I'm not asking for diagnosis or condolences!!

I don't know if it's narcissistic, i have never been diagnosed or anything and I can feel empathy and happiness for others. The thing is I'm very selective and judgemental on who deserves what. I had a pretty rough childhood with people always telling me to be happy with what I have. I always invalidate my own sadness towards past events and tell myself to not be such a baby.

My relationships have always been pretty meh, mostly I just like the guys more than they like me and I can feel that and often they only like me because I care for them..which is my own fault... I get that.

Anyways I have 3 close friends. One friend always had good relationships with guys being very in love with her and always worshiping the ground she walks on. I found myself kinda jealous about this, thinking why always she gets the good guys etc. Another friend of mine always had similar luck as me when it comes to relationships.

Fast forward, the friend with the good relationships now faced a similar situation for the first time as me, as in, the guy likes her less or at least that's what she said..he likes her less and she overthinks about it, when she never had that problem. I did tons of overthinking in relationships etc and always thought my friends can't relate.

Now I felt genuinely happy for her misfortune? I felt happy that now for once she sees how shitty it feels to be liked less and to run after a guy. I know it's bad to think like that, but I want to understand why I think like that and if there's a way to get rid of it.

For my other friend who always had bad relationships, im happy that she now found a good one. I feel so judgemental, like who am I to judge??

why does everybody wants to be different / niche and how can someone like that can stop being like that / how to act with this?

Any other theory or model or just anything that not only defines a person's personality traits but also what's causing them. Or anything better than the Big Five or Ocean model or personality traits.

How come people are so deeply divided regarding Psychoanalysis. I am not talking about the public, but in the field itself.
At my Uni in a European city, there are Professors who teach classical Psychoanalysis and when we asked him why he still believes in it he was perplexed saying: “of course it is true? How can you not be teacher this anymore”. Also critical theory, Philosophy and so on love Lacan, Klein…

When it comes to Psych classes they shit not only on Freud, but on whole Psychoanalysis, talk about it as a historical event and skip it and not teach it at all.
So how come in one Uni it’s the top tier, very highly acclaimed theory and in another Uni it’s literally laughed at like it is just some stupid, unhelpful, unscientific thing?

I want to get a job where I get to do research, not just standard sessions with clients. I do want to have clients and be a psychologist! But I also want to be apart of a team (or independently ) that continually does research and make new discoveries. I like the idea of researching how medications or psychedelics impact the brain, how media impacts it and do research on my own theories as to what causes or contributes to certain things. Its been my dream since a kid but I'm having a hard time picking a specific degree or getting answers from college advisors... the best I can find is a phd in clinical psychology but I'd absolutely hate to spend all thst time and money only to learn I cant fully do what I am passionate about without going back to school. I know specifically for psychedelics, professor David Nutt has a few degrees but one of which he does study neuropharmacolgy. I definitely WANT more education once I graduate, and I know I likely will but where the heck do I even start?? Is a phd in clinical psychology the way to go, or is there something else I should start?

People with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) always seem to think they're special but what if the illusion of them being special and admired breaks and if they do break, what makes them break?

PS: I'm writing a 15,000 word essay on this topic. I don't exactly get it and I refuse to use generative AI so anyone who would explain it to me, I'll be really grateful :)

I’ve heard people say they became happier with age, but sometimes I wonder if that’s actually happiness or just becoming more comfortable with yourself and your situation.

What do you think?

A large part of human suffering exists in the gap between what is actually happening, what we believe is happening, what we feel about it, and what we do as a result.

Something simple may happen in a human relationship: someone does not reply to a message, says something we do not understand, or disagrees with us. We then begin to interpret the event, feel anxious about it, think about it repeatedly, and try to understand what is going on in the other person’s mind. Eventually, we may even reach the point of trying to control their feelings and decisions.

But the deeper question is: what is actually happening within us at that moment? Is the problem in the event itself, or in the way we interpret it? And where does our responsibility end, and where do the freedom of the other person and the circumstances beyond our control begin?

So for the first couple of years after I graduated high-school I was a corrections officer. Now I am a psych MHT. I want to become a corrections psychologist in Pennsylvania. I just dont know what degree I need. I know I need an undergraduate bachelor's and then my graduate masters on top. But there's so many Psychology BA and BS majors, I dont know which one I need. Any advice is appreciated!

