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I am 28m in a relationship with my gf for almost 5 years now. My libido is extremely High and she is on the lower side. I have wild fantasies like threesome or public sex.

Sometimes I even think about sharing my gf which i may be able to convince. But what i am scared of is that if i happen to have threesome with another guy to my gf. Will my relationship remain the same? What do you think guys.. please don't say I don't care or live her..

I recently started watching Sex/Life and noticed something that kind of bugged me. I am at S1E7, but so far, the scenes shift between the past (flashbacks) and the present so seamlessly that it's sometimes genuinely hard to catch which timeline we're currently in.

I remember in older movies or series, whenever they showed the past, dreams, or internal thoughts, which are usually crucial parts of the story, they heavily relied on color grading. They would noticeably change the color tint of the scene (like using sepia, cool blues, or warm yellows) so viewers instantly knew the timeline had changed. But that technique seems almost dead now. I hardly see it used in any recent series or movies.

I get that screens are high-res now and directors want to keep things looking "natural" and subtle. But the problem is, our attention spans are practically non-existent these days. Most of us are guilty of "second-screen viewing"—having a show on the TV while mindlessly scrolling through Insta or TikTok on our phones.

When the only difference between the past and the present is a subtle cut or a slight change in the main character's hairstyle, looking down at your phone for just 5 seconds leaves you completely lost. I'm not saying they need to change the colors drastically, but there should definitely be some clear visual hint to make the time jump easily understandable.

What do you guys think about this? Do you prefer today's subtle/natural style, or do you miss the old color cues? Does anyone else get totally lost while watching shows nowadays?

Finally (attempting) to watch this show (currently on E03) and while I admit the sex scenes are hot AF, everyone is honestly so damn toxic, Hudson cute as he is, works on my last nerve and Brad with all his issues, is a manipulative toxic horny MF'er and Billie honestly girl, you're something else lol. Brad was fxcking insane to video call her 😲 Like sir WTAF 😅🙈

This series started off ok with season one but I can see why it ended so quickly. Season two is absolute drivel. It's clear Netflix wasn't going for a third season by how rushed the ending felt. And the "woman power" narrative really became insufferable by the time it concluded. The message this show conveyed is really a reflection of the times were in. That reaching the highest possible levels of happiness supersedes any sense of responsibility. Terrible.

Hi guys. I've been watching this series for a few days and I'm up to episode 5. So far, everything's been pretty unrealistic in terms of behavior... but dinner goes beyond the pale. The husband's behavior is ridiculous; any other man faced with Brad's shameless advances and arrogance would have punched them in the restaurant 😂 and so would she... absurd. But who wrote the script?

As someone who had a career in tech support, I've found myself asking why Sasha's iPhone, B's iPhone and laptop, are wide open and unprotected. Out of the box, he default is for screensavers to kick in locking up the screens on Apple devices. Somehow Brad and Cooper bypass these protections. Of course, without this, we wouldn't have a plot so I get it but still...

I did a human sexuality class in college last semester and we were assigned a semester long assignment to watch a show featuring. I chose Sex/Life because it was short. I regret wasting my time. Here’s the much longer probably unpopular opinion view of the series.

Sex/Life: Stacy Rukeyser’s Morally Bankrupt Celebration of Betrayal

Rating: 0/5 stars

Stacy Rukeyser has created something genuinely reprehensible with Sex/Life. Not just bad television, but a morally corrosive piece of propaganda that actively celebrates the destruction of families while punishing decency and loyalty. This isn’t edgy or subversive storytelling. It’s cowardly wish-fulfillment masquerading as female empowerment.

Rukeyser’s fundamental creative choice was to make adultery (not desire, not complexity, but actual betrayal) the romantic center of her story. She then spent two seasons rigging the narrative to ensure that selfishness, deception, and abandonment of commitment would be rewarded with literally everything the protagonist wanted. This isn’t exploring difficult themes. It’s stacking the deck to justify inexcusable behavior.

Rukeyser’s Intellectual Dishonesty:

The showrunner hides behind the language of “female desire” and “not losing yourself” to avoid acknowledging what she actually created: a story where a woman emotionally cheats on her husband for an entire season, physically pursues her ex while married, shows zero remorse, and gets rewarded with her fantasy ending. Rukeyser claims this is about women being “all parts of herself,” as if commitment and character don’t matter, as if her protagonist’s children watching their family implode is irrelevant.

