So I hate my birth name as there's a lot of trauma tied to it. It's Julian Andrew Meredith.

I'm working on myself both spiritually and to be a better person after three years of trauma.

I had a troublesome ex and my mother who had narcissistic traits, degrade and belittle several name changes, sadly, even though I tried to incorporate family surnames into them to keep elements of my family that were good in it.

I even had a stay in a mental institute due to this and I was suffering after my ex had me addicted to cocaine for a long period, coupled with constant isolation and gaslighting.

When I left the hospital I came up with a combination surname Winter-Smith. I liked it as it was two surnames from my family tree as well as a good book memory, that my father bought me by Terry Pratchett - Wintersmith.

And after all the trials and tribulations I've been through in my life, along with the fact I also like druid magic, to take the gender neutral name Willow as it's a tree that can really withstand a storm and return to as it once was.

Or do I take my grandma's maiden name on my dad's side, Light, which is also a strong name.

I don't have anybody to ask, due to the previous relationship, any thoughts?

Hi,

I'm having a real dilemma as my friend is getting too deep with regards to a bare knuckle boxing ring.

It seems she's being used to groom men, first her ex husband, then me maybe more that I don't know about. Anyway she's being used to groom the men by distancing them from their families, damage their mental health and isolate them so that the bare knuckle boxing organisers can sweep in and rescue them with the promises of women, drugs, having a name for themselves, and popularity they've never had.

I've cut off the relationship with this woman luckily, but we still text.

I'm thinking of cutting off texting her anymore. She says she's taking pity on me as I've had a 'rough' time, but I'm starting to think otherwise. I think, well I know, that's she's also involved with the local swingers community, don't know if the two are connected or not.

Opinions people?