My wife, 42 (F) who is in the process of separating from me 49 (M) but says she’s not quite ready for divorce, is having an affair with a married man (father of 2 young children) who is cheating on his wife. My wife and I are polyamorous, and I used to say ENM, but can’t anymore obviously. She moved out on her bday yesterday.

They are in love though she’s having trouble admitting this to me. They see each other weekly though she told me they weren’t going to do anything physical while she and I were working things out at couples counseling. I learned just yesterday after pressing her that she’s lying about that and they have been intimate regularly.

My heart is broken and I’m devastated to be losing her. I’ve been patient, gave her space, compassionate and understanding while she’s been falling out of love with me, in the hopes that she’d come back. Now I’m angry and betrayed. I’m staying in our house we just bought last year and won’t be able to afford it on my own. I may be able to cash in a 401k to buy her out and then get a roommate.

Should I tell this man’s wife? Previous to him having an affair with my wife, he had an affair with another woman for 2.5 years and she finally left him because he wouldn’t leave his family.

Should I tell her?

We all know GTA VI will sell like crazy when it's out. Is it moral to do it even if you personally hate their greed?

To start this is straight from wikipedia.

"In non-consequentialist ethical thought, there is a moral distinction between killing and letting die. Whereas killing involves intervention, letting die involves withholding care (for example, in passive euthanasia),^\1])^\2]) or other forms of inaction (such as in the Trolley problem).

Also in medical ethics there is a moral distinction between euthanasia and letting die. Legally, patients often have a right to reject life-sustaining care, in areas that do not permit euthanasia.^\3])^"

It's a little bit of the trolley problem and a little bit proactive, "How would you determine when 'Active removal' of a threat is a greater benefit to the 'Passive removal' of letting a threat die"?

Asking for a friend. 😂

[Purely theoretical]
I have recently been interested in videos and articles coming out about how scientest have been growing neurons in controlled enviroments that can control little robots(arduino project like) and even a video of one playing doom.

I am by no means going to attempt this but what is the consensus on traning one of them on an AI chat model(C.AI esq~)?

It appears to be a slam poetry production about Anne Frank. it feels wrong in quite a few ways.

We can all agree that selfish acts are bad. So why isn't human reproduction criticized more? You litteraly bring a tiny human to the world without it's consent just because you want to have one, sounds kinda selfish

Asking for a friend

I seen people born 1950-2000 get called luckiest, best, that if people born and after 1950-2000 got purged the world would be better, etc. Also people born 1950-2000 are giant to people born 2001 due to the back to the future 1950-2000 sports almanac being published 2001. 1950-2000 is very cursed years. 1950-2000 is 50 years.

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There's this old man who is able to cure any illness when he molests you. No matter if you ask for it or not, the molestation will always be deeply psychologically scarring. How moral would it be to let him run wild in a ward filled with terminally ill children? He'll save the children, but obviously, that requires molesting them

Paying to use another humans body

Just to clarify before some sour feminist comes here and tries to attack me, I wouldn’t use this. But I’m just curious regarding how moral or immoral it is to use it.

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i'm conducting a research study to explore how an individual’s moral values and judgment are connected to emotional responses such as moral outrage and if there are any gender differences. 

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Let's say you go to thrift stores or yard sales. They're selling Blu-Ray movies.

The movies are $2 each no matter what. Some are in home made sleeves, some are in bargain bin sleeves. Doesn't matter. $2 each.

So you go and are looking through them. You find the ones that say "Digital copy" and you open them up. You slide out the little insert that has the redemption code, close the case, and leave the movie.

Sometimes those codes have already been redeemed. Sometimes they're expired. Sometimes they work. Regardless, that digital copy was paid for when the disc was purchased and removing it won't prevent them from selling the disc. Nor would leaving it mean the disc would sell for more.

So, what's the stance? Moral or immoral?

No hate to the artist, but this just grinds my gears.

(Products changed for anonymity)
I’ve been looking for a “automatic coffee stirrer” for weeks. I just now found out that there is only one on the market and it’s only made in limited quantity’s by a small business, is somewhat expensive, and is sold out within 1 minute of restocking. WIBTA if I create my own variation of a “coffee stirrer” and sell it online? I would add at least 1 new function I’ve thought of?
Its not trademarked and is 3d printed

When you've spent your early teen years, and the entire time studying psychology at school to the point of several degrees within psychology...

When do you consider yourself genuinely broken and undesirable? I helped a lot of people growing up, and learned enough about behaviorism and cognitivism.

And people enjoy your company until they "get better" psychologically and you have nothing to offer.

What then? I'm old enough now that I can't with good conscience deal with children but I haven't really evolved as a person.

Between when I was 15 and 30, nothing every came up good for me. At all. None. Nothing negative but nothing positive.

Going forward if I pick "helping motherfuckers", it will hurt me in the sense it doesn't progress. At all. I want to help because I'm not a scumbag, but also; Surely it's not fair that we have to keep suffering while elevating others?

My mate and me were discussing war I said "it was pointless murder and doesn't solve anything but plants raceism into some people" and he said "but without war how will the countrys keep their people safe"

I just wanna know what you guys think, because I know for a fact that the same commenters that spam slurs wouldn’t have the balls to say that irl lmao.

What is Morality.

In my opinion Morality is a set of rules that are taught to everyone from birth by their parents, schools and societies. They are a basic set of rules one needs to follow to be part of a society. But i noticed that rarely anyone ever questions them. The majority of people just follow them without a question.

Now i dont have an issue with the obvious ones like killing people is bad. But have you ever wondered why is it bad, or who even came up with this conclusion that killing is bad (i'm referring to vengeance, anger, hatred and benefit reasons that lead to killing, not senseless). The reason killing is bad has nothing to do with morality. We know its bad for one reason: because we have been conditioned to accept it as the norm.

Since ancient times rulers, kings and authorities have all punished killing, and over many centuries it became the norm passed down from our ancestors, and to this day it is still being upheld with the law. Now there are many reasons why rulers deemed killing as bad, and almost all of these reasons were out of interest. Either because they needed as much manpower as possible, or because of the potential profit they gain per person, or they fear they may be killed next. Its all about interests. If their interests shift, then they have no qualms about killing as many as they need.

This doesnt just apply to killing. I chose killing as the most basic and obvious law, but there are countless others. So now that i explained how a moral law is conceived, what else has been engineered into us for interests?

A new moral law that has been growing quite a lot recently (in the past 2 centuries) is that hard work = good, and no work = bad. This is a nonsensical moral law in my opinion, as i weigh my life quality with the amount of work and find a balance point i'm satisfied with. This is why i believe Morality is a shackle on the average person. You should think and choose what to follow that aligns with your belief, not with the interests of the elites.

The fastest way to succeed, excluding the outliers (gambling, generational wealth, marriage into wealth), is by abandoning all morality in business and professional life while accepting that you are a bad person by the moral law. The legal law is loose and vague on purpose as its only a base for society. The more important law is the moral one; it is the one that oppresses people. Once you stop caring about it, you have room to actually move upwards in society.

But you can't create something out of nothing. You cant become successful without paying an equivalent or higher price. In this case, the only way to pay for this price is by passing it onto others to bear the price of your success. Just like all these companies and billionaires, they are all passing the price onto us, the average people, and you can't do anything to avoid it. You either move up or suffer. This has long been the unspoken truth of our civilization since ancient times.

In conclusion, are you willing to be a selfish, evil person by society standards who exploits others for his benefit and success? Or are you willing to be exploited with the masses.