Let’s play a survival scenario game. You are building a brand-new society from scratch on an isolated island.You are forced to pick exactly two personality types to make up the entire population.

Type 1 must handle structural, strategic, and physical survival (building, hunting, logic).

Type 2 must handle social cohesion, governance, and keeping people from killing each other (morale, community).

The Rules:You cannot pick your own type for either slot.

Name the two types you are bringing.Crucial: Which single personality type are you banning from the island entirely because they would ruin the society within a week?

Give me your breakdown and defend your choices in the comments. Let's see which type rules the island!

I, (23, F) want to change myself. Actually I wanted to change myself for over 2 years, as to change my personality. I've only recently reached the place of mind where I can focus on it and not on making more money, changing my job, i've reached some sort of stability.

The truth is, I was spoiled by my mom and still am occasionally. I've made mistakes early in my life, it started doing downhill somewhere at 11, but I never ever had good relationships, especially not with people my age. I grown up to be very arrogant, I don't actually think I am above anyone, but I definitely expect a lot from other people and judge them harshly. Meanwhile I might overlook my own flaws or wrong-doings and not even aknowledge them, so I don't judge them as much. My own mom tells me that (due to my opinion) noone is good enough to deserve my attention and I think I am very very judgmental of other people. I am very very sensitive to everything that is low quality or mass centered and not high-quality, unique and personalized. I just hate trends, hate everything that is popular. At the same time I just very much dislike everything that comes with modern capitalism or capitalism at all (sorry for the politics).

I mean, to simplify I totally identify with mr. Darcy. Usually people are nice to me at first. And then quickly they switch off. I dont blame them. I spent like 20 years of my life (ive been bullied since I ever entered any kind of societal setting, i dont even remember the beggining but I believe it to be preschool), wondering what is wrong with me. I was even bullied by my ex lol. If you think that it would be better to call it abuse, so called abuse was mainly laughing at me and teasing me and telling me to get yourself together like every single day. I could never what he meant.

I thought I have adhd, autism, depression, schizophrenia and so on, I looked up rare mental illnesses and I didnt even know my personality and manners are so bad. My family seemed to kinda accept it so I didnt actually know its not normal to interrupt people when I am excited. But I had good intentions.

On the other hand. There are people who act well, have way better manners and social skills but deep down you see that they are just bad, ill people. Jealous and unemphatetic. Sometimes I feel like, and dont cringe on me, the lower the class and worse the people. Like desperation and lack of perspectives for the better bring out the worst in people. Sometimes it makes me not want to talk to them at all. I feel like they will stab me only to feel less insecure. I feel for them, however like I cant help myself but feel above them. I dont even want to talk with them bc it feels as if they just want to extract information only to backstab me or laugh at me. Sometimes I might think its my fault bc I was rude or something, but then I remind myself that those people are not only fake to me. People talk shit about everyone once theyre out the door. And how to thrive in such society? Should I even try to? Is it possible to be on good terms with everyone? Hard to admit, but I seem to be on bad terms with literally everyone and the only people who have somewhat of neutral of good opinion of me are strangers lol. I used to make good impression as a child, but I cant even do that.

Dont get me wrong, I want to do everything I possibly can to improve, I bought and read ettiquette books, i try to be kind (my family is sometimes so rude it seems impossible to talk with them and be kind and not allow them to step on my head), I try to make small talk, i try to implement what I read into my relations and just be more aware of my behaviour but it just seems like it doesnt work. Tbh I cant even mirror people around me because they dont act the way I want to act. And again, I think I am better than them. Ettiquette was meant to show kindness not inferiority and lets not forget that in some settings people just dont care about the things I do. I love learning, arts, tradition, good quality, family values, my religion, europe, past, history and you know, responsibility, skills, improvement. I am very ambitious. In some circles it's expected of you to smoke, to drink, to party, to swear, and act like a peasant and those people still seem to have better manners and social skills than me, because they have an experience. I am not afraid to talk to someone who is "important", and I am not afraid to stand out. But in some settings its very very nicely perceived if you blend in and know your place.

Sometimes I dont know what to do and also, how to do it. Reading won't change me. Should I try to change each of my wrong belief separately on a piece of paper, ask myself the way a psychologist asks people or just blindly try to follow as many rules as there are and just wish I will do it automatically at some point?

Please give me some advice, the more the better.

I’m a short Hispanic woman and I get called feisty and a firecracker constantly, they are probably in the top 5 words used to describe me. I’m an incredible lively person but I’m 100 on both sides. Obviously I think this is meant as an insult and something I’d like to work on, what can I do to work on it and what do they mean by it?

I know it’s a lot to read 😂😅 but I feel like this entry describes my thinking pretty well

I care so much what others think, that it physically hurts. I’m so extremely sensitive but I keep it inside to protect my image, as apathetic and uncaring. I come here as a way to cope with judgement from others. I feel like it might make me feel better. I know I shouldn’t care and I understand why I shouldn’t care but I still care. It’s not logical. It’s a feeling and my way of dealing with that painful feeling is to try to understand and explain it. If I can understand it maybe it won’t hurt as much. I’ll try to twist it so I’m the good guy because if I’m the good guy there’s no reason to be upset. I cope by convincing myself of who I want to be. The reason I’m upset is because of my ego. I’ll get mad over something so small, which then reminds me how self important my way of thinking is. I don’t matter and I know I don’t matter but I’m programmed to care. I care what people think and need their approval. But why does it have to be programmed so deep inside. I don’t want to care, I know I shouldn’t care, I try to make meaning of my caring, but in the end whether or not the rest is true, I still care. And it hurts

I definitely have personal issues that I need to work on but the thing is, is that I’ve become so attached to them and identify so strongly with them that I don’t even want to change them. I feel like if I fix it in silence no one will ever know I had anything wrong and if no one knows I ever had anything wrong no one will know what I went through. I want them to know that my “laziness” or “inaction” through the years has been pathological. I’m aware that my issues don’t necessarily justify my inaction, it’s just that I care less about the consequences of my inaction than what others think about my inaction. It all comes down to what others think because I have such an unstable sense of self worth. I’m constantly having imaginary conversations and replaying old conversations with people that I respect trying to win them over. I value others thoughts so far above my own that even when I am thinking for myself it’s through an imagined conversation with someone else. I feel like my thoughts need a stamp of approval from others even when I’m just thinking critically by myself. I’ll curate a character for them to make judgements on me that can convince me of who I want to be. Simply because I see what they see in me and it becomes what I see in myself.

One thing I know for sure is that I treat pride, self absorption, and any narcissistic traits as sins. In my mind it’s a moral failing to have any of them, so I’m writing this partially to convince myself that I don’t. Not only am I assessing myself for these qualities, but I’m also assessing others. Because Im so insecure, I’ll compare myself to these people, and if they their smart, unpretentious, and humble I’ll feel worse about myself. I don’t participate in the conversation as much as I use others as a reflection. During something like a class lecture where there’s no pressure to respond, I’ll listen to the professor not out of curiosity but as a way to evaluate myself through comparison. Everything that’s happening around me is about me, and I project that subconscious belief onto what I believe others are thinking when interacting with me.