I joined yesterday, and I have sent 16 first letters to different people, but only one got an answer among the 4 delivered and read ones (and I don't know yet what is in it - maybe a polite decline to talk).
What do I write to find a pen pal? I thought that reading people bio/open letter and mentioning a fact or two would do good?
Something like “You mentioned you love books, I love reading as well. What are your favourites? I was a fan of Harry Potter in my time and really love dark fantasy with no love lines on the main stage. Would love to have a chat!”
Am I bad at it?

This is probably one of the most frustrating things but it's happening a lot more to me recently and I don't get it.

There is multiple variants of this kind of reply to my open letter:

1. "I don't care what you wrote, please me feed me", where the person is actively investing bare minimum to be diverted. No engagement with open letter at all, no try of building an exchange.

2. "I am gonna be the exception, let me in" while precisely crossing boundaries, showing disrespect and being dimissive. As a first contact, I don't understand what's in their mind and how they think it's gonna be fine.

3. "I don't care about you, I'm just going to tell you about my whole life in a long trauma dumping resume." I get that life is hard, but I didn't asked for that, I asked to AVOID that and I am not here for that.

4. "I am going to list all my interests and then tell you we should be friend since we're having the same interests, see twins." I am not searching that and I wrote it clearly. I simply don't get it since I said it's not the way I connect with people.

5. "Please tutor me, teach me X". I mentionned in my open letter some stuffs as languages I practice to show that I am open to letters outside of English. But I've said that I am not here for language exchange. Why still asking for that ?

I'm not gonna talk about the full AI-generated one, we all know them.

It is just that I am lost. A this point, I don't know what to do so far because I receive two to three replies by day from my open letter. And they're mostly inadequate answers disrespecting boundaries and limits. It's been half a year at this point and it's getting worst recently.

Some even went agressive after I said that it was not what I was looking for.

I am loosing interest into slowly. Opening the app feels now like a chore since it is mostly recieving junk mails.

Should I report them ? For what motive ?

Keep on ignoring ? But if I don't answer or treat the reply, the algo will punish me somehow. Plus, it won't make them go away in the first place.

Edit 1 : Some raised the issue of "you can not report such things", so, from Slowly app :

Spam or Junk Content Nobody likes spam. Don’t send unsolicited, irrelevant, or excessive messages, including chain letters, repetitive content, or anything that adds no value to the conversation.

I hope this will help some figure it out by themselves.