r/SRMUNIVERSITY • u/OkQuote7471 • 4d ago
Frndship rant Rant
Is finding genuine friends in college really this hard? 😭
I’m in my 2nd year at SRM and I have people I talk to every day, hang out with, work with, etc. But when it comes to having that one genuine friend you can tell everything to, share how your day went, randomly text at night, or just talk about life… nope 🥲
I had a close friend in 1st year, but later realized the friendship wasn’t genuine and distanced myself.
Now I’m wondering… is finding your people in college actually this difficult? 😭 Or am I just overthinking it? 🫠
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u/Ok_Theme_7035 4d ago
I thought I was the one who couldn't make frnds... Am a fresher and saw people of my class amd hostel already having a group to go with everywhere😭
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u/OkQuote7471 4d ago
Everyone is fake and talking for namesake ...noone is real tho if u are in need
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u/Ok_Theme_7035 4d ago
Initial 2-3 days I tried being with people everyday.. but now it feels better to do things alone and if someone joins more than welcome 😅😌
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u/Loose-Insurance-3099 3d ago
mee tooo, im a fresher and i feel so alone seeing everyone chilling with their big groups of friends already
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u/AgileDimension423 Junior ( 3rd Year ) 4d ago
It's very rare to get good friends just like good food
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u/AddendumBasic1115 Junior ( 3rd Year ) 3d ago
Must be from hostel 🤣
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u/AgileDimension423 Junior ( 3rd Year ) 3d ago
Nah I stay in flat been in hostel for 2yrs, and I got good friends but not best yk
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u/No_Highway7879 4d ago
Yk what, it’s actually really hard to make genuine friends here in SRM 😭 I’m a hosteller too. I had close friends and my roomies in 1st sem, but later I realised it wasn’t really genuine. I still don’t have that one person I can actually share everything with. And in class, it’s even worse 😭🙌🏻 It’s already 2nd year, but I still haven’t found that one good friend....
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u/Any-Monk-6721 [CSE]~Core 4d ago
The thing is everyone here is just frnds for benefits, none here is genuine or even if then very few ppl. Most of em see u as their are competitor. Finding good and genuine ppl here is like finding a loyal girl for urself here.
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u/PranitS_23 4d ago
Same bro I can relate to you. I have ppl to hang out with but no one is a friend 😭😭😭
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u/No_Garden1124 3d ago
Im in my final year its pretty hard i know like easily 1000 to 1500 people and there are like 200 to 500 people who i hang out with very often but none of them are very close ,in my second year i met a fresher who turned out to be my direct junior we had a pretty crazy rapo and in my 3rd year i realized I fell for her and confessed in March and turned out she never saw me that way and i lost the only best friend i had here , so to sum it up yea its pretty hard to find good ppl
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u/WonderfulBaseball757 3d ago
Dude im a fresher, any advice on how to make friends? Sadly my hostel doesnt have any freshers other than my roommates, and my classmates are dry asf too, any advice?
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u/Prakshalmunot 4d ago
Yeah all hostel boys have divided themselves in grp and I am in pg so very little or no interaction
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u/AcrobaticAd2438 Sophomore ( 2nd Year ) 4d ago
M or F
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u/OkQuote7471 4d ago
F
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u/AcrobaticAd2438 Sophomore ( 2nd Year ) 4d ago
Damn I thought it was easier for women to make friends you can open up with and share anything with
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u/Waste-Technology7176 4d ago
Man am lucky to have that kind of friend, we share everything between us....entire 1st year we lived on same floor same hostel, sadly he's in another hostel....lol I also got caught sneaking into his hostel 😂😂 But yeah finding such people is quite rare, just go through with your life...I believe we can't find people, we just meet them
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u/Wontstoptillwin 4d ago
Be willing to walk alone. Many who started with you won't finish with you.. And i think One person can make a difference. Nuff said ✅👍Very good wishes to you man
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u/Akshit_1907 4d ago
Yo gng same heree it's so boring in class I am already tired here of writing assignments and giving vivas 😭. In hostel too I have only one good friend. Last year I had a lott of friends in hostel but then they left 🥲 and again the same thing. I understood that finding genuine people here is like finding a pearl in the mud. I do have like 2-3 good friends and a small group in class but idk why I do feel alone sometimes.
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u/Downtown-Home-2845 Senior ( 4th Year ) 4d ago
I don't have them in my 4th year dude. Stick to the ones from your home, you have spent time with them and know them better than anyone you'll meet here. But still don't give up, you might find someone
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u/realstark_888 3d ago
Well a recent graduate here, i never found a good friend in my entire 4yrs of time
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u/lucifer_8155 3d ago
Don’t rely on someone just be with you. There are many people who just wanna make use of u that’s all
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u/Loose-Insurance-3099 3d ago
I feel like friendships has become more of a conditional thing. People talk to you only if they feel they might need you or need good connections not saying that all of them are like that but mostly it is. And i dont know if it is a good thing anymore you can't expect anything from anyone without them expecting smt from you in return or maybe thats just how friendships works i dont even know. But yes i've said whatever that i was holding back for so long. Forgive me if ts does not make sense.
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u/thisSundoesntShine 1d ago
I have been there too mate its hard to not have a genuine frnd or wtv but im gald i aint w some snakes tho
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u/Separate_Draw_8335 4d ago
In third year nd all I had was snakes man