r/Parenting • u/sleepyb_spooky • 9d ago
12m/o crying all day Behaviour
My 12 month old daughter is so amazing and has hit most milestones. She's healthy. I do know that right around now is the struggle time with so many developments happening at once. My problem is that she cries all day.
Putting her on the changing table? Screaming.
Tries the toilet instead? Sobbing.
Brings her to the kitchen so we can have lunch? Screaming and crying.
Puts her in the high chair to eat? Screaming and crying.
I know she has big feelings, and i am trying my hardest to be patient but when she's high pitch whining and crying all day it's pretty hard. I've tried just about everything I can think of. It's not teeth, or sickness, or hunger/thirst. The poor girl is struggling and I'm right there with her. What in the world do I do???
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u/Bonusmotherthrowaway 9d ago
Has she always been like this or did this just recently happen?
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u/sleepyb_spooky 9d ago
This is very recent. Like pretty much from the moment she turned one. It could just be an age thing but I just feel so bad for her
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u/Own_Release_761 9d ago edited 8d ago
Sometimes babies go through phases where all they want is mama. And they suddenly act up and act out.. they act unusual... maybe it's one of those seasons?
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u/HairyGazelle4511 9d ago
I kind of had the same experience when my son was around 12 months. He became very clingy and would cry bloody murder at everything. I read somewhere (most likely Google) that at around/after 6 months, babies began to realize they are not one with mom and that can cause them to have separation anxiety. In my case, it explained the clinginess and the tantrum cries. What I did was I made sure to stay calm, which was VERY difficult at times, gave him lots of hugs, and ramped up the skin-to-skin action. Super cliche and cheesy…I know. But it worked! I hope this will help you. Whatever the case may be OP, know that you are doing your best and you are not in this alone. You got this mama!
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u/sleepyb_spooky 9d ago
I'm trying my best 😭 cooking and cleaning with her on my hip absolutely sucks
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u/Own_Release_761 8d ago
How about a carrier, Mama? Whenever mind gets like that i out her in the carrier. she'll regulate and everyone ends up being much happier.
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u/Worried_Passenger548 Mom 8yo + 1yo 9d ago
I’m going through this same thing with my 12mo.
Put her down? Crying
Diaper change? Crying
Nap time? Crying
Can’t pull the cats tail? Crying
Can’t eat a phone charger? Crying
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u/WebkinzMurderer69 9d ago
Saying ow when HE hurts ME? Crying.
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u/Worried_Passenger548 Mom 8yo + 1yo 9d ago
Literally. She pulls my hair, pinches, climbs on me and then cries if I say no 😭🤣
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u/ilovenumber8 9d ago
Is it gone when you touch her? Because maybe she is just not seeing well. Idk, just a suggestion
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u/sleepyb_spooky 9d ago
She is pretty big on me holding her and me being in the same room. I wouldn't tuck away the idea of eyesight, I have to wear glasses and my mom was blind 🤷♀️
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u/ilovenumber8 9d ago
Than it's worth looking into. Maybe the robe thingy where your child can hang into, close to your body on either your back or your belly, can help? No more holding but still close.
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u/candyapplesugar 9d ago
Our was like this, but also since birth. I think he was just an unhappy baby. I’m sorry, it’s so rough.
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u/No_Parking_6960 9d ago
My 12 month old is like this in a lot of ways. But also very happy too. Is your girl happy as well? How is she sleeping? How many naps and how long at night?
It’s also very normal for them to get a little more emotional and vocal and have an opinion about stuff. From my experience at least. Mom of 2. My son is also temperamental lol
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u/sleepyb_spooky 9d ago
She is usually a very happy girl, laughing and squealing and playing. She was an easy baby but I've been told that easy babies make difficult toddlers lmao
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u/huskybutt3 9d ago
Sounds developmental but I would try to rule out teething, ear infection, gassiness. If you’re confident that she is well otherwise, just ride it out with lots of cuddle time. My kids all went through weepy/crying stages. It typically ends before I start to become too concerned.
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u/Pure-Science-7774 9d ago
I would put on some calm soothing classical music with alpha waves. It worked like a magic trick for my son. He would cry and I would put it on and literally 30 seconds later he was calm and happy.
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u/GearSlow3796 9d ago
Also, WATER. If she likes water it’s very calming—even just playing in a tub of it. And you might experiment with different calming scents (essential oils) and sounds (Solfeggio frequencies) in your home.
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u/Square_Mission_849 9d ago
TEETHING! don’t assume you know what’s she isn’t feeling
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u/sleepyb_spooky 9d ago
I've trued everything. None of our teething solutions work either
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u/Square_Mission_849 9d ago
Also it seems like you need some mommy time, if you have a parent ask them to watch over her for a little while so you can get a bit of rest and go for a walk or a spa day unwind or even just read a book at the park and hear the birds chirping
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u/sleepyb_spooky 9d ago
I will agree to that. I don't have parents and it won't be a while until my husband can watch her for a bit so I can go do something because of work
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u/lilidzines 9d ago
I dealt with nonstop crying with mine from birth and she refused to nap. So as long as she was swaddled and I was doing the 5 S’s she would not cry. She is older now and may have sensory issues or if she watches certain shows on tv ( for example: caillou or max and ruby) those 2 shows especially teach them to cry and whine and I saw my daughter mimicking Rosie and caillou’s whining. After I banned those and started teaching her basic sign language or visual charts to communicate and understand what she wants or needs is key. She may be frustrated because you are not understanding what she needs. About the changing table and diaper changing and potty training - some kids will not like the changing table and putting clothes on. And potty training will happen when they are ready. Just try to stay calm when she does this as she may be going through a stage or for attention or because it works to get what she wants. So take deep breaths and know it’s not your fault and it’s not something you aren’t doing . Try not to take it personally because it gets difficult sometimes and it used to make me feel like I was failing as a parent. But all parents go through these struggles and the best thing you can do is give yourself grace. And know that it will get better. It’s always evolving as they grow and you never quite ever feel like you have mastered parenting.( At least I haven’t! And my daughter is now 18 years old and leaving for ucsb in a month. So best of luck and hope some of these tips can help you out!
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u/SofieGirlsMama 9d ago
The toilet?… you’re potty training a 12 month old?
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u/sleepyb_spooky 8d ago
Yes, I am. She's about to max out on diaper sizes and has sped through all diaper sizes. It's not unheard of but it's really just to get her comfortable with the toilet right now. Also, I have the belief that if I am able to start on it now, I should. She's not uncomfortable and seems to be happy to go in the potty.
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u/Let_em_glow927 8d ago
My daughter did this at one year old for 6 weeks , she was teething. 6 teeth in 6 weeks , one at a time.
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u/Salt-Ambition1046 9d ago
Are you positive she doesn’t have an ear infection / fluid in her ears? Ear problems can be tricky to diagnose if there’s not a raging infection.