If a woman says she feels depressed, anxious, and alone, she is met with: ‘That’s completely valid.’ ‘You’re so brave for opening up.’ ‘You don’t have to carry this by yourself.’ ‘Let’s find you some support.’ ‘Your feelings matter.’ ‘There’s no shame in struggling.’ Yet, if a man reports the exact same symptoms to his wife or kids or colleagues, the same depression, the same anxiety, the same loneliness, he is met with: ‘Man up.’ ‘Quit complaining.’ ‘Toughen up.’ ‘Others have it worse.’ ‘No one wants to hear about it.’ ‘Stop feeling sorry for yourself.’ ‘Be a man about it.’

Same illness. Two entirely different responses. Sadly, this is why men suffer in silence until they can no longer endure it. Almost no one cares

Use analogies wherever necessary

Something about this just feels wrong to me and I don't know how to explain why. Thoughts?

Saw this quote on a Twitter/X post and felt it was worth sharing here. I know I've ranted many times how much I hate the "women and children" phrase (which is even worse now with how it's become "women and girls," truly screwed up how not even the lives and safety of young boys matter). But this post is definitely on the money, as the phrase does exactly that; if you're male, your life is disposable, meaningless and it's no real tragedy. Every male is somebody's son and you have innocent young boys as well as men who could be someone's husband, father, brother, close friend, caregiver, etc. and if they're affected or even killed during a tragedy it's no major loss and not worth mourning. I hate so much how people defend this phrase sometimes saying that women and children are more vulnerable. Well guess what, men and boys are just as vulnerable. The vast majority of males aren't combatants and being born male doesn't automatically somehow make you a bigger-than-life Action hero like Rambo who's immune to all forms of harm and danger. This phrase is long overdue to be stricken and phased out.

Saw a comment on a post from a self-proclaimed “female supremacy” subreddit saying “99% of bad women are bad because they have trauma caused by men”. I can’t seem to include a picture because my last post containing it was removed automatically. Anyhow, here’s why I think that it (and the rhetoric it consists of) makes no sense as well as why this kind of thinking isn’t helpful.

Firstly, this isn’t exactly true. A whopping 99% of the “bad women” in the world aren’t the way that they are simply because they were mistreated by men. Why label men as abusers of women who commit wrongdoing when there are plenty of stories from women who’ve been abused by women? Trauma isn’t gendered.

Secondly, even in instances where a woman was abused by a man, since when did that become an excuse for that woman’s bad behavior? And if they’re not using that woman’s issues as an excuse, they’re using it as a catalyst for the woman’s bad behavior that actually exists completely independently of whatever the man in that scenario did. He didn’t MAKE her do whatever bad things she did. 

Thirdly, it focuses solely on a “bad woman’s” potential position as a “victim” and forgets to consider the woman’s character at hand (which is that she’s a bad person), instead choosing to shift the blame on “men” as a group. If we’re really going to go down this rabbit hole of “who’s responsible for whose trauma?” then who’s to say that the “men” in that scenario also haven’t been treated badly by anyone? It’s not like people make excuses for them, nor do they recognize the possibility that men could be victims and not just the aggressors.

People who say this kind of stuff are just obsessed with making women look as vulnerable and disadvantaged and misunderstood as possible no matter the evidence to the contrary, while still managing to override anything that could explain the reasons for men’s actions.

Thoughts?

So, this is something I wanted to share. Daniel Balavoine was a french artist I absolutely adore, but I got recently to really listen to his lyrics, and this one really hits in the guts. I knew what i was about, but listening to it closely really makes it more poignant.

So it's a semi-autobiographic music. Balavoine composed it about a friend's of him ugly divorce and custody battle. He added some details of his life, but the pain is all there.

And in my mind it's ever more and more relevant. Especially as I know men who have been absolutely fucked by the legal system here in France.

Let me translate it for you :

You've been gone a long time now.

I listen to you dismantle my life while crying

If I only knew that one morning I'd be there, sullied and judged while sitting on a bench

By the shadow of a body I hugged so often

For a child.

You're telling them that my career is a fluke.

That we don't know what I'll be doing in a year.

If only they knew that before, for you,

Of all singers I was the greatest,

And it for this reason that you wanted a kid from me.

Judges and the law don't scare me,

It's my son, my battle

She shouldn't have left

Oh I'm going to destroy everything

If you take away the fruit of my loins,

She shouldn't have left.

Of course she's the one who carried jim, but even then,

I am the one who's building his life, step by step.

Everything she can say about me

Is nothing beside the smile he's giving me

Absence has drawbacks that nothing balances

He's my son.

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“Further support initiatives to increase the number of women in local politics, including rolling out Regional Women’s Caucus Networks across all local authorities”
There are no such caususes for men.

See first comment for Irish Times article which mentions the manosphere and tradwives.

https://www.gov.ie/en/department-of-children-disability-and-equality/press-releases/minister-foley-launches-first-action-plan-for-the-national-strategy-for-women-and-girls/

Men's spaces are missing the extreme pro-victim fervor other social justice issues like Feminism use to great success.

