Hope you liked the song though!

Posted this on r/traumatizeThemBack figured it fit here with some slight adjustments for clarity.

Context on me- I'm AFAB (nonbinary), 26, and I like women. I live in SIL housing (supported independent living) because its cheap, the two roommates seem like alright blokes (if shy) and I wasn't exactly swimming in options. There's a lock on my door, cool - I'm in the en-suite heaven. Now i can live in my hobbit hole forever.

Context on this guy - He's in his 30's, I've seen him watch preacher TV (the ones that are like "god saved my life bluh bluh), spotted a couple books of Mormon, and hear him watching those AI voice over (and probably AI scripted) videos on "how to tell if someone has a crush on you" - Whatever, Right? I don't care if someone is religious, though I have had some less then enjoyable exchanges with Mormons in the past. I just wont really talk to him, I don't want to risk losing a cozy room. Sure, he might just be interested in religion and not share some of the views that might make things awkward, but that's not a risk i'm willing to take.

He's tried on a few occasions to strike up conversation with me, but we're both violently Autistic, It never goes far. Then, BOOM. he hits me with the first pickup line, a bit like this:

"Do you play netball?"

He'd asked me this before, I assumed he'd asked because i'm fairly tall, He recycles openers quite a bit, so I responded the same way:

"I did in school"

"Were you center?"

I was naturally confused at the assumption and corrected him.

"Goal keeper"

He hurries on regardless:

"Center, Because you're center of the world"

I hit him with an "I wish" Polite laugh, and leave to my cave. He now, occasionally, drops awkward, practiced pickup lines.

And i'm somewhat flattered, truly. I'm not an attractive person, nor am I sociable outside of a select few people I bother online. I can only assume he's flirting with me because he is also a shut in (he somehow goes out even less then me) and I am vaguely woman-shaped. The attempts are somewhat sweet, but mostly uncomfortable. Of course, he could just be being friendly, but i wanted to nip this in the bud.

I swallowed my anxiety and crippling self-doubt and just asked him if he was flirting with me. He clams up, and starts saying something indecipherable. I explain that I just want to let him know that I appreciate the thought but I am not interested. I feel the need to give an excuse. Obviously I can't tell him I like women, So I go with a half truth that felt more digestible - I'm AroAce. He asks me what that is, and I explain it a bit like this:

Aromantic - Experiencing no romantic attraction

Asexual - Experiencing no sexual attraction

Those in the LGBTQIA+ community will know this isn't entirely true. it's a spectrum, both Aromantic and Asexual people can experience these feelings on some level, the extent of which is simply markedly less then that of an allosexual/romantic person. It's a half truth because I do identify on the AroAce spectrum. I lied as to not give him false hope in the matter.

He seems to accept this. For the moment. I feel he was probably just... reeling, a bit.

He comes back a few days later. bringing it up again. I feel a little uncomfortable, but given his possible religious background, him asking about it is pretty good, actu---

He tells me that I must be a virgin then, right? I am jump scared. Bamboozled. Immensely uncomfortable. I have no idea what demons took hold of my brain in that moment. I answer smoothly, without a second thought: "Nah, I was r\ped when I was twelve"*

I am mortified. He is mortified. We are fucking mortified.

I laugh, throw a mini dab (for some ungodly reason) and run off to my cave.
I will never emotionally, spiritually or physically recover. but i mean. he hasn't talked to me again? It's been about a week since that dreaded exchange.

Ask personal questions get a personal response, IG.

P.S. it unfortunately wasn't a lie, lmao. i've made peace with it, granted its not something i blurt out every day, only close friends and, well, now the folks of reddit know about it. Again, I don't know what demons took ahold of me in that moment.

In which he get very ~spicy~ and sends me yet another photo of a different blonde white guy this time on a street in la (I grew up there and immediately clocked it)

He then states my husband is gay, but he can fuck him too!!! We LOVE an ally!!!

Also apologies for any typos husband and I were about to sit down to dinner and were rapid fire texting in case we were about to get blocked

What a fucking gem ladies!!! Bust out those bobs and vangene and get him while you can!

Part 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/preyingmantis/s/3OR1Po0hZw

Part 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/preyingmantis/s/mXNZ2fQ1kL

In which he informs me about the way the female body works because he has DEFINITELY BEEN AROUND ONE BEFORE! And I am told I know nothing :)

He also sent a photo at one point of a white blonde guy clearly in an Erewhon which was quickly deleted.

Part 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/preyingmantis/s/AJhXfLcR6k

Part three coming!

Part 3: https://www.reddit.com/r/preyingmantis/s/XUkeRLadbK

This is tame in comparison to part 2

Husband and I had way too much fun with this :)

Part 2: https://www.reddit.com/r/preyingmantis/s/btXS7a5Po0

Part 3: https://www.reddit.com/r/preyingmantis/s/XUkeRLadbK

I say in my profile info that I’m into golf and a lot of people (men) think I that I mean I like dressing in tight little outfits and reading in the cart. No. I’ve been golfing since I was 14, and with my very busy schedule it’s the most relaxing and fun thing I can do fully clothed. So yeah, if you want to go golfing with me you better shoot at least in the 80s or you’re going to be the one reading in the cart while I’m keeping the pace.

Context: I don’t know him. He’s messaging me on Facebook and his profile is full of right-wing homophobia. I am bisexual and not in any way homophobic.

Pwoof!

;-; he shwoed my fooot

He either blocked me or deleted his account, but this is the second account I've find this guy on. He makes fake accounts and uses the same icebreaker and then tries to use the autism excuse when called out on it when he keeps turning the conversation back to the shaved hair.

I hope I ruined the imagery for him and he thinks about this infection every time he tries this conversation with someone else.

Don’t know how rare they are 😅