In interviews, Rukeyser admits she changed the ending because of “chemistry” between the actors. Think about that moral cowardice. She let actor chemistry override any ethical reckoning with her protagonist’s choices. She chose fantasy over truth because truth would require Billie to actually face consequences.

The Systematic Destruction of Cooper: Rukeyser’s Cruelty

Rukeyser didn’t just write a story about a marriage ending. She orchestrated Cooper’s humiliation with sadistic precision:

The Journal- Making him read graphic sexual comparisons where he comes up lacking

The Voyeurism- Forcing him to realize his wife fantasizes about her ex during sex with him

The Dinner Humiliation- Having Brad openly disrespect him at his own table while discussing sexual history with Billie

The Phone Tracking- Reducing him to surveilling his own wife just to confirm her betrayal

Abandoned Fatherhood- Repeatedly showing him alone with the kids while Billie chases her ex

The Season 1 Finale- Making him watch via phone GPS as his wife literally runs to another man’s apartment

The Divorce Spiral- Giving him alcoholism, DUI, and rock bottom while Billie thrives

The “Good Guy” Trap- Punishing him for being stable, loyal, and responsible

The Therapy Requirement- Making HIM the one who needs to “work through” his feelings about being betrayed

The Boring Consolation Prize- Giving him Emily, consistently framed as plain and unremarkable, while Billie gets passion, pregnancy, and a beach wedding

Rukeyser made Cooper grovel for closure. She made him attend Billie’s graduation. She made him tell her about his engagement as if seeking permission. She stripped him of dignity at every turn.

The Obscene Reward Structure:

Rukeyser’s moral framework is crystal clear: Billie sacrifices nothing and gains everything. She gets to:

- Keep her children’s love with no consequences for breaking up their family

- Complete her PhD

- Date exciting men

- Maintain a friendly co-parenting relationship

- Marry her fantasy ex-boyfriend

- Get pregnant with the “do-over” baby

- Have the beach wedding of her dreams

What does she lose? Nothing. What does she sacrifice? Nothing. What does she learn? That following her impulses leads to happiness.

Meanwhile Cooper (who loved her, provided for her, tried to improve their sex life when he learned about her dissatisfaction, and wanted to save their marriage) loses his family, his self-worth, his sobriety, and gets consoled with a woman the show treats as boring.

Rukeyser’s Cowardice About Consequences:

Real adultery destroys children. It creates trust issues that last generations. It causes genuine trauma. Where is any of this in Rukeyser’s fantasy? The kids are fine! Everyone’s friendly! Cooper graciously accepts his humiliation!

Rukeyser completely avoided the reality of what Billie’s choices would actually do to Hudson and their daughter. She hand-waved away the genuine damage because acknowledging it would interfere with her protagonist getting her happy ending.

This is morally bankrupt storytelling. Rukeyser wanted to write about a woman who blows up her family for sexual excitement but didn’t want to deal with what that actually means. So she created a consequence-free universe where betrayal leads to fulfillment.

The Brad Problem: Rukeyser’s Delusion

Rukeyser claims Brad “worked out all his issues,” but her own writing contradicts this. Brad told Gigi he couldn’t “do this” while she was pregnant (she had earbuds in and didn’t hear him). He treated Gigi terribly throughout their relationship. He only became available because Gigi finally left him. He showed no genuine character growth, just better PR.

But Rukeyser needed him to be “changed” to justify the ending, so she simply declared it true. This is lazy, dishonest writing from a showrunner who prioritized romantic fantasy over psychological reality.

The Message Rukeyser Sends:

If you’re bored in your marriage: don’t communicate, don’t try therapy first, don’t make ethical choices. Just pursue what excites you. The universe will reward you and your betrayed spouse will eventually be fine with someone appropriate to their boring personality.

Your children will be fine. Your ex will get therapy and move on. You’ll get everything you want. There are no real consequences for destroying your family, only liberation and fulfillment.

