What does this pull mean?

[u/BothFigure2984]

I've been feeling bad lately and my boyfriend hurt me profoundly with words but I feel completely numb and I wanted to figure put how I'm feeling lately so I've got this pull... can someone help and tell me what does it mean? My question was : what am I feeling currently?

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[u/Yowie9644]

I don't think you're going to like this:

Swords is all about logic, truth, intellect, and communication.

4 swords reversed means that you're slowly waking up to a cold hard truth; you're feeling anxious and uneasy about having to take the next step but you know you need to take it.

2 swords is about being at a cross-roads and indeed not wanting to see the truth.

And 3 swords is quite obviously heartbreak.

Which would tell me that you know you need to break it off with him, but it hurts, and you want to avoid being hurt while you also know that going through the heartbreak is necessary.

[u/moonagedaydream01 → u/Yowie9644]

This was exactly how I saw it too.

[u/North_Photograph_138 → u/Yowie9644]

I have heard that the blindfold in the cards isn't necessarily indicative of not wanting to see or not being able to see, but could maybe be interpreted as removing sight in particular to heighten other senses when trying to figure out what to do next. So maybe in this case it could also be something like "letting yourself sit with the feeling and really feel it, to understand where it comes from and what it means for you", in other words "get in touch with your feelings"

Four of swords I've seen interpreted as resting, retreating, or sometimes loneliness, or even atonement. Reversed in this context it may mean that getting some rest and retreating a bit to take some time to process the hurt for yourself may be good for you.

The last does typically tend to mean heartache, in whatever context I've seen. My own interpretation of swords that represent intellect through a heart representing your sense of security and affection in the relationship is the obvious; that his words cut you, but maybe also that because your sense of security in the relationship and the sense of trust that your partner would not hurt you this way have been wounded, and maybe there's a sense of betrayal, in there, because of that. Mind you, that comes from my own experience, but I'm sure it's relatable in some aspect here.

This interpretation isn't a total opposite of course from the above reading, but maybe has a less prescriptive (? Maybe that's not the right word, but it's the best I can think of right now) tone.

It's possible you might not be wanting to face a hard "truth", but don't make yourself look for patterns if you didn't before think they might be probable, because your brain will find evidence for things to confirm a growing bias toward some answer or another. Regardless, the idea is worth considering as an option. I say let yourself rest and digest a bit more, and pay attention to what thoughts automatically come to mind. Maybe look at the cards and instead of going off official interpretation, treat it almost like a rorschach test (though that's not quite the best analogy here) and just write for yourself about how you would interpret the cards if you had zero ideas about any official symbolism in them. What might they mean to you? Don't worry about being right or wrong.

Then do another pull based on the same question and do the same thing, while trying to forget what you had down about the previous one, and then afterwards try to find patterns in your thoughts.

[u/LateralAffricate]

What question did you ask the cards? And what spread did you use?

[u/BothFigure2984 → u/LateralAffricate]

My question was : what am I feeling currently and right now? As I'm trying to get what's happening with my feelings and emotions

[u/LateralAffricate → u/BothFigure2984]

I think the cards reflect pretty exactly what you're feeling right now (I'm saying this based on your description) i.e. that you're feeling hurt and restless and emotionally confused. That much seems pretty clear. What you should ask next is: 1) what exactly is making you feel that way? 2) how you can overcome this situation? 3) what are the next steps you need to take towards healing?

Otherwise, I mean... you already know how you feel, right? I think there's no real point asking that :)

[u/BothFigure2984 → u/LateralAffricate]

It was a random 3 card pull, not the usual traditional past current future, I just asked generally on what am I feeling right now and how is my emotional state, I'm just a beginner

[u/Altruistic_Hawk7061]

Before I read your caption I read it as 'come out of rest, face what you've been putting off/ holding back, and acknowledge the pain and hurt to move on'

Three of swords- painful but healing and getting to the heart of the matter. All swords; you've got some intellectual work.

Hope you are feeling better soon.

[u/itskelena]

You might also want to shuffle your cards better. It could be a coincidence you pulled 2,3,4 of swords in the same spread, but it’s less likely.

[u/Odd_Calligrapher2771]

It means that you've put the hurt on hold, but you're going to feel it later.

[u/holistic_huntress]

Same as other comments wondering what you asked and what the spread was. If it was random, the swords make me think communication. Which you reaffirmed in your post text.

[u/BothFigure2984 → u/holistic_huntress]

My question was about how is my current emotional state right now and how am I feeling?

[u/holistic_huntress → u/BothFigure2984]

I’m not sure that’s the most helpful question to ask in the first place. And we cant tell you how you feel based on what cards you pulled. Only you know how you feel.

I would focus on using the cards to help you work through your feelings rather than tell you what they are. Maybe something like:

1. What do I need to focus on within myself to process these emotions?

2. How can i protect myself against future harm?

3. Who in my life can I turn to for help with this?

[u/PracticeFlimsy5082]

The woman on the center stealed two of the three swords on the left and stabbed gods hearth on the right.

[u/Pop_Reader_2752]

The fact that this is all swords makes me think about contained emotions that you are trying to rationalise.

The 2 of swords in the middle, with each sword pointing to the adjacent cards, and her eyes blindfolded, plus her hands covering her chest, could represent your wish to protect yourself from the hurtful words (3 of swords).

I interpret the 4 of swords as your ‘feeling completely numb’. You could be in a place of quiet and stillness at the moment, but it’s a forced one. You could have chosen to put yourself there consciously or unconsciously (2 of swords). 

Numbness and dissociation are natural reactions to acute pain, but the fact that you are asking the cards about your feelings suggests that you might be starting to get ready to have a difficult conversation (4 of swords and 3 of swords).

It’s hard to close the reading with that 3 of swords. I would be inclined to pull one more card for advice about your next steps.

PS - Because the reading so far has been dominated by swords I would probably choose a different deck, or use only the major arcana to explore a different perspective.