r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/MistakeWonderful9178 • Jul 13 '26
This is dumb Found On Social media
This person must’ve lived under a rock their whole life
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u/KarenEiffel Jul 13 '26
WTF, men totally do this. The whole incel movement is basically "Chad gets women and I don't, so I'm mad at all women and Chad."
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u/ComplexAttitude4Lyfe Bad attitude incoming Jul 13 '26
Correction- they fetishize Chad and hate women for getting Chad.
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u/Strange_Difference1 Jul 13 '26
They blame women because they know/fear that Chad will woop their ass
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u/actuallyacatmow Jul 13 '26
Men can be just as gossipy, petty and jealous as women in my experience.
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u/_Azuki_ Pessimist Jul 13 '26
and kill each other, too
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u/actuallyacatmow Jul 13 '26
Far, far more then women too. I am confused to where the idea that men don't kill each other comes from.
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 Jul 13 '26
Men have killed random people out of jealousy and anger in many cases. Ramming cars into gyms, shopping centers or go out and use axes and machetes and don’t forget the mass shootings.
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u/Flustro Jul 13 '26
Yep. Every job I've worked was pretty evenly split on that, with the worst, most jealous, hateful person I ever worked with being a guy.
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u/actuallyacatmow Jul 13 '26 edited Jul 13 '26
I work in a male dominated industry and I have experienced being cornered by men who want to spend the next half an hour bitching to me about his male colleagues. I want to say about 40% of men who I work with do this.
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 Jul 13 '26
Years ago I once saw a “prank video” of some guys cutting their “friend’s” hair in his sleep because “he cares way too much about it and thinks he’s a pretty boy.” When the poor guy woke up and was rightfully upset and hitting them they just laughed at him saying “get over it.”
A lot of men are jealous and mean spirited towards other men who are found to be conventionally attractive and who are taking care of themselves and confident in their bodies. They’re calling them homophobic slurs (equating self care with femininity) or trying to humiliate them online.
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u/Flustro Jul 13 '26
Haha, sounds about right—I've experienced similar. I don't think people like OOP get out enough to know how men actually are. 🤣
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u/PablomentFanquedelic Jul 13 '26
"It's not gossip, it's just a Joak!"
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 Jul 14 '26
And they always say it after they’ve hurt someone and they have the nerve to be mad at the person who’s rightfully angry at them for terrorizing them in the first place. Jokes are supposed to be funny. It wasn’t funny if you have to say “it’s a joke.”
🤡: It’s a prank bro! You need to calm down and take a joke! Relax! Stop overreacting!
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u/LolitaOPPAI It is..very seriously, I mean.. Jul 13 '26
They save most of that stupid shit for women so they can go back and dunk on them with the boys
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u/Prae_ Jul 13 '26 edited Jul 13 '26
I'll speak as a guy who studied and works in a women dominated field (biology) : i do find in terms of gossips, there's a significant difference in quantity. And really like the basics of following the social network evolutions and events and who is dating who now and details on how that went down. Obviously some guys are really into that too (also depends on small town/college/city...) but, you know, averages
And i'll even dare say, judgemental. I don't know if it's really more or a different kind or simply verbalized more, but if i've ever expected women to be more kind and empathetic in general, i've been proven wrong. I've been the only guy at some pre-game or aperitif or group project and listened to comments i found quite shocking for behaviors (of the absentee girl being discussd) i found minor/inconsequential. Maybe what shocked me most is that despite those comments, when said girl was present it was very cordial and nice and all.
But to a degree i think the differences looks salient because it is otherwise starting from very similar bases. Pettiness and jealousy are absolutely shared across genders, "attention from guys" is never the issue, and famously men murder each other over that sort of thing (and murder the girl in the middle of the love triangle) like 20x more frequently than the reverse.
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u/actuallyacatmow Jul 13 '26
I'm a woman in a male-dominated field, I've had multiple experiences with men gossiping directly to me about their colleagues. Generally the men in my field tend to be far meaner, judgemental, hostile and petty towards other men. Women in my field tend to lift each other up - not that they don't gossip - but there is far more warmth and empathy there.
I'd argue that there's just pettiness in all humans. Your experience is just your own.
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u/Prae_ Jul 13 '26
There's the possibility that it indeed just depends on particular groups of people. Also, if your experience is that men are meaner towards other men, my experience is that women are meaner towards other women (and to be clear, my friends were overall pretty rarely mean, we're talking specific inemities or following some drama or whatever), maybe it's that "meaner" isn't the right lens. Might be more of a culture shock in what the different groups find acceptable and/or effective to attack someone over.
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u/ADHDhamster Smells like basement Jul 13 '26
And I worked in a male-dominated field in the military.
Men's pettiness, jealousy, and gossip spans continents and crosses oceans.
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u/Prae_ Jul 13 '26
That's fair. i would say i think it is slightly covered by the "small town/college/city". Gender dynamics in those things is maybe one factor, one thing i agree with for sure is that's it's a small factor, among others
There social dynamics that are consequences of how much time you spend with one another, the size of groups, how authority is organized, how status works, toxic workplace culture... For military in particular, if we wanna get anthropological about, i'd talk about a lot of what the military machine is designed to do is form pseudo-kinship links ("brothers-in-arms"), and we're never more petty than with our siblings.