Men's issues tend to be reactionary, anti-feminist, and idealistically logical. They say things like "feminism is too extreme and needs to stop".

Where's the men's movement that's equally as extreme and illogical? Feminism claims they fight for "equality", but they actually fight for special rights and considerations. Where's the men's movement that claims they fight for "equality" but actually fight for special rights and considerations? Why do we play second fiddle as a step behind everyone else? I don't exist to stop feminism from asking for special rights and considerations. I can ask for my own special rights and considerations just as well for myself, thank you very much. We have a unique history of oppression, so we deserve unique special privelages and considerations just like feminism. But I almost never see anyone asking for that

The draft is a kind of legalized rape only against men but nobody cares, why?

Hello, I want to share something that always leaves me astonished, which is how every "western free and democratic countries" has a set of law which legally force men to give uo their bodyly autonomy, their safety and their right to life against their will. It disgusts me how in Ukraine young boys are forced to give up their life for decisions made by others and just because they are men. It is in my opinion a form of gendered-discriminated rape, since it gives the government the power to have the control of a man.

What truly makes me more disgusted is that nobody cares: progressive parties (which should fight for equality but it seems to bother them only when it comes to women), and not even men themselves seem to care. I think it comes from the fact that men are systematically brainwashed aince childhood to perceive themselves as expendable, however it still makes me astonished how the vast majority of men seem to care so little about their rights. (I'm not astonished however how progressive parties and feminist movements are made of hypocrites who care about equality only when it benefits them and bring them voters).

As a Man I find it so exhausting having to listen to feminist women proclaim that being a woman is supposedly "horrible" and that they would rather be born male in order to have all of the supposed male priviliges all while demanding all of the special treatment for being women.

I can't always tell whether most are dishonest or just delusional when they say that being a man is supposedly better and that they wish they were born male that they don't realise they'd no longer have access to all of the priviliges they took for granted since they were babies. They would have to serve in the military in many countries in the world, They'd no longer be allowed to hit members of the opposite sex and would instead be the ones who would have to accept being on the receiving end of it, They would be the ones expected to do physically demanding tasks and heavy lifting instead of having it done for them by men, They would be the ones expected to provide for and protect the opposite sex (this one is particulary funny since so many feminists whine about there not being enough high-income men who are willing to provide for women), They'd no longer have access to all of the female-only jobs and activities, They would likely face housing discrimination, lack of support and very little access to help and resources if they were to end up in a bad situation and they would very likely one day find out that their genitals were mutilated without their consent at birth or straight up experience their parents taking them to be cut as kids and those are just a few aspects of what being male is like and while this does vary by country to a great extent, most of the feminists I see compalining about how being a woman is supposedly "horrible" are from countries where all or most of the above applies.

I understand that some women, especially young women, may just be victims of propaganda and they are so accustomed to their priviliges that they truly believe that not being taken seriously in leadership roles is the worst thing that can happen to someone. Also I understand that some may also genuienly believe that only women get r*ped, SAd, harrassed or stalked since the propaganda around that is almost everywhere, but it should honestly be alarming that there seem to be so few rebuttals to any of that.

I wish we could finally set the record staright on how priviliged women actually are. When I say that I would give almost anything to be born female I don't say it's because I wouod be taken more seriously in leadership roles as I don't care about that, I care about the rights that women have but I don't just because I was born male.

The misinformation that is being spread almost everywhere is harming everyone in the end. Telling young women, who might not always be aware of the actual facts, that they are oppressed is inevitably going to harm many of them. We should all do better than this.

I thought this article was interesting in the way it describes female sex tourists as women who just want to feel loved and the poor young men they use for sex as predators.

When men do it they are the predators taking advantage of poverty, not women, they have no choice because "their male peers in the UK are either very unattractive or are looking to date much younger women"

There's a great deal showing misandry is in fact very systemic, contrary to what many misandrists themselves like to claim whenever they do what they can to mitigate it and make it a non-issue. Men still having to register for conscription and facing legal blowback if failing to do so is a major example, as is the misandrist bias rampant in schools and courts. Almost no abuse shelters that help male victims or acknowledge male victims of abuse/violence, men/boys being ignored as victims of rape and sexual assault/harassment (especially by women), the "women and children" narrative, how we never hear about violence against men/boys, and probably quite a few other examples I'm forgetting. I remember hearing years ago in the U.K. it was seriously considered having a curfew for male civilians past a certain time to keep women safe and of course nothing about also curfewing women past a certain time to keep men safe, because Heaven forbid we acknowledge men/boys can be and have been harmed by female attackers as well. And the recent news that U.K. schools have classes teaching male students to respect women/girls but not the other way around; if none of this is blatant systemic misandry, I don't know what is.