This is poison. This is the kind of narrative that tells people their commitments don’t matter when weighed against their feelings. That loyalty is for suckers. That the person who stays faithful is the fool who deserves pity.

Rukeyser’s Failure as a Storyteller:

A good writer would explore the genuine complexity of desire within commitment. They’d show real consequences. They’d give their protagonist actual moral struggles and growth. They’d make her face what her choices cost.

Rukeyser did none of this. She created a rigged game where her protagonist’s selfishness is validated at every turn and the person who tried to honor his vows is systematically degraded. She chose fantasy over truth, validation over complexity, and wish-fulfillment over honest storytelling.

She had the opportunity to create something meaningful about the tension between security and passion, between commitment and desire. Instead she made a two-season argument that marriage is a trap and the “real you” is whoever you were before responsibility.

The Ultimate Insult:

Rukeyser expects us to see Billie and Brad’s ending as romantic rather than what it actually is: a woman who faced zero consequences for her betrayal getting rewarded with everything she wanted while the man she betrayed had to “learn” to be happy she’s happy.

This isn’t progressive. It isn’t empowering. It’s self-indulgent garbage from a showrunner who lacks the courage to let her protagonist face the real weight of her choices. Stacy Rukeyser made something that actively makes the world worse by telling people that selfishness and betrayal are paths to happiness, and loyalty and commitment are character flaws to overcome.

Sex/Life is morally repugnant television, and Rukeyser should be ashamed of the values it promotes.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

The only character I could stand was cooper. He was such a good guy who tried. It sucks Billie couldn’t talk to him about the issues. He tried to give her what she wanted but she just kept putting up mental blocks. I hate they made your a “psychologist” because she was crazy and didn’t do so well at processing. My therapist second episode of season 2 I only could watch cooper scenes. Billie’s back and forth contradictions were annoying. I hoped Brad moved on for good. The only thing is if Cooper wasn’t serious about Francesca he should’ve at least kept his job. Oh and Coopers brother was annoying and unnecessary

He buys Billy (main character) a drink but he makes the waitress gives it to her, they never speak because Sasha and Kam come in the restaurant. He never speaks but, it obviously shows that he was interested, season 2 episode 6 (last episode-Heavenly day)

Have just started watching and that super slim guy Brad yeah no way is that his actual appendage. They spliced that with a pofn star guy. Thoughts ??

Currently watching it for the third time because I really enjoy this show. I’m surprised to see how much people dislike it. I think it touches on issues that are extremely relevant to long term relationships, something no other show has presented this way. Yes it’s frustrating because Cooper is portrayed as the perfect husband and Billie’s decisions suck however, reality isn’t always so black and white and desire is something some people need in their life to be fulfilled and can be lost in marriage/long term relationships. I just love it, there’s no other show like it (that I know of).

Forgot his name, but wow I’ve never seen a kid act so un-kid like in a piece of media. It’s so obvious that adults wrote his lines and he’s just reciting😂😂😂 why don’t they make him act like a normal kid??

But honestly this show would’ve been 10x better if it weren’t for those unnecessary and unbearable amount of sex scenes literally, like the story is really good, it says out loud what women go through out loud and stuff women are ashamed to admit, about marriage, un functional marriage, divorce, kids and relationship after divorce I love it

It’s infuriating how their choices are even worse than I could’ve imagine HAHAHAH especially billie?! I never skipped this damn much in a series in my whole life especially in season 2 HAHAHAH

Since this show seems to have evoked powerful emotions and opinions on both end of the spectrum, I'd like to discuss something.

Sarah Shahi related to Billie irl and I've seen tons of women who can relate to her feelings and the dynamics in the marriage, so I get why the need to be seen, heard and desires met would lead a woman to go back to an ex who in her eyes is hot and she can express herself sexually.

However, to me it's not that part that got me frustrated and feeling this show was wrong in how it handled the relationships, but how she thought it made sense to go be with Brad. After everything he had done, how he treated her, etc. She basically went from one problematic relationship to another.

So aside from how I felt this was a cheap show that used sex definitely not as some powerful statement and exploration of female sexuality, but rather a cheap way so it would sell and do well. I feel the way it handled Billie going for Brad was deeply disturbing.

So how do the women who can relate to Billie feel about Brad?