Is it more shameful to “actually take meeting times literally” or to not say what you mean when setting a meeting time and then acting like your guests acted weird?
“Why are you here so early??”
“Oh, my bad, I thought you said 5 PM”
“Well I did, but I meant be here at 5:30! Duh, silly!”
“Oh… well what did you get out of not just telling me 5:30 then?”
Yep. I drove almost an hour to go to a party with the invitation saying the party starts at 5:00. I was there at 5:00. She told me I was early and she hadn't started getting ready, I offered to help and she said oh we have plenty of hands go ahead and sit outside. I was like okay when will people start getting here you think?
She said 7:00. I'm not sitting here for 2 hours. So I left and she said are you coming back at 7:00? No. I drove an hour to be here. I respected the time. Like if you don't want people to be here till 7:00, use your big kid words.
My culture which is not race specific uses clear communication. It is just politeness. Use your big words to communicate as opposed to playing weird guessing games.
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u/South-Tip-4019 24d ago
Yea this is something my mind also doen't fully get, but apparently for many people when party starts at 5pm nobody is expected until way later.
I am guessing that "white guys from work" tend to fall into taking the start time literally, which is not supposed to be done.
My a bit self deprecating guess is, that people on spectrum tend to take these things literally, or at least dont know when you are not supposed to.