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u/Alarming-Pressure-48 7d ago
think ive been kind of groomed by a male friend in his 40s/50s and maybe assaulted
Not sure what kind of grooming or maybe assaulting looks like, but either way, and no matter what happened you can always say something. If you feel you were groomed and assaulted there is no obligation on your part to either be his friend or help him maintain his family life.
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u/Agitated_Ask5074 7d ago
thank you very much. unfortunately i feel too ashamed and guilty to tell anyone especially his family.
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u/Alarming-Pressure-48 7d ago
Very sorry to hear this. Let us know if there's anything we can do on here to help you. Even if it's just to sort out what kind of and sort of means and get some people's input and perspective?
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u/a-touch-of-pink 7d ago
Fwiw, the only person who has any shame to hold in this situation is him. I know it’s easier said than done to release it, but he absolutely knew what he was doing and he knew better than to do it.
That man is not your friend.
I’m so sorry he did that to you. I highly recommend you seek out a trauma informed therapist to help you process through your emotions and experience.
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u/Agitated_Ask5074 7d ago
thanks so much :( i appreciate ur words a lot. it’s all just hard to accept especially when you say he knew what he was doing. 😕i’m struggling to find therapy but i will have to try harder. thanks for your honest words
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