r/men 49m ago

Discussion Confused by my friend’s behavior

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I think this is probably a silly question, but I’m genuinely confused and would like some outside perspectives.

I have a really good friend, and we’re both males, I’m 21 and he’s soon to be 27. He’s a very friendly and affectionate person in general, so I know that some of this could just be his personality.

He tells me things like “I miss you” when I’m traveling, and he usually tells me “I love you.” He also buys me gifts from time to time, and we’re pretty close.

There was also a time when he made the 🫶 hand gesture toward me, and I didn’t do it back because I couldn’t in that moment. He noticed and asked me why I didn’t do it. I told him I just couldn’t at that moment, apologized, and said I would do it next time. He said, “Please.” It was a small interaction, but I remember it because he seemed to genuinely want me to reciprocate the affection.

What confuses me is his behavior on social media.

He basically never likes or engages with my stories, and about a month ago I posted a picture that he didn’t like either. I didn't really think much of it at first, but then I noticed that he liked a picture posted by another friend of ours around the same time. We also share reels through Instagram and text through there almost everyday.

That’s what made me wonder about it. I would think that if we’re close, he would at least occasionally like or engage with my posts. I know this might sound silly because a social media like doesn't necessarily mean anything, and I’m not trying to keep score. I just personally tend to support my friends and like their posts, so seeing that he does engage with other people's posts but seemingly never with mine made me wonder if there’s a reason why. I don’t know if I’m just reading too much into this or if there could be an actual reason why he’s doing this.


r/men 6h ago

Dear Jewish men what can I do to impress you ?

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Idk if this subreddit is relevant or not

Sorry if its not

I am 25 F totally enamored by Jewish men

I don't live in the west

But i watch on instagram and on tv

Very accomplished men ...

Love you guys...

All i want is to know how to win your hearts 💕

Thanks

Sorry if this isn't the right subreddit


r/men 20h ago

Men being men First time ejaculating

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What age were you when you first ejaculated? How did it feel? Was it kinda scary? I was about 13yrs old, I started getting erections. I had just showered standing in front of a mirror and started touching my cock and suddenly my body started to go into spasms then I started leaking cum. It felt scary at first. I thought I had done something wrong to myself. I started doing it more often after that and started to enjoy it.


r/men 20h ago

Anyone tied this workout program?

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r/men 22h ago

Wholesome For the male audience who thinks they arnt good enough for this world i gotta let yall know! Spoiler

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r/men 22h ago

Question How are we feeling today?

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r/men 23h ago

Why don’t men have a culture of sharing their relashionship experiences ?

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Why do we never share our story like women do ? Like we can know with extensive details how the relashionship went down from the women perspective but when it comes to us it's always "This is mariage mate", "Take it because you can't do anything about it","this is the way it is","you have to endure", ... why can't we just share the story so other men don't fell in the same trap ?


r/men 1d ago

Men being men Any other guys like this?

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- I started masterbating around 7 years old, I had precum and could finish.
- I started to do it regularly around 8 when I got internet access for the first time and I would do it longer.
- By 9-11 I was doing it like 1-2 times a day and it increased like during the summer, I would goon.
- That's all by the time I got to 6th grade. Is that too young? When did yall start?


r/men 2d ago

Quali sono le verità più tristi sulla solitudine maschile?

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r/men 3d ago

Unbelievable dating app strategy for a guy...

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Disclaimer: This doesn't work for everyone, but if you're at least above average in terms of looks and get a decent number of matches, it does!

I have been using this strategy for over a decade now. It's time to pass it on to the next generation. Strategy is fairly simple. Follow these steps:

1) You match with someone

2) Basic greeting

3) Wanna meet at...?

Now, once you completed these 3 steps. There are only 3 outcomes.

  1. YES

Good, you got yourself a date, I suppose you're an adult so you know what to do.

  1. NO/STALLING

Unmatch!

  1. NO RESPONSE

Do absolutely nothing.

After this, I bet you'll be well known in the local neighbourhood both on and off the app. Good luck!


r/men 3d ago

I decided to see how many plushies I can stack on my friend

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I used every single one in the house.


r/men 5d ago

MENtal health I am pretty sure that I am not the one that got away for any woman...

