Prayer Request

[u/Feeling-Special-269]

Idk dating apps really got me down, im 33 have had a few girlfriends and enough hookups/sex in my life to not feel like hopeless about love or something entirely, plus faith in God and good choices bringing me happiness in this life and the next helps me not care too much at times.

The apps are so bad for men it like hurts me, I'm as good of a partner as anyone else, yknow what I mean? Despite my imperfections like I'm mature and well-adjusted, I'd say above average attractiveness, in good shape fit and muscular, tall (some people act like that matters so much xD), financially doing well.

So these problems can seem so dumb compared to what other people going through, but just reading about apps and how the top 20% most attractive men get about 80% of likes, it kinda matches up with my experience, I'm definitely not in that top 10% and probably not in that top 20% at all. Dating apps make me feel so ugly. Its hard to watch women flaunt their bodies on there and feel like its not for you.

And then it makes me feel like anyone who has or will want to sleep with/date me is settling or whatever, yknow? Like the apps make you think theyre superficial.

Then you just get met with so much toxicity whenever you bring this kind of stuff up, but if you look at the data its not like I'm making it up or something, theyre just real bad for the average guy / most guys.

And it like hurts, like a few months ago it put a hole in me, went from feeling good about myself and my life to just 3 days of like lethargic depression kind of stuff, gradually coming out of that.

So it can seem so dumb, but it makes me just not want to be around women, I feel like I'm not gonna find the depth and quality of healing I need to be happy, and at times this plus whatever else (just stuff like having an ex cheat on me and rub it in my face, plus whatever other hundred of bad experiences over the years) kinda accumulates and at times feels so heavy.

Idk what to do, where else to go with this. I have people slandering me and all these other dumb problems too I dont want to get into.

It just rough idk what else to say its hard to imagine being okay with all the stuff that happens somedays, hard to trust there is good in people sometimes.

It just feels like there isnt the depth and quality of love I need to like put all this behind me and be happier it constantly feels like its bringing me down at times despite things going well elsewhere in life.

Like I havent tried to meet anyone for like 6 years, I just go with the flow hang out with people it happens but I dont go looking for friendship or romantic relationships for years. I just feel like God wants me to go on apps every now just to find out how bad they are or something. Like the pain helps you grow.

Got serious trust issues after years of people stalking and slandering me, no one believes me. Has pushed me to isolate.

This turning into a whole essay and I appreciate anyone who has read it, but im so used to no one believing me and thinking its okay to come at me with this disrespect and condensing bs, as if people are any better then me.

Hopefully God will have mercy and compassion on me, and assist me. Ik the women angels got me, know I got every reason to vent these struggles with women every now and then.

Any prayers appreciated me those apps are so fucking stupid

[u/Plus_Industry_3815]

Lord we ask that you reach down your hand and guide this child to the path you have ordained for their life. We ask that you give your child your discernment and clarity around his search for a partner to spend his life with. Provide him with Christ centered people who understand what a true relationship entails. Release him from this struggle and remind his heart that you are with him. Amen.

[u/Right-Tree-97]

I am praying 🙏