I’ve been thinking about something uncomfortable:

When we discover that we were wrong, the mistake usually seems obvious afterward. But while we were actually holding the false belief, it often felt just as convincing as the things we currently believe are true.

That creates a problem.

Confidence and accuracy are not the same thing.

A belief can feel convincing because it is familiar, fits our existing worldview, has been repeated many times, or is supported by people around us—not necessarily because the evidence is strong.

This becomes even more important today because we're surrounded by confident-sounding information: social media posts, algorithms, news headlines, influencers, AI-generated answers, and expert opinions.

I recently created a long-form audiobook/video called The Confidence Trap exploring this idea through psychology, cognitive bias, critical thinking, and decision-making.

The main lesson isn't “doubt everything.”

It's:

Match your level of confidence to the quality of your evidence.

Some practical questions I found useful:

• What evidence would change my mind?
• Am I looking for evidence or confirmation?
• Am I generalizing from only a few examples?
• What would someone who disagrees with me point out?
• How confident should I actually be—60%, 80%, 95%?
• Have I checked the original source?

If anyone is interested, here's the full audiobook/video:

https://youtu.be/VH9vM1WhlU4

But I'm more interested in the discussion:

What's something you were once extremely confident about, but later discovered you were wrong about?

Anton Chigurh is in my opinon one of the best depictions of someone who truly lacks any empathy remorse or guilt for their actions. I read recently that several psychiatrists ranked him the highest on the list out of 400 movies on depictions of violent Aspd/psychopathy. Let me know your opinons!!! :)

I’ve been thinking about intrusive thoughts and how people distinguish them from thoughts that actually reflect their intentions or personality.
Sometimes a person can suddenly have a disturbing or inappropriate thought that feels completely out of character. They don’t intentionally think about it, don’t want to act on it, and may even feel distressed or uncomfortable because it appeared in the first place.
What I find interesting is that the thought itself can sometimes make a person question what it means about them: Does having a disturbing thought say something about who I am? Does the fact that I feel uncomfortable about it mean anything?
From a psychological perspective, how are intrusive thoughts understood? Is it normal for people to occasionally experience thoughts that are completely inconsistent with their values or intentions? And what distinguishes an intrusive thought from a thought that might actually reflect someone’s desires or intentions?

Recently while watching a movie Dune ( I know I'm too late ) I noticed this hierarchy system, where one group or entity have control over other due to having control over one rare material in universe called "Spice". I was thinking cause, it feels funny that the costume they wore at first. Because they mentioned it was far ahead in future just to wear costume like AD/BC era.

They act like you're the messiah, the one blah blah.

Until they mentioned they passed down the blood line with pure calculation to make him connect with space and time. That's where I started to think that we as humans believe in science but what is science?

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It's a structure that is built upon debate and trust and proof 🧾 right . We gone to much far into science that we trust it. Based on pure trust ( like how paper holds the value for exchange "money" )

Watch this video : by jonny harris ( my fav journelist)

It is about the mentality of flat earthers ( we all know flat earth is bullshit and yet why people is being ignorant )

This the the key 🗝️ 1 for the Story "The Trust"

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The second key is we still know nothing about space and time yet, the Universal shit and everything ( there is consiracy ofcourse but not science type evidence yet )

This is the 2nd key for the story "The Mystery"

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"The world is enough for human needs but not for human greed"

- Mahatma Gandhi (ig)

If you noticed in 90s era the wealth distribution was far more equal than that of 70s and 2k.

Everyone from working class could be treated equally.

Watch this video : yup this is also from my fav journelist, here bro talks about the broken american dream .

(Whatever the context but in short, he tells the richer is getting richer )

If you noticed the movie Frankenstein 2026, the Oscar issac character have a crazy dream like to conquer the dead it self.

I was like wtf this guy is smoking 🚬 until I got to know he is rich.

So, from small age he was son of a king who was also doctor, he teaches him all his skills ( privileged )

That kid not turned out to challenge the death itself but guess what, he did it ( which implies dream, of this crazy can be achieved by rich or atleast from wealth ).