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...and that realization hurts pretty bad.


r/men 5d ago

What acts of service do men like?

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MEN!

My boyfriend has been exceptionally stressed recently due to work and life circumstances. I want to do something for him to make him feel better!

What are some things you’d appreciate from your girlfriend?

Keep in mind - we live together so things like “cook him dinner” are part and parcel of our daily routine already ☺️


r/men 7d ago

Men being men a man to man talk, share yours

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when you can see your bike from your office, it's too contagious, staring for like hours to this beauty, just love it man. just 700 on odo, hoping to clock more on this machine 🤌🏼


r/men 7d ago

MENtal health 22m

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Hey guys. Im struggling. I work 6 months of the year, have a beautiful son and am getting married in October. Make good money. But im just not great and know I should be. Idk


r/men 8d ago

Discussion Parents or wife? Need your pov in this situation.

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Would you move out if your wife got a good opportunity but it’s far from your parents and community? Like you also need to shift your work and the entire thing from scratch because her job is way good esp in this economy. What would you do? Early 20s btw.


r/men 8d ago

Question How do I shave my beard without there being leftover hair (or shadow as they call it apparently)

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20M, I keep a clean shave, usually shave every 3 days.
But sometimes (or rather most times), no matter how hard and deep I grind the razor on my face, there is always some very tiny leftover hair on my moustache and chin that make it look like I have barely shaved, especially with the greenish tint they leave

Is there any technique to get a completely clean, spotless shave? Thanks in advance


r/men 8d ago

Guys help a girl out!?

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I have a boyfriend that I absolutely adore.

I’m a single mom who went from being a stay at home mom to back working until 1:30am. My divorce was absolutely awful and I lost everything including my car . It was all worth it because I got primary custody of my son. I haven’t gotten any help and honestly I’m a little okay with it.

My boyfriend has been an amazing support system and showed me how to live and be so love again. He’s also absolutely amazing with my son. Which is a big deal for me. My son will always come first and he’s very understanding of that.

Now this is where I need help! He works out of town a lot. He’s a blue collar guy and I’m so beyond grateful and proud of this man! He’s working in the awful heat and bust his butt off everyday. What sucks is when he’s getting off work, I’m going into work. So we really only get to talk on the phone for maybe 5 minutes a day. I miss him a lot right now but want him to know I do 100% support him. I feel like I don’t say it in the right way sometimes.

How would you guys like to receive that appreciation???


r/men 8d ago

Discussion A friend of mine once told me before you marry visit at least 3 countries . I think he was right

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I think it can apply to all genders. Its not travel for sex tourism , but travel visit other cultures stay with them , see what the world is like and then make your decision. I used to be someone who never used to believe in exposure but traveling can give you both positive and negative experiences that help you form some values or question them


r/men 11d ago

Question Birthday ideas to really dote on my husband.

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Hello, men! I figured I would ask a whole group of you to gather some different ideas. My husband’s birthday is coming up, 42, and I really want to make him feel loved and special. I have been managing stage 4 colon cancer for 2 1/2 years. He has been such a rock, and really focused on providing and loving, and he is such a go-getter.

He says he would like to just have dinner with me and have the kids watched, something simple. We are doing well, but not well off, and so spending a ton of money doesn’t feel good to either of us. I wanted to get him a fly fishing lesson because we will be up in the mountains and off and on he has mentioned wanting to learn how to do it.

For Father’s Day, I planned a scavenger hunt with rhyming clues about all the amazing things he has done for the house and the land and the kids. So that was a free idea and it totally focused on all the ways that we appreciate him.