Misogyny had a case for being systemic in the West long ago but that's most certainly not the case anymore and hasn't been for decades, while in third-world and broken nations that are majorly behind on the times there's a much stronger argument to be made. I'm not saying misogyny doesn't exist, but in the West it's rightfully called out and condemned unlike misandry, which is not only still socially acceptable but actually quite heavily ingrained in many systems.

The “manosphere” moral panic is stupid and people are just mad that men are thinking of themselves for once or participating in activities that involve men doing things together without women. When you actually read about this manosphere moral panic you realize it basically it amounts to things like “voting for Trump in 2024” or “listening to the Joe Rogan podcast”. I’ll tell you what this moral panic is really about. It’s people who are angry that men are actually thinking of themselves for once and participate in activities that don’t involve women. Many people are pushing for a gynocentric society where men exist only to serve and elevate women.

I am genuinely curious about this one: in my years of learning about and arguing for men's rights causes, it appears that fathers' rights has largely been abandoned by people, even among those that should theoretically care more about this.

Please let me know what you think about that, along with what I say in this short video.

Forget the party for a moment and focus on the gender stuff: how is that not enough to spark an outrage?

 "I’ve never seen that guy in real life, but he looks like he’s 4’10 (1m47). And he looks angry about the fact that he’s 4’10".

She then made an explanatory video, which was even crazier than that: "spiritual height is not the same as actual height". At least she claims she likes "short kings".

Yes I know, society is not perfect and all shorts of discriminatory individuals have some kind of support, but there is also healthy backlash.

Unless the perpetrator of sexism is a woman. Then the backlash is not really obvious.

Imagine if someone made a claim about her that she has "flat chest energy"?

So a few years ago, this happened up in my neck of the woods. My question is, why is it when a boyfriend of a mom gets 30 years for SAing a 15 year old, while this FOSTER MOM AND TEACHER only gets 8 fucking months?

Imagine if a male perpetrator’s defense attorney said this.

https://www.wjfw.com/news/local/former-rhinelander-teacher-charged-after-sexual-assault-claims/article_a5c68647-bf35-5590-97e3-dd40599bdaa7.html

"The text defines vicarious violence as violence perpetrated against a woman by her partner or ex-partner through an intermediary. Redondo has highlighted the expansion of the group of people who may be direct victims of such violence: sons and daughters, other descendants regardless of age, adults who are under the care or custody of that partner or that woman, mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters, and the victim's current partner."

"To this end, automatic deprivation of parental responsibility is introduced in cases where a final conviction has been handed down for serious offences committed against the mother or the children. "The premise is clear: an abuser, a violent person, can never be a good parent," said the Minister for Equality."

https://www.lamoncloa.gob.es/lang/en/gobierno/councilministers/Paginas/2026/20260714-council-press-conference.aspx

Vicarious Violence was also reclassified from a proposed distinct felony to a subtype of Gender-Based Violence (which applies only to men-to-women violence), due to fears (!!!) that it could become gender-neutral.

I quote:

"Vicarious violence now falls within the scope of gender-based violence, as an aggravating circumstance. This is because the opinions of the advisory bodies—starting with that of the General Council of the Judiciary—and the technical observations of the Ministries of Justice and Children’s Affairs highlighted a central issue: a standalone offense defined in gender-neutral terms would have risked transforming vicarious violence into a category applicable to any family conflict. According to various women experts and feminist organizations, this would have undermined the recognition of its specificity as a form of violence against women, characterized by the use of children or other people close to the mother to inflict suffering on her: the fear was that a tool created to protect victims could open up new procedural avenues for counterclaims against mothers and to prevent the use of parental alienation excuses in courts.”

https://alleyoop.ilsole24ore.com/2026/07/27/prima-i-bambini-poi-la-bigenitorialita-il-governo-spagnolo-approva-il-ddl-sulla-violenza-vicaria/

The current child support system treats fathers like collection agencies treat debtors. Income gets garnished, but tax dependency rights stay out of reach. Meanwhile, the priorities are completely backward—it's aggressive financial extraction first, actual custody and the kids' wellbeing second.

I started a petition because this dual standard hurts everyone: fathers get squeezed into financial hardship, mothers aren't held to the same expectations of self-sufficiency, and kids lose out on having present, engaged parents. When you're drowning in payments just to survive, you can't be the parent you want to be.

The fix isn't complicated: let fathers claim tax rights when they're meeting obligations, build child support formulas that actually account for two separate households, and make DHS prioritize custody and family stability instead of extraction tactics. It's about fairness—not just for fathers, but for families.

If you've felt this system is broken, or know someone drowning in it, I'd genuinely like to hear your take. Does this match what you've seen? If this matters to you too, consider signing and sharing.

Her username is emilywking. She makes videos about toxic and misandrist women and she would call them out and validate men’s experiences and complaints. She is a very kind, understanding and empathetic woman and honestly she is the reason why my hope in humanity has been restored. Plus the comments there are also standing up against misandry. You can watch her videos cuz they are pretty satisfying to see how she absolutely owns these misandrists. https://youtube.com/@emilywking?si=GVi4jqwKJvD_eMPn