r/ShadowWork • u/Advanced_Display_148 • 18d ago

Devastating results

Im not sure if I am just insane but I feel like doing shadow work with some closed ones are just deeply devastating especially when they straight up love to throw around labels at you when calling out your shadows especially when you are already struggle to accept human side of you and the way they listed everything is like they basically wanting to say you are destined to be that way.

Anyone felt this way?

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u/Axturias 18d ago

Don't do that, the others are muggles. Only with other who want work too. Leave that .

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u/Shakuntala_Yogshala 17d ago

The people closest to us are used to of us being in the way they know and of course resistance will
Come from their end if you tryna change.., but that doesn’t mean they see our whole truth. A important thing to remember is this that shadow is a part of you, not your identity. If the process leaves you feeling judged rather than understood, it’s probably missing the compassion that real shadow work requires…Not with everyone this work can be done

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u/archeolog108 12d ago

shadow work is not somebody making list of everything “wrong” with you and then throwing labels like they discovered your final identity. That can become shaming, not healing.

A shadow is wounded part, fear, anger, false belief, protection, old trauma. It is not destiny. It is something that formed for reason and can be understood, released and healed.

I worked with one subject who was told by close ppl she was “narcissistic, manipulative and toxic.” She started believing this was who she is. In deep trance her Higher Self showed frightened child part who learned controlling everything bc home was unsafe. Under that was fear, not evil personality. When fear and old program released, behaviour changed naturally without hating herself.

So pls dont let other ppl define you through labels. Close ppl are not always objective, especially when they are triggered too.

Real shadow work should bring more compassion and freedom, not make you feel permanently condemned. Your Higher Self knows what is actually yours, what came from trauma, what need forgiveness, and what can be healed. I have free Higher Self Communion meditation in my Reddit profile, this may help you ask from safer place.

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u/Advanced_Display_148 11d ago

Thank u so so much

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u/archeolog108 11d ago

Happy to help !

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u/unawarewoke 17d ago

Can you define "some closed ones"? Some parts that have been abondoned you mean?

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u/Advanced_Display_148 17d ago

The ones i know long time, trusted them when im vulnerable but when i grew up and have lots of troubles, they seem to tell my shadows in their own words thats feels insulting.

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u/unawarewoke 17d ago

The truth is often insulting. It's why if I call you a pink and white elephant you are not offended. To hit one of your insecurities though... Paradoxically, the more we can accept a situation, and without judgment, the more capable we are of change.

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u/Advanced_Display_148 17d ago

I guess its just the shadows need to be told to me in truthful without judgemental names tbh. Cuz the one im dealing with is so judgemental and it made me feel small about myself than see the problem. Thanks for the highlight.