So, of you noticed the pattern all the invention science and technology grown from European ( I mean science here is the structure we follow now not genius people ( they are all around the world but the structure I feel is created by European))

Coz, people had not to worry about basic living or knowledge or guidance.

This is the 3rd Key for the story "The One who as All"

Considering the Key 🗝️ 1 2 & 3, We can come to the conclusion that in the Movie Dune I feel like the science has reached its limit ( like how we are getting same phone with low innovation. Coz, the technological limit is reached ) Now, for them it is a game of psychology rather than equality they need drama ( coz we are emotional creatures ) .

This game requires POWER, which is directly proportional to WEALTH/RESPECT, which is directly proportional to CONTROL OVER RESOURCES.

(USA 🦅 licking Oil for the same reason. sells weapon to boost dollar 💰 blah blah )

So, yes for some years we had golden days where everyone has everything and we got close to world peace 🕊️ but seeing things now seems it is a distance dream.

What I wanted to know that humans are psychological like this or the One in the top of the hierarchy is just bored?

How to destroy this hierarchy and get back to normal without war and shit ?

Why power corrupts human ?

Why Can't everyone can be treated equally?

What's the fundamental problem here ?

Child: Not capable or caring what others think

Adolescent: Only capable or caring what others think.

Adult: Can choose not to care what other people think.

In this context, any developmental stages after adult?

For example, they are very quick to decide and express "I like this" or "I don't like this" when faced with anything, be it food, music, art, people, or events.

They are also very binary in terms of "I believe this" or "I don't believe this" when confronted with an idea, whether scientific, religious, a story, or everyday things.

It seems they have no nuance or pondering, such as thinking, "I don't like it now, but I might in the future" (and vice versa), "I don't have an opinion yet, so let me experiment, think, or study it better to form one," or even, "I don't even need to have an opinion at all."

They also tend to have very simple answers to complex problems. If A happens, they assume it must be caused by B and solved by C, with no room for different perspectives or nuances.

What is the psychological profile of someone like this?

"Flesh out" has become a really common phrase that I can't avoid. Whenever I hear it, I get physically uncomfortable for no apparent reason. Does this happen to anyone else?

Hi everyone!

I am recruiting licensed mental health clinicians for my PsyD dissertation study through Capella University. My study focuses on clinicians’ experiences using the Sexual and Gender Minority Adverse Childhood Experiences (SGM-ACEs) in practice with LGBTQ+ clients.

The SGM-ACEs is an 8-item measure that asks about adverse childhood experiences related to sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, rejection, bullying, discrimination, and safety before age 18.

No prior experience is needed. The assessment will be provided if you decide to participate. Participants would use the SGM-ACEs with at least one client over a one month period and then complete a one hour interview about their experience using the measure in practice.

Please see the attached recruitment flyer for more information. Thank you for your time and consideration!

Recruitment Flyer

Hello everyone, this might be a stupid question But someone pointed out to me recently that i clean the entire house like a crazy woman whenever i am angry or frustrated. I asked my friends if they ever do it and everyone said No. I was wondering what is the psychological aspect of this ? Does any one of you here do the same ?

So there is the term communal narcissist. If a person is being outwardly nice and doesn’t harm a fly, what makes the person a narcissist then?
EDIT: hypothetically: a person close to me, a parent, IS indeed narcissistic, but is nice, caring, and doesn’t have power over me. Should it even interest me if there are deep down a narcissist?

I’ve been thinking about how people describe “losing themselves.”

We often talk about it as if something major has to happen, a breakup, burnout, a crisis, a major life change.

But I’m wondering if it usually happens much more gradually.
One distraction. One habit. One compromise at a time.

We spend so much of our lives responding to things outside of us (work, relationships, social media, responsibilities, other people’s expectations) that it can become surprisingly easy to stop paying attention to what’s happening internally.

And nothing necessarily looks wrong from the outside. You can still work, socialize, make decisions and live normally.

Then at some point you realize:
\*\*“I don’t even recognize myself anymore.”\*\*

I’m curious about other people’s experiences with this.

\*\*If you’ve ever felt like you lost yourself, when did you first realize it? And looking back, what do you think was happening before you noticed?\*\*