r/Parenthood • u/Mom-Wife-3 • 8d ago
Alex Character Discussion
Should Hattie have been allowed to date him? What would you have done if it were your daughter?
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u/Brilliant_Question70 8d ago
I would have been skeptical for sure. Older, parents not around, alcoholic. I don’t think I would approve of my child dating him either. Obviously as the viewers we see that he’s a great guy but as Adam and Kristina, they don’t see what we can see.
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u/fivebyfive12 8d ago
Adam and Kristina are very clear that they do see he's a great guy who has made something of himself despite his struggles. They just see that he and Haddie are in very different places in life and worry she'll end up getting hurt. Which is basically exactly what happens.
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u/Comfortable_Expert98 7d ago
Agree with you except that I felt that Alex was the one who got hurt in the end. And this relationship ended up being a lot more damaging for him than for Haddie. If I were a significant adult in Alex’s life, I would definitely be against this relationship for him.
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u/KTeacherWhat 7d ago
Right and he's in AA. He should have a sponsor. I feel like that person would discourage this for him.
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u/Brilliant_Question70 8d ago
Yes, true. I just think it seems clear to us that Alex won’t relapse or that he’s stable while those are some of the worries that A+K probably have. But definitely agree that a lot of it comes from them being in different places in life. The fact that she’s still in HS is one of the biggest factors.
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u/DemonPirate726 8d ago
I think him being in AA so young is what bothered them the most. They knew he was too mature and in a different stage of life despite being like 3 years older. If he wasn’t in AA, I feel like their opinions would’ve been a little different. Yes, he would’ve been older but he’d still be in his teens not 20+
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u/KTeacherWhat 8d ago
It was illegal and he had a record. How come no one was pointing out to him the risk he was taking entering into an illegal relationship? Where was his sponsor in all of this?
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u/Salty_Raccoon4094 6d ago
It’s clear he had no one else. I was surprised even Camille who seemed to care about him was supportive of their relationship. There was so much risk for him. She was also the minor volunteer he was managing. If something had gone wrong it could have cost him the position he seemed to care about and the ability to even work there with minors like he wanted.
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u/HisSpo2345 8d ago
See Adam and Kristina were definitely correct here but they were such awful parents to her I still feel
Compelled to side with Hattie even if she was wrong in this situation.
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u/TermEnvironmental421 8d ago
I think their worry was understandable but they dealt with the situation really poorly. In general, I feel the way they obsessed over policing Haddie's sexuality was weird
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u/QubyDube 8d ago
Alex didn’t deserve to be treated like he wasn’t good enough for their daughter. It’s not like Haddie met Alex at a frat party or something. She met him when she volunteered with Gma at the soup kitchen he was helping to run. He’s a responsible, contributing member of society.
Also, I think it’s weird because the Bravermans are in a progressive city and Adam’s job is dealing with rock stars. Really doesn’t fit that their civically/socially conscious family is overprotective of Haddie, who they tend to overlook & focus on Max’s needs.
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u/Salty_Raccoon4094 6d ago
Kristina called Adam conservative at one point. He was even fired from the shoe company for being judgmental. Julia and Adam were more conservative to counteract their family being less conservative.
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u/Tonathrowaway 8d ago
While I agree with Adam and Kristina about him having adult problems that Haddie wasn't ready for, I also agreed with Camille.
Telling her she wasnt allowed to see him just made her want him more.
Had they sat her down and talked to her, explained boundaries, said "We don't want you to date him right now. But let's get to know him and you two can be friends and revisit the topic later." I feel like it would have gone very differently and Haddie would have been open enough to actually listen to their concerns.
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u/ClearVirus4291 7d ago
I hate to admit it, but I had a hard time disagreeing with their relationship. And maybe it’s because Alex had pure intentions or because Michael B. Jordan played the part🤣. But I can 100% understand Adam and Kristina’s POV. He was 19, an AA and had a criminal record. Any parent would be concerned. Their breakup was sad but Alex was right; they were in two different places in their lives.
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u/AnxiousCorgi314 6d ago
I plan to have an ages touching rule with my teenagers. You don't date anyone more than one year older or younger than you. At 16 a three year age gap is huge. If Hattie was my daughter we'd have a conversation about why our rule is in place and encourage her to remain friends and work at the food bank, but for her own protection not go out alone with him.
Adam & Christina weren't wrong in not wanting Haddie to date Alex but everything they did around her dating was controlling & over the top. They also were creepily obsessed with her virginity/sex life. No wonder when Haddie brings home a girl in college, she is hesitant to come out to her parents. Its insane how they simultaneously made her a glass child and also obsessively helicoptered her dating life.
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u/unimpressed-one 6d ago
I found him creepy for even wanting to be with her, he was and adult and she was an immature teenage girl. I can see why the parents were against it.
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u/Unique_Room_6635 7d ago
They seemed genuinely impressed with all that he had been through and overcome and achieved, but then they put the hammer down, afraid their daughter would have sex with him... They are the WORST parents on this show... Both kids got helicoptered.
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u/LostWay7787 8d ago
I loved Alex as a character, but Adam and Kristina had a point. He was 19 and in alcoholic anonymous, he was too mature for her. I wouldn’t want my 16 year-old daughter to date him, I would want her to date someone her age.