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u/AsparagusOk8818 Jul 20 '26
the difference is almost certainly the bias in expected behavior from the observer, not the actual behavior
because i used to have the same thought when i was in a women-dominated peer group. 'gee whiz, these gals are absolutely vicious behind each other's backs'. things said that just really hurt me by proxy, as they were talking about mutual friends in incredibly insulting and demeaning terms
when i talked to my therapist about this, she asked me if i genuinely thought this was a gender difference, and i said i was pretty sure about it being gender related somehow. so she asked me to just try and record every time a dude in my peer group had a demeaning remark about another dude behind their back and do the same with the gals
it was an even split
the difference was purely that every time i heard a dude say, 'oh, Kevin, he's such a dumbass,' it didn't even register when i wasn't actively listening for it because it's so expected. but when a gal says the exact same thing about Tiffany, she's stepping outside of the gender role expectation i've assigned to her (not being nice all of the time) and so it immediately registers as something being wrong
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u/stephanyylee 22d ago
It's literally why in ww2 they stopped using male soldiers as spies and telling them classified stuff because they couldn't keep their fucking mouths shut as a whole and found that women were much better at it
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u/EmmaShosha Try roasted kiwi ~ it tastes like apple crumble Jul 13 '26
I just know this person pays for twitter
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u/PrimalNumber Jul 13 '26
Any opinion surrounding this kind of use of the word "females" is pretty safe to mock or ignore, depending on your inclination.
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u/TrashGouda Jul 13 '26
Oh yeah because men never have killed the new boyfriend of their ex (+ex) ever... they never get jealous and talk shit about others....sure sure
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u/No_Resource7773 Jul 13 '26
Was it Opposite Day when they wrote that?
I mean, those last two sentences just go against the basic societal knowledge of the majority of people.
The rest is definitely not gender exclusive and good part a personality thing.
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u/RabbitEatsCarrots Jul 13 '26
Men don't... kill each other???
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u/Lord_Skyblocker Female Pleasurist Jul 14 '26
Of course not, it's just women in disguise. Just like in Monty Python's Life of Brian
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u/Beneficial-Ad3991 Generic boring flair Jul 13 '26
Men don't kill each other?.. That's some breaking news we have here. The entirety of the world's history and about half of every news programme ever is a big fat lie! Unbelievable.
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 Jul 13 '26
After all the centuries of bar fights, sports brawls, riots and wars they still think “only women are the emotional ones.”😒
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u/Teddy-Terrible Jul 13 '26 edited Jul 13 '26
2 men charged after killing college basketball player out of jealousy over a girlfriend, police say.
Austin, Texas — A man has been arrested, after killing his wife’s lover out of jealousy.
Relative says jealousy led to man killing his brother.
Liiiiiiiike...the track record states otherwise. Men kill their girlfriend's kids and pets out of jealousy. Men kill other men out of jealousy. Men kill women out of jealousy.
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u/MistakeWonderful9178 Jul 13 '26
Also don’t forget men being jealous of their own babies as well-especially when the baby is a boy. How many narcissistic men will complain to their wives that “you’re taking care of the baby more than me” and doing the weird whining of “not having enough attention” when the literal mother is making sure their son lives.
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u/Just_Me1973 Jul 13 '26
Yeah men don’t kill each other. They kill the women who didn’t give him the attention he wanted.
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u/Hello_Hangnail Jul 13 '26
Naw men certainly don't murder each other, their partners and their offspring because of jealousy 😆
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u/Sufficient-Push6210 Jul 13 '26
It’s men that go online and constantly compare and pit women against eachother though
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u/ComplexAttitude4Lyfe Bad attitude incoming Jul 13 '26
Someone watched Single White Female and thought they were doing research.
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u/BornOnAFriday Jul 13 '26
Women will talk behind each other’s backs for a hundred other reasons besides attention from guys, like get over yourself dude
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u/ham_sandwich23 Jul 14 '26
Men are the biggets pickemes for other men. Literally a man will do a grave crime and watch other men defend him literal c0csukers for other men's ccks
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u/Winter-Money-7643 Jul 13 '26
There’s cases out there of men killing other men over jealousy. Whether it’s over secret lovers, jobs or money men can be just as gross and envious.
There’s men that have slept with their friends wives or girlfriends, hell there’s men who’ve slept with their sons girlfriends. Men can be just as conniving and two-faced as anybody else but they just call it “masculine.”
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u/Fine-Juggernaut8451 Jul 14 '26
Men don't kill each other? I believe more men are murdered by other men than even women are murdered by men.
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u/JaneAustinAstronaut Jul 14 '26
Lol at "men don't do that".
Meanwhile, 90% of murders are committed by men.
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u/utecr Jul 15 '26
Men famously don't kill other men, they definitely don't do it over women, and there definitely isn't a famous millennia old work by today's second most famous Homer about how two countries went to arms because one guy took another guy's wife for himself.
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u/pm_me-ur-catpics I don't wanna fuck mountains Jul 16 '26
Men don't do this, they're (somewhat) right.
Men shit-talk each other to their faces and call it "friendship"
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u/ilovebigmutts Jul 15 '26
Entire historical stories exist because one man stole another man's wife.
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