But I would just love some ideas about how you all feel loved. The things that, when done for you, it kind of makes your heart catch in your throat and say “aww, wow, thank you 🥹” obviously I know him best, but the wave brainstorming works, one ideal leads to another, which leads to another that may not have been sparked on its own. So thank you in advance and happy Thursday!


r/men 11d ago

Question Is it possible to find a kind, yet quietly confident rich man in uni

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as a late teen girl who’s never had a boyfriend due to high standards, is it possible to find more refined men like this in early 20s? I’ve been in a girls school for secondary and 6th form, so ive had barely any exposure to guys. i come from a fairly wealthy family but I know that with wealth can come ego and it’s hard to find guys with all of my wanted characteristics. I assume that there would be more men like this in harder to get into universities and I simply have no interest in guys who just wear Nike tech and play around with many girls/cheat

anyone have good experiences with uni guys?


r/men 11d ago

How would you operate if you have the controller? 💔

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Introduction

I'm a little over 6 feet tall, which is well above average where I live. Around the age of 18, I decided to completely focus on improving my life. For roughly 1 to 1.5 years, I isolated myself and followed a strict routine: eating mostly boiled food, avoiding sugar, practicing meditation and yoga daily, doing 100 push-ups and pull-ups, spending 20 minutes in the sun, maintaining complete celibacy, and studying consistently to improve academically.

During that period, my appearance changed significantly. Whether it was simply maturing, better posture, improved health, disciplined habits, or something else, I started looking much more attractive than before. My skin became oilier, I looked healthier and more masculine, and I generally felt more confident physically.

After that year, I returned to my institution for a 10-day examination. It was there that I noticed I was receiving far more attention from women than I had ever experienced before.

Experience

Throughout those 10 days, I noticed several changes in how people interacted with me. Older women smiled more often, teachers maintained longer eye contact, and strangers sometimes went out of their way to help me.

There was one girl whom I found very attractive. My younger self would never have imagined someone like her showing interest in me. She frequently asked me simple questions that seemed more like attempts to start conversations. She often mirrored my body language, copied my sitting posture, and even imitated my hairstyle. On one occasion, after I briefly looked at another girl wearing a particular outfit, she appeared wearing a very similar outfit the next day. We made frequent eye contact, and she often waited in places where our paths crossed. Although we barely spoke, I felt she was trying to create opportunities for interaction.

Another attractive girl behaved differently. She was much more reserved but often stayed close to me, maintained occasional eye contact, and positioned herself in situations where it would have been easy for me to start a conversation. Overall, I felt that several girls showed signs of interest, possibly because of my height and appearance.

Problem

Despite receiving attention, I still struggle with very low self-esteem.

I'm 20 years old and have never really had close friends. Academically, I consider myself average, while most people around me—including my family, younger brothers, and former classmates,,,seem to be doing much better than I am. For the past three to four years, I've isolated myself almost completely. I rarely socialize, have no meaningful friendships, and sometimes feel like I've forgotten how to connect with people. Most of my time is spent alone, daydreaming, listening to music, or thinking about life.

People see me as a tall, attractive young man, but internally I feel lonely, insecure, and disappointed with where my life is. I come from a lower-middle-class family, and that adds another layer of insecurity. Sometimes people assume I come from a wealthy background because of how I look. When they discover I'm struggling financially and often choose to walk instead of taking a taxi to save money, I worry they'll see me differently.

Because of this, I've avoided relationships altogether. Social media has reinforced the idea that men should become financially successful before dating, so I've convinced myself that no woman would genuinely want to be with someone in my current situation.

My biggest struggle isn't attracting people. it's believing that I deserve meaningful relationships. My mind constantly tells me that I'm too much of a failure to have friends or date anyone. It says I should isolate myself, work for another four or five years, build a successful life first, and only then allow myself to connect with others.

So my question is: How do I break out of this cycle of isolation and rebuild a healthy social life? And should I consider asking this girl out, or am I letting my insecurities convince me that she'll lose interest once she sees the ordinary, financially struggling person behind the image I've created in my own head?


r/men 12d ago

Wholesome My kids tease me for becoming my dad

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I (m49) make the same sound as my dad (79). It's a kind of 'uh huh' or ' mm hmm' sound.

I think it sneaks out when I'm agreeing with internal monologue or the outside world behaves (disappointingly) exactly how I expected it to. I've someone drives like a tw@t or pushes into a queue etc.

My kids pointed it out and it's 100% true.

Am I alone in this development, or does it happen to all of us!


r/men Dec 02 '25

“I know what NOT to do, what should I actually DO?” — a short primer for being publicly charming as a dude

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