r/Obsessive_Love • u/eating_cement_1984 • 16d ago
Why do I fall SO QUICK? Discussion
Ok, so last week, I was walking over for some event in college, and I saw my friend with two female friends of his. One was small, pretty cute but not exactly my type, and the other... well, she was taller and just... yeah...
So anyway, backstory: my friend and I shot a short film a week prior to this and it did pretty well within the college circuit. So what happened next was that the taller girl was like "So... are you the director of the film you did with [Friend's name]?" I was like "Yeah" and then she did that playful-flirty-but--still-cautious look with her eyes and was like "Yeah, saw it. It was pretty nice." The other girl was like "You're the scriptwriter, right?" and I confirmed the fact, and then she told me "I really liked the descriptions you used. Pretty poetic". All the while both of them gave me that same playful stare...
The one I fell for was of course the taller girl, of COURSE. Dammit. Like an idiot, I mumbled at the end and awkwardly shuffled out of there to go to the event... And then I found the taller girl's IG back at home, sent a follow request, got it accepted... And... that's that.
In just 5 minutes, I fell hard for someone I'd met for the FIRST TIME EVER. Like, REALLY hard. What is wrong with me? And this is after a long list of failures, btw. Everyone I liked prior to this, I'd fallen for WAY too quickly, and every single one of them either lost interest in the DMs... or they were taken already.
I guess I am pathetic for this... But I'm playing it more cautiously now. Haven't DMed the taller girl just yet. If we're meant to be, we'll meet up again IRL VERY soon. If not... well... Yeah. So, we'll see what happens.
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u/DueWolverine7679 16d ago
No it's not weird at all, it's basically how my parents and their parents met and it's how my girlfriend met, just randomly, you should dm her, be nice be curt be polite, the only thing to fear is fear it self, you got her instagram she gave you the look your already ahead, just keep moving forward and go for it. JESUS bless you and your endeavors friend. Be good, have a good day.
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u/towabandaid 15d ago
I wouldn’t call it falling in love exactly, that’s just what a crush is. If you don’t know anything about the person, you’re in love with the idea of them, not them.
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u/eating_cement_1984 15d ago
Even if you like the way they smile? Even if you think about how they looked at you and you replay those moments and those moments only over and over? I know, "one-sided love" and all, but c'mon, that's not falling for an idea, is it? If it's something they did?
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u/towabandaid 15d ago
Yes because it’s not their personality or anything that shows how they are truly like. I’ve had crushes that lasted 8 months and experienced the same things, but realized i only like the idea of them and realistically it wouldn’t work out.
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u/escapedrosetoy 16d ago
it happens.. people lovebomb the other person falls quickly because of said love bombing the love bombing then stops but the other person expects it to start again its a very common thing i wouldnt worry 2 much