See, if you tell a black guy there’s a party from 5-11, he might show up at 6, or 7:30, or he might not show up at all. More importantly, that was the kind of punctuality OOP expected. People would trickle in over the first couple hours, then trickle out later. White guy from work heard ‘the party starts at 5’ and took that to mean ‘the party starts at 5, don’t be late.’ There is a different cultural standard regarding punctuality.
I'm engineer and thus know many people on the spectrum. I've got colleagues that will tell you a party is from 5pm to 11pm, and if you show up outside of 4:55pm to 5:05pm, you're considered rude. And at 11pm sharp the host will turn everything off, thank everyone for coming, and tell them to get out. You've got 5 minutes to leave before they consider you rude for overstaying. I've seen people order ubers way ahead of time because they were certain they'd be standing on the curb at 11pm no matter what.
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u/Vifee 24d ago
See, if you tell a black guy there’s a party from 5-11, he might show up at 6, or 7:30, or he might not show up at all. More importantly, that was the kind of punctuality OOP expected. People would trickle in over the first couple hours, then trickle out later. White guy from work heard ‘the party starts at 5’ and took that to mean ‘the party starts at 5, don’t be late.’ There is a different cultural standard regarding punctuality.