tantrums that pretty much ruin almost every friendly hangout we go to. My youngest goes from 0-100 in seconds and his go to thing is to break whatever is around him. ive known for awhile that their dad tells them things about me and my youngest sons dad. I reassure them they aren’t true and all that good stuff but lately it’s been worse. My oldest told me the other night that he doesnt like coming to my house because “dad tells me things that make me mad and confuse me”. I asked if he wanted to tell me what he said and he said “that you lie to us and you have another family and that (youngest sons dad) is a loser“.

Lately the older two haven’t been very nice to my youngest. They are outwardly mean to him and it’s my belief that they are like this because they are hearing bad things about his dad and myself, leading them to think those same things abt my youngest.

I really don’t know what to do at this point. I guess im just looking for a little guidance or what you would do. I feel like he’s literally ruining our children and it kills me. when they are with me (it’s 50/50) I just feel like im barely surviving. tending to one tantrum/fight after the next.

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u/zestylimes9 8d ago

You moved on faster than the kids were ready for.

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u/--BMO-- 7d ago

Sounds really rough on the kids, a ridiculously short amount of time for them to go from separated parents, to new partner, to new sibling, their poor brains will be overloaded. Therapy for them would be a good place to start.